Have you ever caught your partner cheating?

[salford blue 62]

Firstly I think you speak a lot of sense in most of your posts PC and I agree with most of your input on this thread, pal.

I think many in today's society don't know what they want and if they find it their boredom threshold is set to low because almost everyone nowadays wants that big posh house, that shiny new Merc and that big Rolex watch, latest 1200 pound phone, designer handbag Pair of Jimmy Choo shoes etc etc. It's all superficial materialistic bollocks.

My point being is true love is not about money(isn't to me) it's a fulfilment of overflowing heart felt joy and contentment. Making love is 1000X more powerful and overwhelming than the best soulless sex can ever be, but many want their cake and eat it and as a consequence kids are often made to the brunt of an inevitable acrimonious split when the cheat is found out.

I speak from experience. She stared seeing a guy romantically without consummating sexually but the loving bond was broken between us. But when my ex wife and I split we made a pact that we would be as amicable as possible so our girls weren't dragged around back n' forth like bargaining chips like pawns on a chess board. And we mostly stuck to that pact without mind games, albeit a few bickerings early on that were ironed out in a civilised manner.

Both of us have done the very best we can for our girls and you could say they'd had the both worlds as an outsider looking in, But did they?(I'll come to that later)

When I was home from working away my two main passions City and and fishing were put very much in the background, fishing more so as i like at least half a day, nipping to the Emptyhad I could do in two n' half hours but anyway my girls were my everything and I'm proud to say I've done my very best for them.

As they have got grown up into late teenage I've spoken to them as young adults and my eldest has asked me questions on why mum and I split etc. I said I didn't want to say unless I was being stark truthful, and the truth hurts. I didn't want her worrying unduly of how it has affected me playing part time dad not there for them due to work commitments and not together as the head of the household like her stepfather has been.

I told her the truth and her younger sister but my youngest took us splitting up more badly because she's a sensitive soul. She he has ADHD and mild autism and I think her living with mum and her stepdad and me being single going through the motions of being with someone knowing I've only ever truly loved mum has affected her badly. Anorexia nervosa and self harming could possibly be linked to being unhappy in childhood, I don't know as I'm not an expert. What I do know is it breaks my heart how I could have possibly contributed to her suffering.

But I have done my best and mostly kept my opinions of their stepdad to myself and let them make their own minds up over growing up with him.

I think parents splitting up can have a huge impact on kids lives. And I also think that if you can find true love, have kids and have a loving harmonious family relationship then you have hit the jackpot of life, that's if you've chosen to have kids of course.

If my ex Mrs could turn back the clock she would and so would I but we can't, and we cannot get back what we had not can you. But if you have a young family reading this don't think of your dick being happy whilst your dipping your wick, think of what could possibly happen when your candle has been snuffed out That's life, but you can mostly choose which port to dock your boat.

Think of your kids first and foremost because you brought them into this world!

My youngest made me a lovely present made from wire this Christmas. She asked me what I wanted and I asked her to make me an owl as they are my favourite birds. I'm so proud of her(and her big sis) I would sell this for all the tea in China(as they say.

Daddy owl in the middle with my owlets by my side. Happy owls. Twit twoo: )Anyone interested in buying any artwork like this PM me as my youngest has her own website doing wire creations, bespoke too as this is one. Thanks.

Fucking great,and honest post mate,..i can relate a lot to it.

 

[Ban-jani]

Firstly I think you speak a lot of sense in most of your posts PC and I agree with most of your input on this thread, pal.

I think many in today's society don't know what they want and if they find it their boredom threshold is set to low because almost everyone nowadays wants that big posh house, that shiny new Merc and that big Rolex watch, latest 1200 pound phone, designer handbag Pair of Jimmy Choo shoes etc etc. It's all superficial materialistic bollocks.

My point being is true love is not about money(isn't to me) it's a fulfilment of overflowing heart felt joy and contentment. Making love is 1000X more powerful and overwhelming than the best soulless sex can ever be, but many want their cake and eat it and as a consequence kids are often made to the brunt of an inevitable acrimonious split when the cheat is found out.

I speak from experience. She stared seeing a guy romantically without consummating sexually but the loving bond was broken between us. But when my ex wife and I split we made a pact that we would be as amicable as possible so our girls weren't dragged around back n' forth like bargaining chips like pawns on a chess board. And we mostly stuck to that pact without mind games, albeit a few bickerings early on that were ironed out in a civilised manner.

Both of us have done the very best we can for our girls and you could say they'd had the both worlds as an outsider looking in, But did they?(I'll come to that later)

When I was home from working away my two main passions City and and fishing were put very much in the background, fishing more so as i like at least half a day, nipping to the Emptyhad I could do in two n' half hours but anyway my girls were my everything and I'm proud to say I've done my very best for them.

