daztrueblue91
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There was a good documentary a while back, I think it was on BBC 3, where they gathered around 20 teenagers (a mix of lads and lasses) and showed them a fictional scenario of a night out.
To cut a long story short, there is a lot of drinking and consensual flirting and kissing between a lad and some women at a house party. However, at night they both go into the same room. The women undresses and then gets into bed with the lad but then within minutes she is dosing off and is only semi-conscious but the lad takes advantage anyway. It was clear as day that what the lad did was wrong but when the teenagers were questioned if the girl had been raped, there was a number of conflicting views. Whilst there were 6 or 7 people who clearly stated that what the lad did was wrong, there were people, both men and women, who defended the lad and did not see anything wrong with his actions.
IMO, people need educating on the affects of alcohol both on how to keep themselves and others safe. There's no question that if the lad in the video was sober then he wouldn't have done what he had to the women. However, that isn't an excuse - he is still a rapist. Likewise, the women in question should not be getting so drunk that she is going to share a bed with a random male. Then, where are the friends in all this? It's can't just be my mates who make sure that everyone is looked after on a night out. If one of the lads gets too pissed we make sure he gets in a taxi. Also, I wouldn't dream of letting a female friend go off with a lad if she was wasted. It's just common sense.
However, it seems more and more people don't want to take responsibility for their actions in today's society and sadly we end up with cases like this which ruins peoples lives.
To cut a long story short, there is a lot of drinking and consensual flirting and kissing between a lad and some women at a house party. However, at night they both go into the same room. The women undresses and then gets into bed with the lad but then within minutes she is dosing off and is only semi-conscious but the lad takes advantage anyway. It was clear as day that what the lad did was wrong but when the teenagers were questioned if the girl had been raped, there was a number of conflicting views. Whilst there were 6 or 7 people who clearly stated that what the lad did was wrong, there were people, both men and women, who defended the lad and did not see anything wrong with his actions.
IMO, people need educating on the affects of alcohol both on how to keep themselves and others safe. There's no question that if the lad in the video was sober then he wouldn't have done what he had to the women. However, that isn't an excuse - he is still a rapist. Likewise, the women in question should not be getting so drunk that she is going to share a bed with a random male. Then, where are the friends in all this? It's can't just be my mates who make sure that everyone is looked after on a night out. If one of the lads gets too pissed we make sure he gets in a taxi. Also, I wouldn't dream of letting a female friend go off with a lad if she was wasted. It's just common sense.
However, it seems more and more people don't want to take responsibility for their actions in today's society and sadly we end up with cases like this which ruins peoples lives.