A little bully: Advice please.

[yeseye]

Offer to have a game of football with him, tell him he can be Gazza and you can be Vinnie Jones......

Probably not the best idea considering bully is 8!
In all seriousness,take your lads kickboxing or jujitsu to learn some good defence skills. Also tell them both to stick together and leather the next bully that comes along.

 

[shallyman]

I have a park directly over the road from my house and because I can see it from my lounge I let my two boys go over on their own after school. Ones 8 and the others 6. They mix with kids from around 6 to 16 which I think is healthy, mostly football and general pissing around.
A couple of weeks ago some little scrote was over there trying to lay a few punches and kicks on my eldest whilst they were having a kick around and then he spat at him.
I didn't really know how to approach it so I told my lad he isn't a punching bag and next time it happens just come home, you know, walk away instead of getting mixed up in it all.
It all went quiet and he didn't come back till this afternoon.
My eldest just came home saying this twat just threw a stone at his head and its left a good mark on him.
This other kid is around the same age maybe a year older, I want to make sure it doesn't happen again but obviously if I lay a hand on him I'm fucked.
Useful advice would be appreciated and I don't want my boy over there scrapping.

Only one time I came home with a cut lip moaning about some lad taking liberties, and my Mum sent me straight back out with the strict instruction of smacking them straight back. And I did, and never stopped no matter how much older or bigger they were, if you hurt me you would get a thump. I was never bullied or beaten throughout any of my school years. This is why bees have a sting...RESPECT. If you want the other kids to respect him, he's gotta be able to look after himself. Otherwise move to Surrey and call him Barnaby.

 

[southstand117]

I'd go to the park next time you see him there, ask him to have a quick quiet word with you and ruin his fuckin childhood and tell him there's no such thing as Father Christmas.

 

[jimharri]

To the OP; that cricket bat you've got in the cupboard under the stairs? Now might be a good time to get it out (Oo-err!), dust it down and put it to good use.

 

[TangerineSteve17]

Although it is always right to stand up to a bully, it isn't always practical. At 8 when there can be little reasoning I think the best thing to do is what you said. If this lad wants to start hurting yours for no reason, I think he should just walk away. That's what I tended to do in those scenarios at that age and up until I was too old to be physically bullied.

 

[Deleted member 58619]

Dunk him in a canal

 

[beast]

To the OP; that cricket bat you've got in the cupboard under the stairs? Now might be a good time to get it out (Oo-err!), dust it down and put it to good use.

How do you know what's in my cupboard under the stairs, in fact how do you know I have a cupboard under my stairs.

Oo-eer indeed

 

[Pelly Greeny]

It's ok saying tell your lad to smack him back or go round to tell his Dad - chances are there isnt one - but this kid isn't likely to react as you'd like him to and think 'oh dear, this ones not one to bully , he fights back' Even if his parent(s) do tell him off and threaten him that's unlikely to be the end of it as far as the little scrote is concerned.

Chances are he'll hit the OPs son with something bigger or put the Ops windows in later on that night.

Everyone will know who's done it but will it ever be proved and will the Police want to know?

And not everyone is a hard man (like so many posters on here seem to be) and wants to go round threatening or arguing people who may well react violently. If the OPs kid hasn't hit the lad back then it doesn't sound like he's one of lifes fighters. Nothing wrong with that, but I don't think telling a kid to hit someone back that doesn't do it automatically is any use at all in most cases.

And whatever you do don't touch him, these little twats know that you can't lay a finger on them and if you do then the parents are onto the Police before you can say Jeremy Kyle as you have violently assaulted their little angel - and you'll find the Police are quick to act and protect themselves from any potential comebacks should you turn into a sexual abuser of numerous children over the next twenty years.

Just tell your son to stay away from him if he can. If not see if he can get a breakaway group and leave the scrote with the others. Just keep doing the same thing - the decent kids will not want a trouble maker in their ranks and hopefully the trouble maker will get the message and either fuck off or change his ways.

 

[Summerbuzz]

Whatever you teach him about how to deal with it, make sure you tell your kid that the other is an idiot, what he's doing will get him in trouble, and he's making his own life worse. Tell your kid you know that he wouldn't act like that, because he knows what's right or wrong, and you're proud of that.

 

[TangerineSteve17]

Whatever you teach him about how to deal with it, make sure you tell your kid that the other is an idiot, what he's doing will get him in trouble, and he's making his own life worse. Tell your kid you know that he wouldn't act like that, because he knows what's right or wrong, and you're proud of that.

That is good advice. I struggle with misplaced pride, but this is certainly appropriate use of it.

You have no real control of behavior/sensitivities of your offspring anyway, but this action seems to help him in being a good man in the future.