Life without kids??

I like kids, love hanging around with nieces/nephews and mates kids etc but a few hours is enough! Its good to be able to have a laugh with them and be able to hand them back when they start acting up.
 
This is what phones 'n iPads are for. I was walking back to the car after the U18 game yesterday and my phone rings and it's one of the grandsons. Grandma isn't answering her phone, Grandad. She might be driving, I say. I swivel round and say guess where I am? The Etihad, he says. He can spot it all the way from Islington.
 
RACHACE said:
A bit of a spin off from the too old thread but has anybody on here decided against having children?

Do you feel fulfilled?
Was it a joint decision with your partner?
Do you regret it?

I'm in a situation where in general I've always said that I don't want to have children. On the odd occasion my missus and I have "romanticised" about the prospect but in the end always decided that they are not for us.

Been with my missus over 10 years and in that time the subject has come up id say no mote than 3-4 times and never seriously either until now.

My wife wants us to try but I'm still seeing my future without children and looking forward to it too. However, I love her to bits and want get to be happy and it's very hard to basically tell her that she won't be a mother married to me.

Bit of a dilemma but I believe that if you both don't want children then you shouldn't have them.

In her defence she's never once demanded we try but I know she's feeling sad at the moment because I'm not willing to try.

So are kids really all that?
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Yes that are imho, my kids and my grandkids, I have 3 gks and it’s not all sunshine and rainbows but a large part of it is.
 
BlueMoonday said:
Really hate people being judgemental over not having kids.

We often receive comments about not having kids etc. Mind your own f*cking business, it doesn't impact your life.
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I can't get my head around being judged liked that, it's no one else's business. Me if I had my time again kids would be the last thing I'd want, I'd have more dog's at least they're happy to see you when you get unlike my teenage daughter's.
 
Putting someone else’s life ahead of mine for 18 plus years doesn’t sound remotely appealing.

Knowing I’m likely to pass bowel cancer down the male line (grandad, dad, me) has sealed it.

NEVER give it “LOL! You ain’t got kids” because you don’t know the reasons. I lost it with a barmaid in a pub once for doing that to me.
 
MCFC Wirral said:
NEVER give it “LOL! You ain’t got kids” because you don’t know the reasons. I lost it with a barmaid in a pub once for doing that to me.
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No idea why anyone would ever say that. It doesn't affect anybody else in the slightest and it's none of their business.

Parenthood isn't for everybody and there are people who have children that really probably shouldn't. I'm glad I had children but each to their own.
 
KnaresboroughBlue said:
No idea why anyone would ever say that. It doesn't affect anybody else in the slightest and it's none of their business.

Parenthood isn't for everybody and there are people who have children that really probably shouldn't. I'm glad I had children but each to their own.
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Her insecurities. Single mum worked two jobs with an absent dad. She told a story about her son rejecting his dinner. She then gave him money for sausage and chips which he decided against. She then ordered him a pizza. I got everyone in the pub to agree he ate what he was given or got nothing.

I’ve worked family and divorce cases at the court and numerous scrotes should be prevented from breeding.
 
MCFC Wirral said:
Putting someone else’s life ahead of mine for 18 plus years doesn’t sound remotely appealing.

Knowing I’m likely to pass bowel cancer down the male line (grandad, dad, me) has sealed it.

NEVER give it “LOL! You ain’t got kids” because you don’t know the reasons. I lost it with a barmaid in a pub once for doing that to me.
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She sounds like a right c*nt.

If you measure/judge somebody's life by whether or not you have kids then you are a moron.
 
Good topic and one that upsets me most ti be honest.
I'll open up completely on this
I'm.48 and had a few relationships but nothing long standing beyond 2 years.
Growing up all I wanted to do was marry and be a dad, too be honest I still do.
When I go to a game I wish I had someone to take but I haven't and probably now it's too late. Maybe Ive been too selfish at times.
I've accomplished so much, done 3 marathons and training for my 4th, coped with both mum and dad dying so young.
Yet something is missing still.
Sometimes I feel I've completely failed.

I think I'm a reminder really that despite people saying I'm a nice guy not everyone gets to get what they want in life.
 
I married two men who didnt want kids , i was never really maternal but i could have been persuaded into having them i think . I dont regret not having them though and how my life has turned out health wise it was just as well
 
Sale Moor Blue said:
Good topic and one that upsets me most ti be honest.
I'll open up completely on this
I'm.48 and had a few relationships but nothing long standing beyond 2 years.
Growing up all I wanted to do was marry and be a dad, too be honest I still do.
When I go to a game I wish I had someone to take but I haven't and probably now it's too late. Maybe Ive been too selfish at times.
I've accomplished so much, done 3 marathons and training for my 4th, coped with both mum and dad dying so young.
Yet something is missing still.
Sometimes I feel I've completely failed.

I think I'm a reminder really that despite people saying I'm a nice guy not everyone gets to get what they want in life.
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For what it's worth mate you come across as a very nice guy in that post.
 
Sale Moor Blue said:
Good topic and one that upsets me most ti be honest.
I'll open up completely on this
I'm.48 and had a few relationships but nothing long standing beyond 2 years.
Growing up all I wanted to do was marry and be a dad, too be honest I still do.
When I go to a game I wish I had someone to take but I haven't and probably now it's too late. Maybe Ive been too selfish at times.
I've accomplished so much, done 3 marathons and training for my 4th, coped with both mum and dad dying so young.
Yet something is missing still.
Sometimes I feel I've completely failed.

I think I'm a reminder really that despite people saying I'm a nice guy not everyone gets to get what they want in life.
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Sounds to me that you're the type that's motivated enough to make the most of any circumstance. That, in my eyes is success mate.
 
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