Biggest regret and why.

[kaz7]

Not popping home and seeing my Mum on the Monday after spending the weekend with the gf. Only to find out my Mum had killed herself that Monday morning through depression. Would it of made a difference I will never know.

Thats awful but if someone has decided to kill themselves i don't think you dropping by would have changed her mind so don't carry the guilt with you

 

[Churchlawtonblue]

Thats awful but if someone has decided to kill themselves i don't think you dropping by would have changed her mind so don't carry the guilt with you

It was a long time ago and I know what you are saying but sometimes it's hard not to think what if. Such is life.

 

[kaz7]

It was a long time ago and I know what you are saying but sometimes it's hard not to think what if. Such is life.

Yep the what if's are a real pain,sorry for your loss

 

[Barcon]

What a fucking arsehole. Sorry to hear your plight mate.

He's trying his best mate.

 

[Rosler1985]

He's trying his best mate.

Haha, you bastard :-)

 

[Churchlawtonblue]

Yep the what if's are a real pain,sorry for your loss

Thanks Karen, second biggest regret well thats turning down the offer of the after gig party for Oasis at Maine Road 21 years ago. Went home instead after the gig to be with my heavily pregnant wife! Only joking I don't regret that honest.

 

[solley attwell]

Becoming a fuckin chef. Forget about all those celebrity cookery programmes and this God like status given to some chefs. It's a bloody hard job physically and mentally. Working around Xmas ,weekends, and all other celebratory occasions. It broke my marriage(as it does most chefs), I missed watching my son play football for years and generally lost touch with so many people because even when I was off I was shagged out to meet them. Even today I'm in work and won't get home till near 12 , when I will sit down and watch City and sunderland.I still don't know the score as I've avoided everything so I can watch it almost live

 

[BlueMoonRisin’]

Starting smoking. Dirty filthy habit i still have.

 

[abu13]

Not popping home and seeing my Mum on the Monday after spending the weekend with the gf. Only to find out my Mum had killed herself that Monday morning through depression. Would it of made a difference I will never know.

Going back over 20 years now but my brother in law who was also my best mate at the time had split from his partner, he went through a really rough time and had us all worried. Anyway I called in to see him after work one night as I was concerned about him and was really happy to find him in good spirits and the best I had seen him for week's. It turned out that he had met someone else and really hit it off, we had a good chat and spent the next few hours having a good laugh, I left safe in the knowledge that he seemed to be over the worst.

14 hours later his brother called to say that he had hung himself, I would have never guessed this was on his mind when I left and spent a long time wondering why I didn't pick up any signs.

It's a horrible thing to go through and please don't attach any blame or guilt to yourself, you don;t ever know what internal demons people are fighting.

 

[kaz7]

Going back over 20 years now but my brother in law who was also my best mate at the time had split from his partner, he went through a really rough time and had us all worried. Anyway I called in to see him after work one night as I was concerned about him and was really happy to find him in good spirits and the best I had seen him for week's. It turned out that he had met someone else and really hit it off, we had a good chat and spent the next few hours having a good laugh, I left safe in the knowledge that he seemed to be over the worst.

14 hours later his brother called to say that he had hung himself, I would have never guessed this was on his mind when I left and spent a long time wondering why I didn't pick up any signs.

It's a horrible thing to go through and please don't attach any blame or guilt to yourself, you don;t ever know what internal demons people are fighting.

It' very common that those who plan suicide seem in good spirits near the end because they have made the decision and feel in control,that's why it's such a shock as they seem to have turned a corner