I held that very same view until I realised that the change I wanted to see was simply not going to happen.
An Out vote is a result of that frustration and i suspect the same for many other leave voters as well.
Yes, that is my fear too. Strangely it's as if only an out vote would make the EU change its ways, and by then it's too late!
I'm over generalising but I think there's only a few things that really need to be fixed to appease most people...
1) We need a firm commitment from all members to really want to have consolidated laws, but NOT for the EU to dictate them (or nigh on).
2) We should probably all be in favour of free movement of people but the HOME nation pays the social security Got a job in the UK? great work here and live here. Lose that job? we'll give you some grace, but after that you have to go home.
3) People with criminal records don't have automatic entry - it's up to the receiving nation to accept them or not.
4) If the numbers of migrants reach a certain level, then the borders can close until those numbers come back down.
If they could just sort those 4 things out, I reckon most people would be ok, which on paper are not that big a deal.
Number 1) is the biggest problem though, because it's almost impossible to get 20 odd people to agree, esp in a law. And if you go with a majority, you still have 'being told what to do' accusations.
If you don't start sharing common laws though, you have a real problem trying to benefit from one system.