Cheers mate, round with her dad at weekend. He is 86 and last 4 weeks first time ever on his own in his life. Lived with his mum and dad until he got married just over 40 years ago. Been tough few months. We have helped them sell their house (family home of 40 years), buy a retirement flat with onsite warden. Then she fell and taken into hospital and told us never be home again. Partner n myself spent last few weeks looking round local care homes then covid broke on ward so couldn't visit her and we knew she wouldn't move for while now she's tested positive. My girlfriend has filled in forms for power of attorney for both mother and father but not gone through yet. I kind of feel hopeless as my partner doing everything on her own (brother in States and sister in Australia)
It’s really tough when one sibling gets left to look after a remaining parent, as well as the Lasting Power of Attorney ensure there’s a will, the LPA ceases when a person dies. Care home fees are anything from 3k upwards per month. You need to talk money if it’s an issue.
On the emotional side, it’s tough looking after older relatives, sounds like you’re a good SIL, with the support and help you are providing but don’t fall into the trap (which I have) of doing too much as it sounds like your partner is going to be either visiting or looking after two parents at two different locations
Have a listen to this from Jeremy Vine yesterday, it’s about 1 hour 5 minutes in, tells you all you need to know, good luck.
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