People mugging themselves off. Yeah yeah, life is unfair, you're brilliant and perfect - it's them! I can't stand THEM.
Seriously, we all go through unhappiness and yep, life is unfair and often very harsh. False pride is a psychological defence to that - I'm sure I'm better than that.. then the doubts creep in, because you're not much better, if at all - you're just another human, and I reckon 90% of humans work out about as useful and honest as each other - enough to keep the body mind and retain the benefits of your social situation... sometimes a little more, often a little less. The other 10% are in jail or running mega-corps (honest truth, that's how it goes for people who don't care, it's an advantage in business).
Right, so now you're hurt by life, your defence isn't amazing, because people treat you as they always have done, they expect you to take the piss, be unreliable, be a bit selfish, have a laugh about it. They are basically telling you - you are the same as them, no better. You can't go around thinking you are. So you need something else for a defence. The next step is to say - it's "them". Not the ones you are close to. But the ones who aren't.
That's normal human nature. So bloody obvious. You've mugged yourself.
Look - the cause of the unhappiness is, life was unfair and harsh and disappointing. What's the eventual answer? Insisting that it's right to increase the sum total of misery, by picking on another group. Goodness sakes. No.
The answer is to own it. You are going through what everyone else goes through from time to time. Look after yourself, and try to use it to make something better for you and yours - rather than blame other groups.
Point is, I doubt you can get very close to the truth about how to best use yourself, your vote, and your voice, if you keep rubbing that sore spot. It will never get better. You'll just remind yourself how miserable it is. Even when you see it happening to another, it's still a reminder, that this whole thing can be really horrible. It doesn't work for people. Occassionally, yep. But mostly, no. Because you are making your own reality darker. Therapists know this, psychologists etc. Loads of people know this. We wildly over estimate what punishment or anything like that actually achieves. You can't escape it, because it's part of being a human. And justice must be seen to be done, and everyone's idea of justice is pretty unreliable. Which, when it comes down on us, is when life feels unfair and cold and shit.
Don't go round in that circle. If you were lucky, you'd have the example of people who were fair for the sake of it. People who were happy and who would escape this burden of depression and resentment, without alcohol or drugs.
If you were lucky, they were your parents, uncles.
The amount of people who aren't that lucky, is massive. But you can give it a try. See it as a bit of a spiral, try something else.
I say people knew this. My dad knew this. My mum sort of as well. They had their problems tho, oh boy. But they weren't mugs.
They demanded something for their money.
That's the problem with the negative sort of "this group up, that group bad" politics. It's a massive open goal for sketchy sketchy fuckers like Boris to take your hopes, fuck around, and enrich himself and other like minded people.
Dad says. There's one born every minute. Trump, Boris, the other chancers say - There's one born every minute.
Dad says. Don't be one - it's a sad life. However bad the alternative, that's worse. Learn from it.
Trump / Boris say. They're desperate, lol. Time to take their votes, and clean out their wallets.
Here's how to deal with sales people and politicians. Stop listening to the honeyed words. Demand things materially of benefit to you. Demand respect for your better judgement. And demand the money is not wasted. Don't be taken for a fool. Because politics so often, about nothing but money.
Don't. Mug. Yourselves. Brexit was a warning. Onlookers said, justice must be done. They felt sympathy for the aggrieved Brexit voters. Ok. Many reasonable people agreed with them.
But you see what it actually means. They. Are. Not. Happier. Things are worse. Do them a favour. Stop it from happening again. For yourself. They won't thank you for it. Because humans just are that way. Sympathy for a miserable depressive, fine... does that mean you let them drink themselves into oblivion, wallow in their own tears? No.
And that ties with the central point. Look. After. Yourself. Vote in your own interests. Get a good deal. That's what all this is. Deals. Deals for money and deals for stuff and deals for services. Get the right deal - and don't fall for the con-men who flatter the colour of your skin, your pride in your background, and say they'll unlock your dreams. Dreams are not real. Look around you. This is money, commerce. Trading. That's what never changes. Don't ever let yourself be confused that there is much else on offer.
What's better. A slightly better deal in reality? Or a pipe dream you can smoke when they move the loot out the back door.
And finally. Be positive. You will not get into the right state of mind throwing negativity, accusation, threats around. Ever. This is a hard life, sometimes.