I heard a thing recently on a podcast that piqued my interest on this subject of want vs need, ego-driven consumerism, etc…
The person said, if you think you want/need to buy something, just say to yourself “If no-one ever knew I had this, never saw it, never recognized I could afford it, and I could never show it to anyone or talk about having it, would I still want it, buy it, and enjoy it for the rest of its useful life?”
If the answer is not “Yes, of course!” then you don’t need it and shouldn’t waste your money on it.
Same pod also talked about money problems in marriage, and even often for some singles. It said that most financial problems revolve around a car that’s too expensive, a house that is either too expensive to own or too expensive to maintain, and the personal spending habits of at least one of the couple.
He said you should discuss exactly what kind of vehicles, and how often you’d replace them, what size of house, location and mortgage is acceptable, and what level of personal “luxury” spending (restaurants, clothes, entertainment, etc…) every month is reasonable.
If you can get on the same page on those issues ahead of time, your potential for relationship, and financial, security is well ahead of the averages.