Best friends or work mates?

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city2

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Who do you choose, me personally work mates are just that and when you leave that’s it , best friends are their at all times to offer support but can be very judgmental that’s why I choose neither and I’m completely happy with that, what are your views.
 
Work mates can be top mates too, I had the Christmas party last night, and another doo alll day today, had a brilliant time but I've been with the company nearly 20 years and I class my close colleagues as my mates first and my colleagues 2nd.
 
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I've worked in sales for the last 36 years travelling the length and breadth of the country and all my work colleagues are voices on the end of the phone who I meet very rarely
The company I'm with at the moment I tolerate my colleagues, that's all they are and I wouldn't choose to have a beer with any. Been with them six years
I'm in for an office visit next week, the first one in three years and I've only agreed to this because the firm has moved to shiny new premises
 
For me more a question of sanity. Never had a problem with people at work but wanted to keep work away from my life outside it as it was a very stressful job . I think I would have gone mad otherwise. Only one close friend , whom I have known for forty years , is someone I met through work .
 
Depends...

If they are ex work colleagues who have become friends then thats fine. Some close friends are people who I worked with 20 years ago, but kept in touch.

If you are in any position of seniority in a business, having those who you work with currently as friends is dangerous. Not only does it lead to people potentially calling out promotions as nepotism, but also can make it exceptionally difficult when the business is underperforming and you need to make difficult decisions.

Bottom line is, its lonely at the top, so make your friends elsewhere.

As for really close friends who would stand by you at all costs regardless, those are like hens teeth, I have a couple of mates who Ive know for 40 plus years who I know would as I would for them.
 
I’ve got mates from cricket and rugby but can count the proper ones on one hand. I have a workmate who I’ve worked with for 20 years on the tools doing two man jobs and never had a cross word. Shared every thing with each other and would class him top of the list, the other fuckers at work we don’t socialise with or barely interact with as most of the cunts would stab you in the back as soon as look at you
 
Nellies left peg said:
I’ve got mates from cricket and rugby but can count the proper ones on one hand. I have a workmate who I’ve worked with for 20 years on the tools doing two man jobs and never had a cross word. Shared every thing with each other and would class him top of the list, the other fuckers at work we don’t socialise with or barely interact with as most of the cunts would stab you in the back as soon as look at you
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Fingers or thumb?
 
How can someone you know from work, ever be considered above your best friend? My best friend is a brother to me. And me to him. He's a big Rangers supporting twat, but I love him. I have made lifelong friends from work. Not many, but enough, but they would never come before my best mate.

Plus, with his team not been too clever this last 15 years, I feel duty bound to be there with and for him. Offering support and above all, compassion in these difficult times.

I know he appreciates it and texts like,

"Go fuck yourself". "Do one." I'm blocking your number for a week, you prick." Are his way of saying thank you, my best pal. I knew i could depend on you. Clear as day.

(All texts mentioned are real)
 
I think it’s an arbitrary distinction to be honest. There are people I’ve known from work that I speak to and spend more time with than even my best friends of 30 years. We spend half our lives at work, and it goes a lot faster if you actually try and enjoy it by building connections with the people around you. I’ll happily have a beer with work colleagues. Some of them have become close friends who I would confide in. They’re just human beings, like all of my non-work friends and we’re all trying to make it through this shitshow called life together, so why not? Why build a wall when we have the opportunity to build a bridge?

My wife is the polar opposite to me. She won’t spend a minute longer at work than needed, won’t socialise with colleagues unless literally forced, doesn’t speak to any of them outside of work ever. I respect we’re different people with different approaches to life.
 
surprisedbygrass said:
For me more a question of sanity. Never had a problem with people at work but wanted to keep work away from my life outside it as it was a very stressful job . I think I would have gone mad otherwise. Only one close friend , whom I have known for forty years , is someone I met through work .
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The two workmates I class as friends I met in 76 and 86 respectively. With each of those two colleagues we only actually worked together for about 2 years, but during difficult times we kept each others sanity. However we gelled and are still good friends today, we were just fortunate that work brought us together.

I'm female BTW, I think just generally girls tend to stay in touch more.

Other folk I met over 37 years work were fine, but I didn't socialise with, and others I wouldn't pee on them if they were on fire. Thankfully not so many of that ilk.
 
Mad Eyed Screamer said:
Quite easy if it’s Diane from accounts who you’ve been bonking for a couple of months…..
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So it was you? First you steal my Smiths ticket, now i find out you're the **** that was shagging my Diane? What a piece of shit.

There are very few, infact, you nailed one of rare instances, but only for the duration.
 
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