leruzin said:Anyone done it ? With the recent ad on TV the mrs is saying we should consider it and we are both willing to at least see if we would be eligible . Just wondered if anyone has been through the process or been successful in adopting ? Please try not to turn this thread into an argument !!! Thanks
cupidstunt said:I am adopted too. I love my mother and father as much as I love my kids and although my nightmare brother exasperates me we both know we'd help each other hide the bodies and would, and indeed I have, perjured ourselves to save the other. He and I are not related. He is a total waster, I am not.
He's a good bro now but still a liability at nearly 40. I was head boy, he was expelled. I have a great house / life - he's in rented. The mismatch between his natural state, my aspirations, and our shared adopted parents aspirations has marked us all and is not to be taken lightly. Nor is the different family dynamic to people who share your genetic characteristics to be written off, Now I have my own children, I recognise and understand genetic traits even the most empathetic parents can't understand - and mine did not.
40 years on, my parents have two kids who've followed them 200 miles from manchester and we will all love each other for ever, but it's not easy.
9 months is nothing mate ours took abt 15 months before we went to panel,once you've done that there's another panel from the council where your adopting from,it was one hell of a long process abt 2 years from start to finish was oursjohnmc said:Met a guy who was adopting and spoke briefly a out the process. I think he said he had taken 9 months so far and had a final meeting soon with him and his wife in a room with 12 others who were basically judging them of there suitability. Fair play to anyone who goes through that. Shows true commitment.
The cookie monster said:9 months is nothing mate ours took abt 15 months before we went to panel,once you've done that there's another panel from the council where your adopting from,it was one hell of a long process abt 2 years from start to finish was oursjohnmc said:Met a guy who was adopting and spoke briefly a out the process. I think he said he had taken 9 months so far and had a final meeting soon with him and his wife in a room with 12 others who were basically judging them of there suitability. Fair play to anyone who goes through that. Shows true commitment.
The reward at the end though was worth it.