Just a brief response - as the pool calls
You are to a large degree correct in your extrapolations - although I detect an emphasis that reflects your views, prejudices and assumptions and not my own.
1. "I glean from that you prefer no deal to Mays deal..... " Correct - unless the backstop is fettered by a time limit or other criteria that the UK can control
2. "
You would prefer to go through a unquantifiable ‘no deal’ economic hit than accept May’s deal and negotiate new trade arrangements with the EU that had an Irish backstop...…" That point seems the same as point 1 - so same answer
3.
"You would rather mitigate the future risk of further Integration into the EU by ensuring there will need to be custom controls and the real risk of return to violence in Ireland." That seems largely the same as point 1 - so same answer, just adding that the political and economic future of the whole of the UK - can not be subject to the dictate of potential terrorism - I am surprised that you seem to suggest that it should. Personally I feel that the issue has been deliberately weaponised by the EU - abetted by Varadkar - and many UK citizens are lapping it up rather than being offended by that.
4.
" As we have discussed before, a no deal will also increase the risk of independent Scotland and Ireland and the likely breakup of the U.K. interestingly, yesterday’s news included an estimate that a tech solution to the border is ten years away." The situation is not quite as you colour it is it? - there has been a significant movement within Scotland for independence for years anyway. What are you suggesting? - are we supposed to act like the EU and seek to prevent a nation enjoying the right of self-determination
Also - something that I have not seen even considered - The UK leaving the EU may in fact reduce the '
REAL' risk of Scotland leaving the union - can you, or any other Remainer understand why that this could be considered possible/likely?
5.
"I am no closer to understanding the depth of fear and dislike around the risk of further EU integration....." It is satisfying to see an increasing level of honesty by Remainers with regard the inevitable consequences of the UK Remaining and why I say if we are to Remain - let's just get on with driving integration - because we are not going to be able to avoid it.
You are not the first person to show such honesty rather than hide behind the delusion of opt-outs and vetoes - but why has it taken over 3 years for this honesty to come to the fore is what baffles me