Is it okay if your spouse hangs out with his/her ex?

roy.or.r said:
So I created a thread about me getting married to my girlfriend last month. We are happy together but something just bothers me sometimes. She was with her ex for 2 years before she dumped him back in 2020 and then we started dating a few months later. But she is not only in touch with her ex but she also hangs out with him sometimes. I am fine with that but it is kind of strange to me because she never spoke a single good word about him and how he always has been kind of useless and mean.

I have never been that kind of guy who sets down laws on my partners. However it is a bit awkward.

Am I being just insecure?
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BlueHammer85 said:
My brothers ex is part of the family now. Comes to all family events. His Mrs is cool with it.
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Ah that's fucking weird. My ex was the cousin of my brother in law. They were close like brothers so every event and party at their house he was there. I was with the guy for over a year and it ended very very badly. Was really awkward when attended stuff with my now husband.
Thankfully my sister divorced so no more weirdness
 
SWPISHOME said:
A mate of mine is in the same situation as you, Personally I always thought it was strange. He called around to mine one night to watch the Boxing, I asked him where is Jennifer, He said "She's back in the house with her ex". I was thinking "What the fuck!!!". Anyway, He says that herself and ex get along better as "friends" but never worked as a couple. He still OK with it all.

It wouldn't be my cup of tea to be honest, Put it this way there is absolutely zero chance a woman would let us blokes hang our with our ex partners so same rules should apply in my eyes.
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About 20 yrs ago my ex turned up at my house when the now Mrs TRB was....20 fucking yrs ago and she still manages to mention it 4 - 5 x a year regardless of the conversation.
 
roy.or.r said:
So I created a thread about me getting married to my girlfriend last month. We are happy together but something just bothers me sometimes. She was with her ex for 2 years before she dumped him back in 2020 and then we started dating a few months later. But she is not only in touch with her ex but she also hangs out with him sometimes. I am fine with that but it is kind of strange to me because she never spoke a single good word about him and how he always has been kind of useless and mean.

I have never been that kind of guy who sets down laws on my partners. However it is a bit awkward.

Am I being just insecure?
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Pics or a ban. I'll give you an hour then I'm pressing the report button (I'm assuming your gf isn't getting spit roasted in the mod room this evening).
 
I regularly see an ex who I dated for 8 years. We get on better as friends so it's all platonic. My current GF doesn't know we dated, she just thinks we are ex work colleagues which is true.
 
I suppose it depends. I know plenty of people who were friends years and in the same social circle, then got together, didnt work out and went back to having a platonic relationship. Usually then they meet someone, bring them into the social circle with exs who they probaly know a lot longer than their current partner. It would be wierd to ask them to cut ties.
 
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