When the woman came round she began the conversation by telling me that a rugby league player and a premier league footballer (not City or United before you ask, I live on Yorkshire now) had houses on the estate. So that was her angle, and the reason I didn't budge. Like that's relevant. I was smiling and saying "if you tell me what problems they are causing I will stop them immediately", but of course she couldn't, so she kept reverting back to "its private". I was ready for her because of the advice in this thread, and informed her that IF it was private I want to hear from the landowner which is NOT her.
When my wife went round one of the boys came home crying because the bloke had shouted at them. My wife was furious, hence the confrontation. I've been expecting someone to come around tonight but they haven't.
I can't believe I'm in a "neighbours from hell" type situation with a couple of jumped up snobs. I'm ready when it happens again. But the trick is not to lose your cool.