Help me get my toddler to sleep

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  1. Saddleworth2

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    That was our approach for our three and it worked. They still talk to us too now they are in their thirties :-)
     
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  2. york away to this!

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    Embrace these moments. In the click of your fingers the little shit will be spending all night in the park smoking weed and inhaling laughing gas before getting that rough girl up the duff....
     
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  3. Blue Hefner

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    We don’t shout. We only have one so admittedly the sample pool is small but from my experience it’s all about routine.

    Home from nursery around 6
    A little bit of dinner/snack
    Telly for 10-15mins
    Then tell her it’s bedtime and let her turn the telly off
    Bath
    Book
    Put in cot at 7pm
    Nursery rhyme for her and her doll
    The end
    Wake up at 7am

    She understands that there are no circumstances in which she will be leaving that bedroom until 7am. None. We may get her out of the cot for a nursery rhyme if she’s had a bad dream or something but that’s about it

    Put them to bed, go downstairs, turn the monitor off for 10minutes and see how it goes. If they are still away, repeat but for 15mins - sleep training is the key

    To put it simply, there is absolutely no way you are getting you toddler to sleep through without upsetting him/her for a few days. So either do it now, or when they are older and have more stamina and can have proper tantrums
     
  4. Cable ties, packing tape and a shot of Malibu worked for our two back in the early nineties. The still visit once a year.
     
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  5. jimbopm

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    Here's what worked for me and my little girl, though she was younger and I still had the cot and I knew she wasn't going anywhere. However she would still cry her eyes out and the missus would rush straight in giving her the attention she wanted. So I had to send the missus out for a week to get things done.

    Start with a fixed routine, and make something a clear indicator that it's time for bed, like a bath, or letting them watch a certain programme on TV. Do this over and over again.

    Do all the getting ready for bed stuff in their bedroom, things like pyjamas, story time and saying goodnight, do it all in their room. Don't be tempted to win an extra five minutes peace for the sake of having them put their pyjamas on in the living room for example. Keep conversation to a minimum and lower and relax your voice, don't get drawn into a battle.

    When it's bedtime, put your child in bed, say goodnight and walk away, if they cry or get out of bed do not acknowledge them at all for one minute. After a minute has elapsed pick them up put them back in bed, say goodnight again and walk away again, repeat the process for 2 minutes, then 3 minutes etc etc. At no point get into a fight or an argument with them, the only thing I would be doing each time is picking them up, putting them in bed and saying goodnight. After a while the child will find the whole process boring and will go to sleep.

    With my little girl night one I got upto seven minute wait before she dropped off, then night two it came down to four minutes, night three it came down to two minutes. By the friday she did not cry or do anything. Put time as side to do this for the first few days and wait in your bedroom, it will be worth it if your experience is anything like mine.
     
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  6. mayo31

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    The kid has sussed you and mum are not a team already

    They also know you are a softy

    But remember even with all this advice no one kid is the same

    Good luck now
     
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  7. hammocity

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    If you are a Hammond like me and all my family, everyone of us like a drink, just start your nipper off early, bit of brandy in his milk will have the desired effect, don’t leave the bottle with him though:)
     
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  8. Hammo99

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    Haha, I’ll try that! When Mrs H isn’t looking
     
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  9. Magicpole

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    Takes me back. :)

    Little fuckers drive you mad. But a calm keep returning him to bed, maybe a nightlight like the moon previously mentioned and make a big deal about it being his to help him sleep.

    Good luck :)
     
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  10. Hammo99

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    Thanks! I think the time of the year is playing a part. It’s still light at his bedtime. We have blackout curtains but there’s that thin strip of light around them that lights the room up.
     
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