Anyone prefer being alone?

Just started seeing a girl, and it's dawned on me, I actually prefer not being in a relationship, not having someone making plans for me or feeling like I have to make plans, being able to chill on my own or with mates and not feeling guilty about it. I think I've felt like this in every relationship I've had which probably explains why I'm 36 and not married. Always told myself the way to go is find someone to breed with and settle down with, now I'm thinking I can't actually be bothered. Can anyone relate?
To right mate, i am a few months older and in the same position. My mates (stony) think i'll be 40 before i settle down. I caught up with an old flame a few years back and after getting to know each other again i was adamant to keep it that way. Before that i was like "yeah i'd marry her" but when push came to shove i caught myself stepping back as pretty as she is.

I like doing what i want when i want with my dogs the only consideration i have or want.

I question myself a lot as on a purely biological scale (propagation of my genes) i am tall, healthy and not ugly as sin, so a reasonable catch to some women who subconsciously may think "he would be a good father". It may end up that way but as it stands Oman i am in exactly the same boat as you sir.
 
Just started seeing a girl, and it's dawned on me, I actually prefer not being in a relationship, not having someone making plans for me or feeling like I have to make plans, being able to chill on my own or with mates and not feeling guilty about it. I think I've felt like this in every relationship I've had which probably explains why I'm 36 and not married. Always told myself the way to go is find someone to breed with and settle down with, now I'm thinking I can't actually be bothered. Can anyone relate?
Sure you're not an Onan?
 
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Just started seeing a girl, and it's dawned on me, I actually prefer not being in a relationship, not having someone making plans for me or feeling like I have to make plans, being able to chill on my own or with mates and not feeling guilty about it. I think I've felt like this in every relationship I've had which probably explains why I'm 36 and not married. Always told myself the way to go is find someone to breed with and settle down with, now I'm thinking I can't actually be bothered. Can anyone relate?

Absolutely but I like Fanny’s.
 
Just started seeing a girl, and it's dawned on me, I actually prefer not being in a relationship, not having someone making plans for me or feeling like I have to make plans, being able to chill on my own or with mates and not feeling guilty about it. I think I've felt like this in every relationship I've had which probably explains why I'm 36 and not married. Always told myself the way to go is find someone to breed with and settle down with, now I'm thinking I can't actually be bothered. Can anyone relate?

Yes, yes I can.
 
To right mate, i am a few months older and in the same position. My mates (stony) think i'll be 40 before i settle down. I caught up with an old flame a few years back and after getting to know each other again i was adamant to keep it that way. Before that i was like "yeah i'd marry her" but when push came to shove i caught myself stepping back as pretty as she is.

I like doing what i want when i want with my dogs the only consideration i have or want.

I question myself a lot as on a purely biological scale (propagation of my genes) i am tall, healthy and not ugly as sin, so a reasonable catch to some women who subconsciously may think "he would be a good father". It may end up that way but as it stands Oman i am in exactly the same boat as you sir.

Ditto, and it's not that I'm not into her or don't find her attractive. I live near the beach in Holland so we go down there and I enjoy her company but sometimes think I wish it was just me and my dog haha. Long walk by the sea a few Heinekens, and back for a take away and match of the day, it's pretty much my ideal day.
 
I think if anything were to happen between me and my lady then that would be it for me.

Mainly because I really could not face explaining my conditions to anyone and all the hassle that goes with a new relationship under the circumstances. I no longer socialise or make new friends for the very same reason so in many respects have chosen to be pretty much to become a little reclusive.

Were it not for that I would prefer not to be alone. I can however see why some do chose to remain single as you then have much more freedom to do what you choose without having to worry about what someone else thinks.

At the end of the day you should do what makes you happiest. Why be in a relationship or seek one if you prefer being single? Because society expects you to perhaps. Remaining single can certainly help you avoid the potentially massive kick in the bollocks that splitting with some one you are mad on.

Mate of mine has been single for years and goes to the knocking shop to empty his bollocks every couple of weeks and would not have it any other way. Each to their own I guess.
 
Just started seeing a girl, and it's dawned on me, I actually prefer not being in a relationship, not having someone making plans for me or feeling like I have to make plans, being able to chill on my own or with mates and not feeling guilty about it. I think I've felt like this in every relationship I've had which probably explains why I'm 36 and not married. Always told myself the way to go is find someone to breed with and settle down with, now I'm thinking I can't actually be bothered. Can anyone relate?

The very reason I didn't get married until I was 45.
 
Everything's better shared, from seeing Aguerooo! to dealing with illness etc. as you get older.
 

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