Admitting I’m an Alcoholic

[Nightmare Walking]

Everyone has a wobble mate. You have made good progress. Think of the progress you have made and not the wobble, then keep going.

 

[theres only one carlito]

After talking to family, my doctor and Occupational Health at work I have finally accepted that I am an alcoholic. It’s been a long time coming; my wife was telling me last year before we split and I didn’t want to hear it. But over the past few weeks things really got out of control and I made the decision to ask for help.
There’s a long and difficult road ahead to be sure and trying to get sober in lockdown is going to be hard.
Are there any recovering alcoholics on here who can offer any advice on getting through this please?

You’ve done the hard bit mate, Best of luck too you.

 

[N1985]

Haven't touched a drop for nearly 3 years. What a horrible nasty bastard the stuff turns me into. Was great up until being 30 then just lost all tolerance overnight. Was hard at tlfirst but now don't give it a second thought, although lockdown has saved me from being the get home safely taxi. That is due to end shortly!

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go again OP. Admitting you have an issue is a great step forward from where you were. Don't be afraid to seek the relevant help whether that be AA, Smart etc. They will keep you on the wagon if you put the effort in. Something that worked for me was cleaning my diet completely up and finding exercise I love. New hobbies and rediscovering old ones I had put to one side for drinking time. You'll soon make friends you would never have made without making the decision to get sober and clean.

Always here for a chat.

Just keep going. One day at a time.

 

[bluealf]

Fell off the wagon Wednesday evening and am really mad at myself! My wife and I separated at Xmas and I moved out but the past 3 months she’s been telling me she still loved me, we can still have a relationship but just live separate etc and I was really hopeful. It helped me stay on the wagon too. But it turned out she was just waiting for the house sale to go through and get her split of the money because the next day she texted me ending our marriage for good, the last line was “don’t text, don’t ring and don’t knock on my door”. I had no idea it was coming; she manipulated me brilliantly.

I lasted a few weeks but our wedding anniversary and my birthday are 2 weeks away and after a crap day at work I was walking home and just thought Sod It! I bought a bottle of wine and drank it all in an hour then did the same last night after getting back from the hospital cos my dads had another stroke.
Right now I’m really struggling to pick myself up and feel like a real fool for more than one reason!

Just start again, you can't worry about failing once or twice, if you want it, it will happen :)

As for the other, it sounds like you had a lucky escape, it may not feel like that now but fuck that is cold.

A new life is around the corner for you Blue, go and get it.

ps I hope your dad gets it together, my nana had two strokes in her 70's and lived until she was in her 90's (she stopped smoking after the 2nd stroke)

good luck

 

[Man_City_Loyal]

After talking to family, my doctor and Occupational Health at work I have finally accepted that I am an alcoholic. It’s been a long time coming; my wife was telling me last year before we split and I didn’t want to hear it. But over the past few weeks things really got out of control and I made the decision to ask for help.
There’s a long and difficult road ahead to be sure and trying to get sober in lockdown is going to be hard.
Are there any recovering alcoholics on here who can offer any advice on getting through this please?

wouldn’t class my self as an alcoholic, but I would hit it hard and when doing this it would usually result in me spending money on cocaine etc

i felt I needed a life style change. Started off as 2 weeks and now?

22 months without a drink!!!

Il have the zero percent stuff occasionally but by god I love feeling fresh.

I downloaded I Am Sober app (you can use if for all sort of addictions)

worth checking out and good look

 

[Marklr]

I'm alcoholic too. I was actually CHRONIC alcoholic. A drank until i got liver disease. Bad shit! You never wanna got there.
The last few years of my drinking days 1999 - 2004: I was drinking over 10 cans of Tennants Super Duper every day....until i couldn't afford it ..I ended up with the White Shitening! I'd wake around 5 in the night sweating, shaking and hallucinating. I'd reach over and grab my bottle and down as much as i could...then I'd vomit it all back up. My nose and ears would then bleed. Nightmare. Once i'd manage to get the alcohol inside of me, I'd start to relax....but i just carried on drinking all day. sleeping in the afternoon. I never wanted to wake up!
Anyway..i started to notice my skin was swelling up and it felt like I had a football stuck in my stomach. I went yellow!! If my mum hadn't have come around and seen the state i was in, I would have just carried on until i died.
She called an ambulance and...my life changed! Detox and treatment for my liver and lots of counselling. The doctors said i would have lasted another week.
Getting home from hospital was like being re-born. I knew I could NEVER drink again...and I didn't want to let down all the people that actually cared for me.

This is IMPORTANT. You can never have another drink. not even a sip. i relapsed about 5 years later...it lasted a full two months and it was even harder to quit this time around. Don't ever go there. I did it for you...it's true...you can't even have one drink.
The way i look at it is..I've been there, done that and got the liver to prove it! We get older and some things in life HAVE to be sacrificed for you to be able to live normally. Alcohol is a shit drug anyway. ALL alcoholics will die from alcoholism or drink related issues. Unless they quit first.
Tea and a nice joint is my thing now. And City. And my family. And my music. Friends. Cats. Bike rides. Freedom.

 

[Marklr]

4-5 cans of Stella a night. I know I should cut down. When I get in I enjoy watching YouTube or playing the PC or listening to music. I'm rarely drunk unless I go to a gig. Don't do pubs anymore apart from meals and I don't ever drink wine but occasionally whisky

Can you go without those cans?

 

[Marklr]

Fell off the wagon Wednesday evening and am really mad at myself! My wife and I separated at Xmas and I moved out but the past 3 months she’s been telling me she still loved me, we can still have a relationship but just live separate etc and I was really hopeful. It helped me stay on the wagon too. But it turned out she was just waiting for the house sale to go through and get her split of the money because the next day she texted me ending our marriage for good, the last line was “don’t text, don’t ring and don’t knock on my door”. I had no idea it was coming; she manipulated me brilliantly.

I lasted a few weeks but our wedding anniversary and my birthday are 2 weeks away and after a crap day at work I was walking home and just thought Sod It! I bought a bottle of wine and drank it all in an hour then did the same last night after getting back from the hospital cos my dads had another stroke.
Right now I’m really struggling to pick myself up and feel like a real fool for more than one reason!

That's what your addicted brain does; makes excuses to have a drink! It may feel good and a relief at the time but really you're actually punishing yourself for having a bad day. That's another hurdle you HAVE to get over....when you have a bad time,you can't use alcohol. There's hurdles along the path to recovery...don't fall at the first one!

 

[Aphex]

Can you go without those cans?

That is an inspiring story mate. I could probably just have 2. I don't have an urge as such, more like a routine. I'm working on it

 

[Marklr]

That is an inspiring story mate. I could probably just have 2. I don't have an urge as such, more like a routine. I'm working on it

I never have any problem with others drinking. EVERYTHING in moderation. I have the gene...my dad died from the same thing that i saved myself from. My brother and sister are both alcoholic. Mum is gutted..on her side of the family, there are NO addicts. Dad was Goerdie though...that speaks volumes!! haha.