How is everyone coping?

[bobbyowenquiff]

Really really struggling now. Some times feel like giving up, I dont see a future.

Work is a fucking nightmare. Boss does sod all and says its down to us to find out own work to do.
I have never worked where there is no structure.
When I was a boss I would set out the daily and weekly work so everyone knew what they were doing.

We have no risk assessment, cosh, etc, no job specs.

At this place we are to find our own work, but it has to be the hard, sometimes heavy work. The lady member of the team has been told she doesn't need to do these as she said she cant use strimmers, hand tools, etc so does litter picking and weeding.
Most of the time she is on her phone or chatting to her mates in town when litter picking

Work are now going to demote me because I dont find the 2 lads or myself work !.

I have had enough of this bull shit, I have about 30k and am thinking of just walking away. I really hate the place.
I just want to roll up into a ball and cry my eyes out. I am 60 and hate my working life.
Its affecting my home life to as I dont speak much.

I know some people are worst if than me, but it dorsnt help me !.

I am in tears just writing this before going to work. I feel so lonely, I miss my mum and dad like crazy. My missus doesnt know what to say ir do and I find myself snapping at her when I dont mean to . I love her .

Sorry to rant again

Sorry to hear that. I think the last few months have been the hardest with Covid. I don't know what job you do but I do believe that you should always put your own and your family's health first. I was lucky enough to be able to start working as a freelance instead of for someone else. It certainly helps when you can be in charge of your own working life. I don't know if this is possible with your job. I believe we are on the last lap with this virus and I hope you resolve your situation.

 

[BLUEMATT23]

I've had to stop reading the news as it's really getting to me. I know this is negative but I just can't see us ever fully getting back to the world we had pre-Covid. I genuinely thought the vaccines would help us turn a corner and don't get me wrong, they've been a literal lifesaver, but I guess it was naive to think they would solve all the problems with the virus. The thought of continual problems with travel, pings, PCR tests etc. We have family abroad and it makes it very difficult and one of the things we loved more than anything is travelling. It's such a costly logistical nightmare now.

I appreciate I sound a little like a spoilt brat - a good portion of the world never have the luxury to go on holiday and travel - but it's also the anxiety. The inequality in the world that is causing increases in crime and unrests. Work is way more challenging for me now with Covid procedures etc. Then there's the climate crisis.

I used to belittle people who were ignorant to world news but ignoring it is the only thing that's helping me at the moment.

We will never get back to the pre covid world. Travel will just be for the rich I think and who knows maybe attending events and other stuff may be too.
The pandemic has been awful for everyone but aside from the disease I really do think that their has been an attempt from governments across the globe to use it as an excuse to "re set" things in our society.

 

[Mr. Wednesday]

Fuck it off mate as with those conditions and environment it will not get better. Your boss sounds like a lazy prick and how they can allow a member of your team to sack off heavy work tells you everything you need to know. Your health and wellbeing is by far the most important consideration here. Sit down with your Mrs and plan how you can leave. Maybe you could pick up another green keeper job. You will have specialist skill and experience to do that well.
After 40 odd years I made he decision to leave. It would have been so easy to stay on for another few years and bank the cash but I considered it a priority for my health and my families happiness. That was 9 years ago and I don't ever regret it. Whatever you do I wish you well mate and hope you feel happier soon.

@give it to gordon +1 to the above. I was in a similar situation with a job where I was desperately unhappy in it and packed it in. It was a risk as I had recently bought a house and put a strain on my relationship with my partner. But I knew it was the best thing to do for myself and thankfully I managed to get another job a few months down the line where I basically have no shit to worry about. Being stuck in a job you hate is a horrible situation and can just become all-consuming, which seems to be what you're experiencing. There's always an alternative and it's not worth putting yourself through this when it makes you so miserable. Best of luck whatever you do pal.

 

[bugsyblue]

We will never get back to the pre covid world. Travel will just be for the rich I think and who knows maybe attending events and other stuff may be too.
The pandemic has been awful for everyone but aside from the disease I really do think that their has been an attempt from governments across the globe to use it as an excuse to "re set" things in our society.

I don't think there's a global conspiracy here to "re set" things to Victorian England or whatever you're insinuating. Sure people are banking big off Covid but governments wouldn't want to stop the masses from travelling or going to events and spending money. It's counter to our economic policy. However, I think there's a real fear of how deadly and mutate-able this virus is. And whilst governments want to control it they also don't want to ruin their freedoms completely. The policies they've brought in to "contain it" definitely give freedom to the rich and fuck the poor.

Anyway, it's depressing.

 

[blue b4 the moon]

I fully agree with @Saddleworth2 & @Mr. Wednesday I was pissed off and getting more and more edgy.

