Life without kids??

For the OP.
My guess is your missus is now in her late 20s to mid 30s. The fact is, her need to have kids will now only grow stronger until she either has them or hits the menopause. You will need to make a choice sooner or later and it won't be easy.
 
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I was on the beach yesterday with my 2 (10 +9) . They love playing and swimming in the surf. I never had kids till I was in my late 30s and tbh never had the time to really gel with them as work was always there. Wish I could turn back the clock but try to give them quality time when I see them as I work away a lot. Time is flying by at such a rate and its a strange dilemma, do I work as hard as I can or see more of them. I just want to leave them something when I finally shuffle of.
 
MCFCTrick said:
Was in the plan in the beginning .... but when we 'went for it', it just never happened, and we decided not to go down the route of medical help etc, but took the view, if it happens, it happens. It didn't, and neither of us are fussed about it. We have nephews and friend's kids to enjoy, without the pain bits.

Some with kids may think we are missing out, but hey, you can't miss what you haven't had ....
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Exactly the same for us though I suspect we've got child replacements with 2 dogs and a cat. I never had that massive drive to become a mum I think partly because I've got 2 older sisters who had kids and so the pressure was never on me. So no kids, happy marriage and a job I love which seems OK to me.
 
RACHACE said:
A bit of a spin off from the too old thread but has anybody on here decided against having children?

Do you feel fulfilled?
Was it a joint decision with your partner?
Do you regret it?

I'm in a situation where in general I've always said that I don't want to have children. On the odd occasion my missus and I have "romanticised" about the prospect but in the end always decided that they are not for us.

Been with my missus over 10 years and in that time the subject has come up id say no mote than 3-4 times and never seriously either until now.

My wife wants us to try but I'm still seeing my future without children and looking forward to it too. However, I love her to bits and want get to be happy and it's very hard to basically tell her that she won't be a mother married to me.

Bit of a dilemma but I believe that if you both don't want children then you shouldn't have them.

In her defence she's never once demanded we try but I know she's feeling sad at the moment because I'm not willing to try.

So are kids really all that?
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If you're not rowing in the same direction, you're pulling in different directions.

If not dealt with, a slither becomes a chink becomes a crack becomes a split.

When one person starts with these thoughts, it's a seed that will grow.

Just sayin'...
 
I have 1 and I wouldn't swap it for the world. For me the important thing is not letting it totally rule your life. Me and my wife still have plenty of nights out, holidays, I have my season ticket etc, weekends away, I just don't do it like I did before kids. The first year I'd say is really tough, but he is 5 now and I know it sounds very cliche, but he really is like my best mate. He's into footy, like city, cars, playing out etc, just what I dreamt he'd be like.

Everyone is different, but the good outweighs any bad by a country mile for me. I was scared shitless before hand, but never regretted it once he was born.
 
I'm 36 and don't want children. I've become used to being independent and am so one track minded now that I'd make a terrible dad. I also don't want the responsibility. I've had my nephew on various occasions like when he was about 7 or 10 and couldn't wait to hand him back. He was knackering because he's full of energy and talks non stop. I'm unsure if I could take on someone elses children but I wouldn't expect to come first in the mum's life. She'd be the parent and not me. I had a friend who was forced out of the family by a bullying stepdad who drove a wedge between him and the mum. He's since disowned her.

I am single at the moment and wouldn't get in to a relationship without a clear agreement about children. I'm not having any.
 
I have a nephew who is adamant that he doesn't want kids. He recently split up with his long term partner because she wanted them and he didn't. He thought it kinder on her to split now and let her find someone who does want them.
 
We both work in education and are with kids all day. Neither of us wants kids of our own. I can't wait to get old in peace and quiet.
 
If they are shit ones can i give em back for a better one? I know they used to chuck shit kids in the river but i don't think that is allowed now.
 
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