As they have got grown up into late teenage I've spoken to them as young adults and my eldest has asked me questions on why mum and I split etc. I said I didn't want to say unless I was being stark truthful, and the truth hurts. I didn't want her worrying unduly of how it has affected me playing part time dad not there for them due to work commitments and not together as the head of the household like her stepfather has been.

I told her the truth and her younger sister but my youngest took us splitting up more badly because she's a sensitive soul. She he has ADHD and mild autism and I think her living with mum and her stepdad and me being single going through the motions of being with someone knowing I've only ever truly loved mum has affected her badly. Anorexia nervosa and self harming could possibly be linked to being unhappy in childhood, I don't know as I'm not an expert. What I do know is it breaks my heart how I could have possibly contributed to her suffering.

But I have done my best and mostly kept my opinions of their stepdad to myself and let them make their own minds up over growing up with him.

I think parents splitting up can have a huge impact on kids lives. And I also think that if you can find true love, have kids and have a loving harmonious family relationship then you have hit the jackpot of life, that's if you've chosen to have kids of course.

If my ex Mrs could turn back the clock she would and so would I but we can't, and we cannot get back what we had not can you. But if you have a young family reading this don't think of your dick being happy whilst your dipping your wick, think of what could possibly happen when your candle has been snuffed out That's life, but you can mostly choose which port to dock your boat.

Think of your kids first and foremost because you brought them into this world!

My youngest made me a lovely present made from wire this Christmas. She asked me what I wanted and I asked her to make me an owl as they are my favourite birds. I'm so proud of her(and her big sis) I would sell this for all the tea in China(as they say.

Daddy owl in the middle with my owlets by my side. Happy owls. Twit twoo: )Anyone interested in buying any artwork like this PM me as my youngest has her own website doing wire creations, bespoke too as this is one. Thanks.

This is the best post on this thread. In fact it’s the best post I’ve read for a while, even better than Worsley’s on this thread and that was sensational.

I’m struggling to say why it’s so great but you sound like a Christian, which is a huge compliment from me ;-)

 

[maccieblue]

Can't argue, The Willows was good but I got battered there once, slightly tainted the good memories of it, The Talk of The North over that way was decent, saw the Grumbleweeds there.

Can't argue, The Willows was good but I got battered there once, slightly tainted the good memories of it, The Talk of The North over that way was decent, saw the Grumbleweeds there.

The Grumbleweeds now we are talking top notch entertainment

 

[maccieblue]

I've been married for over 20 years. No woman other than my wife has tried to sleep with me. I must be one ugly looking

I've been married for over 20 years. No woman other than my wife has tried to sleep with me. I must be one ugly looking guy

I have the same issue but As Mr manning once said, I've no intention of turning gay.
I hate the thought of men turning me down as well as women

 

[BlueMoonRisin’]

This is the best post on this thread. In fact it’s the best post I’ve read for a while, even better than Worsley’s on this thread and that was sensational.

I’m struggling to say why it’s so great but you sound like a Christian, which is a huge compliment from me ;-)

Thanks pal. I didn't write to be better or worse than anyone. I can only through experience as Worsley and others have. I sometimes speak the truth from my heart though , and sometimes talk verbal diarrhoea from my arse; ) But yeah, no point lying. You can't cheat karma IMO. Many think they can and do, but at what price?

I have Christian values decent morals and I believe in God, just not religion because religion causes war, and I'm largely a pacifist: ) Anyway that's another topic. I'm a lapsed Christian I think.

 

[shootmeifipost10k]

Good post. I have somehow managed to stay in my girls life despite the exes best efforts. I remember being “awarded” at court every other Friday Saturday sleep over and an hour on wednesdays. My kids were 1 and 4. Essentially 4 days out of 30 properly seeing my kids. Fuck that!! I am not in any way embarrassed to say I was arrested 17 times over a 3 years period for picking my kids up from school on non rota days and taking them for meals and holidays. (Never been in trouble for anything else ever) I did the whole fathers for justice thing and beyond and managed to eventually get 50/50 custody. Not through the courts just through the fact that the ex knew I would not give up. I could not do it now as I would not have the energy - when I was 30 I was a lot tougher and stronger. It’s a very brave man who risks having kids and facing not seeing them properly. Mine are 16 and 19 now and I literally could not be closer to them. Very proud of myself for making sure of that. I could quite easily have walked away at times it was that tough. The ex was cheating on me for months with a women from work. Still bullshits me that they only got together after we split! Load of bollox.

