No. It's patronising. It assumes you know the innermost feelings of others simply because you can't empathise with another viewpoint. It's also fucking annoying.
You don't sound like a know it all dick. Your probably right in what your saying.
Thing is, I've not buried my head in the sand on this and assumed it's a phase she's going through. I've tried to really speak to her about it as I know from how she was that this is something that she's really struggling with because she's never felt this way before. It's almost like a switch has been flicked and she's now become very maternal despite her being quite forthright and comfortable with us planning a life without kids.
It's a proper elephant in the room at this moment though as were quite far apart on our thoughts on this.
Whatever happened to that huge dog you had ? Did you take him with you or leave him with familyNo. It's patronising. It assumes you know the innermost feelings of others simply because you can't empathise with another viewpoint. It's also fucking annoying.
Still got the big bugger. I'm two weeks in to a three week holiday and have literally just finished face timing him. Married or not, he's still my favourite thing on this planet.Whatever happened to that huge dog you had ? Did you take him with you or leave him with family
That's great, but people saying "you'll change your mind" is bullshit. And for all the reasons I've stated.It's got nothing to do with inability to empathise. I have not for one moment suggested kids are for everyone and would never tell anyone that they should have them but it is a fact that quite a lot of people who believe they do not want kids eventually find that they do. I could name people I know who fall into that category and I am sure I am not alone.
Just because we both enjoyed you sitting on my knee in the pub doesn't mean I'd mate a great dad!Its funny because having met SWP's Back on a few occasions, I think you would make a great dad!
There are plenty of fathers out there who really don't give a shit about their kids!!!
But I can appreciate that the whole kids thing isn't your thing.
It's got nothing to do with inability to empathise. I have not for one moment suggested kids are for everyone and would never tell anyone that they should have them but it is a fact that quite a lot of people who believe they do not want kids eventually find that they do. I could name people I know who fall into that category and I am sure I am not alone.
Is there not a lot of people who have kids but as time goes on look back and think that maybe they shouldn't?
I hear quite a lot "don't get me wrong, I love my kids but if I had my time again I probably wouldn't"
Also the most stress free and happiest people I know are either childless or their children have flew the nest.
Lots of people have kids without really thinking about it, the cost, the lack of freedom, the potential lack of intimacy with their partner, the lack of time to do anything other than be a parent etc etc. But the thing with kids is that there's no turning back.
I'm not saying you're incorrect by the way, just that what you've said can be reversed to those that have kids too.
That's great, but people saying "you'll change your mind" is bullshit. And for all the reasons I've stated.
I don't want kids. I hate the fucking things.