Left just over 7 years ago....feels like 3 weeks even with the Covid shit going on.

If there's a way to afford it but not put your family in financial trouble GTFO. Even if money would be tight outgoings will drop with not working.

I was lucky a package was announced at work and for the first time after 34 years I was in the right place at the right time.

Due to health conditions a couple of years later my wife also had to leave work...our occupational pensions after paying in around 70 years combined aren't brilliant but you learn to adjust....cheaper season ticket, one less holiday, don't to to the dearest places to eat etc. If push comes to shove get something else once you're out less taxing/stressful. We have a happy lifestyle but on a slightly reduced budget these days.

To summarise, do the figures & leave, it's not worth it, we're all only here once.

 

[BLUEMATT23]

I don't think there's a global conspiracy here to "re set" things to Victorian England or whatever you're insinuating. Sure people are banking big off Covid but governments wouldn't want to stop the masses from travelling or going to events and spending money. It's counter to our economic policy. However, I think there's a real fear of how deadly and mutate-able this virus is. And whilst governments want to control it they also don't want to ruin their freedoms completely. The policies they've brought in to "contain it" definitely give freedom to the rich and fuck the poor.

Anyway, it's depressing.

It is and we have a clown running the country sadly, his recent press conferences have been terrible and some of the decision making this past few months have been shocking.
I hope after the pandemic review lots of them lose their jobs and SAGE is disbanded.

 

[melrose40yarder]

I was made redundant in May after 13 yrs in my job started at the bottom and worked my way up gave it my best shot everyday.Company came to us at the beginning of March to announce redundancies i jumped at it mainly because at 52 i am no longer ambitious and was fed up getting up at 3.30 in the morning along with the office politics.
I got a good package however i never thought i would struggle to get another job as i am.I am applying for jobs that are just jobs no stress or responsibility as i made up my mind a couple of years ago after 4 family deaths in 6 months needed counselling as i could not cope. One of who was my neice which hit me hard as we used to baby sit and grew up with my daughter life is to short to worry about work.I must admit not getting past the interview stage because you are over qualified can be disheartening and i have had some dark moments where i have thought about not being around luckily my wife can spot when im down and gets me to open up which always makes me feel better.She always is very supportive and her great mantra is better to be skint and happythan rolling in it and miserable.Just when u least expect it something good will happen.Well yesterday out of the blue a company i used to deal with the manager called me and asked if i was looking for a job we had a chat and the upshot is i should be starting in a couple of weeks all being well.All i can add is anyone who is feeling down do not bottle it up speak to some one be it doctor, family member,friend or stranger.It will help bottling it up and having it pecking your head will not.Got to learn to talk to people and that is what you would say to one of your mates if they were feeling down.

 

[give it to gordon]

Guess this isnt really something to do with this thread but ... my work colleague was given a verbal warning yesterday for being late twice in the last few months.

We have a member of staff who leaves 5 or 10 early every day and nothing is said.

That doesnt seem fair a warning for be late but nothing for leaving early !

At the end of the day we need to get out:(

 

[journolud]

Really really struggling now. Some times feel like giving up, I dont see a future.

Work is a fucking nightmare. Boss does sod all and says its down to us to find out own work to do.
I have never worked where there is no structure.
When I was a boss I would set out the daily and weekly work so everyone knew what they were doing.

We have no risk assessment, cosh, etc, no job specs.

At this place we are to find our own work, but it has to be the hard, sometimes heavy work. The lady member of the team has been told she doesn't need to do these as she said she cant use strimmers, hand tools, etc so does litter picking and weeding.
Most of the time she is on her phone or chatting to her mates in town when litter picking

Work are now going to demote me because I dont find the 2 lads or myself work !.

I have had enough of this bull shit, I have about 30k and am thinking of just walking away. I really hate the place.
I just want to roll up into a ball and cry my eyes out. I am 60 and hate my working life.
Its affecting my home life to as I dont speak much.

I know some people are worst if than me, but it dorsnt help me !.

I am in tears just writing this before going to work. I feel so lonely, I miss my mum and dad like crazy. My missus doesnt know what to say ir do and I find myself snapping at her when I dont mean to . I love her .

Sorry to rant again

Really sorry to hear this, you seem like a decent guy. My advice for what it’s worth is to not be hasty but to be looking around for something else and you might have to consider a different type of job. Don’t know your pay scale and I’m not asking but would a starting point be to look at that and see what other opportunities might be available?

 

[SWP's back]

We will never get back to the pre covid world. Travel will just be for the rich I think and who knows maybe attending events and other stuff may be too.

You’re a fucking crank.