Wel done mate.I know what you mean about how hard it was and how much it takes out of you.
When me and the ex split seeing as she was basically a shite mother it was agreed my two lads 3 and 5 lived with me. That continued for just over a year unil after one usual weekend visit she changed her mind and decideed to not bring them back and shockingly even thought they had been living with me that whole time previous there was nothing legally I could do. There was no police visit to her or anything like that at all just the simple reasoning, she was the mother and had more rights to our children than me.
It took 18 months of going to court to eventually get back full custody and through that time the social workers, court people and solicitors knew what an absolute shit mother she really was. 27 years on through their choice not mine they have nothing to do with her including no wedding invites.
I was lucky that she was a shite mother and I was dermined enough to fight hard enough for them which was pretty difficult back then and was an emotional distressing time for me.
Thankfully some things have changed in fathers having equal access these days but some women still use them as a pawn for spitefull reasons after a break up,equally some dads are cunts.

 

[ancoats]

The Grumbleweeds now we are talking top notch entertainment

this is so funny and well put together

 

[Bill Walker]

Wel done mate.I know what you mean about how hard it was and how much it takes out of you.
When me and the ex split seeing as she was basically a shite mother it was agreed my two lads 3 and 5 lived with me. That continued for just over a year unil after one usual weekend visit she changed her mind and decideed to not bring them back and shockingly even thought they had been living with me that whole time previous there was nothing legally I could do. There was no police visit to her or anything like that at all just the simple reasoning, she was the mother and had more rights to our children than me.
It took 18 months of going to court to eventually get back full custody and through that time the social workers, court people and solicitors knew what an absolute shit mother she really was. 27 years on through their choice not mine they have nothing to do with her including no wedding invites.
I was lucky that she was a shite mother and I was dermined enough to fight hard enough for them which was pretty difficult back then and was an emotional distressing time for me.
Thankfully some things have changed in fathers having equal access these days but some women still use them as a pawn for spitefull reasons after a break up,equally some dads are cunts.

Glad it worked out good for you mate.

 

[Deleted member 77198]

Firstly I think you speak a lot of sense in most of your posts PC and I agree with most of your input on this thread, pal.

I think many in today's society don't know what they want and if they find it their boredom threshold is set to low because almost everyone nowadays wants that big posh house, that shiny new Merc and that big Rolex watch, latest 1200 pound phone, designer handbag Pair of Jimmy Choo shoes etc etc. It's all superficial materialistic bollocks.

My point being is true love is not about money(isn't to me) it's a fulfilment of overflowing heart felt joy and contentment. Making love is 1000X more powerful and overwhelming than the best soulless sex can ever be, but many want their cake and eat it and as a consequence kids are often made to the brunt of an inevitable acrimonious split when the cheat is found out.

I speak from experience. She stared seeing a guy romantically without consummating sexually but the loving bond was broken between us. But when my ex wife and I split we made a pact that we would be as amicable as possible so our girls weren't dragged around back n' forth like bargaining chips like pawns on a chess board. And we mostly stuck to that pact without mind games, albeit a few bickerings early on that were ironed out in a civilised manner.

Both of us have done the very best we can for our girls and you could say they'd had the both worlds as an outsider looking in, But did they?(I'll come to that later)

When I was home from working away my two main passions City and and fishing were put very much in the background, fishing more so as i like at least half a day, nipping to the Emptyhad I could do in two n' half hours but anyway my girls were my everything and I'm proud to say I've done my very best for them.

As they have got grown up into late teenage I've spoken to them as young adults and my eldest has asked me questions on why mum and I split etc. I said I didn't want to say unless I was being stark truthful, and the truth hurts. I didn't want her worrying unduly of how it has affected me playing part time dad not there for them due to work commitments and not together as the head of the household like her stepfather has been.

I told her the truth and her younger sister but my youngest took us splitting up more badly because she's a sensitive soul. She he has ADHD and mild autism and I think her living with mum and her stepdad and me being single going through the motions of being with someone knowing I've only ever truly loved mum has affected her badly. Anorexia nervosa and self harming could possibly be linked to being unhappy in childhood, I don't know as I'm not an expert. What I do know is it breaks my heart how I could have possibly contributed to her suffering.

But I have done my best and mostly kept my opinions of their stepdad to myself and let them make their own minds up over growing up with him.

I think parents splitting up can have a huge impact on kids lives. And I also think that if you can find true love, have kids and have a loving harmonious family relationship then you have hit the jackpot of life, that's if you've chosen to have kids of course.

If my ex Mrs could turn back the clock she would and so would I but we can't, and we cannot get back what we had not can you. But if you have a young family reading this don't think of your dick being happy whilst your dipping your wick. Think of what could possibly happen when your candle has been snuffed out from being caught out! That's life, but you can mostly choose which port to dock your boat.

Think of your kids first and foremost because you brought them into this world!

My youngest made me a lovely present made from wire this Christmas. She asked me what I wanted and I asked her to make me an owl as they are my favourite birds. I'm so proud of her(and her big sis) I wouldn't sell this for all the tea in China(as they say.

Daddy owl in the middle with my owlets by my side. Happy owls. Twit twoo: )Anyone interested in buying any artwork like this PM me as my youngest has her own website doing wire creations, bespoke too as this is one. Thanks.

Top most mate!