If that's true then it's pretty mad really. I'm in no way disputing that this person is entitled to apply for those benefits and is clearly not one would class as a benefit cheat, but as you say it propably needs tapering off somewhere. Those child care costs are ridiculous as well.
The whole benefits system is clearly very complex and does need an overhaul but it needs to be done without harming those who genuinely need help. I've got my own criticisms of it due to my other half and the 2 occasions she's applied for PIP. The first time was in the wake of a failed operation at Tameside hospital in 2010. This was supposed to be a very simple procedure but it left her with chronic abdominal pain and she's now on medication for it for the rest of her life. She lost her job at Asda a couple of years later due to not being able to go in some days when there were flare ups. She applied for PIP shortly after losing her job and she got knocked back because they believed she was still mobile enough to carry out everyday tasks, etc. There was no consideration that her condition was not really visible from the outside.
10 years afer that fuck-up, she suffered a brain haemorrhage and spent 9 days in Salford Royal. It happened while she was driving as well. I couldn't go to see her as it was during Covid. Anyway, she's suffering the effects of it to this day and will do for the rest of her life - fatigue, headaches, tinnitus, etc. So she was advised by one doctor to apply for PIP. I thought surely this time she'll be successful but no, how wrong I was. It was a phone consultation and the girl was talking to her like she was my other half's best mate. And because she told her that she's still fit enough to get out of the house on good days, they knocked her back. Apparently, because she can sometimes get out to attend a Tai Chi session then she's not entitled to it. I did tell her afterwards that she shouldn't have mentioned the Tai Chi as they'll look for any excuse not to award it but from what I could gather, even if she can get up and make a brew then that goes against her as well. The impression I got was that while she should be entitled to PIP, she'd only have a chance of getting it if she told them what things are like on her worst days and not on her better days.
Not only that, she's not entitled to any other benefits either apart from the £80 a week carer's allowance she gets for her dad. The reason that she's not entitled to anything else is because she lives with me and as I work full-time, my wages are supposed to cover us both. I wouldn't mind but while I'm on a reasonable wage, I'm still a basic rate taxpayer and since she's been unable to work since 2012, it's plunged me thousands of pounds into debt in order to keep a roof over our heads.