That's exactly it.
And more than anything that's my quandary here.
I feel as though these days I'm good at living in the present as the past and future just cause pain or anxiety. It's taken while to practice it. Drives me mad when people are obsessed with their past (80's nights, listening to the same bands....watching constant re runs of TV shows). And this is almost like a 'you should never meet your hero' and could potentially indeed deflate these wonderful, wistful memories.
She might be right wing, anti vac loon and then - poof - all that is gone.
As we age this is normal. The past will inevitably have memories of pleasure and pain. Many revisit them because in our youth we were young, fit, carefree and had more fun and the energy to do it. Even bad memories we can often look back with some fondness with the passing of time
For humans the mind is our biggest torturer. What we worry about is often never as bad as we fear when it happens.
Hey she could also turn out to be a great person and totally compatible. The memory of the past will still be a good one whatever happens.