Manners

[sky tot]

I helped a lady with a heavy suitcase off the train the other week ,people just walked off soon as the doors opened . She was very thankful but once I offered a young mum to help her off the train again with her young child in its buggy ans she basically barked me NO .
It won't put me off be polite and helpfull though it's the way I was brought up .

 

[dazdon]

Bluebear could be one of a dying breed.

She sounds by all accounts a gentlewoman which isn't a weakness it's a lovely trait.

 

[kinkladz-ade]

I work on the 11th floor and I'm up and down in the lift all the time going out for a smoke. Some guys always wait and make sure they let me go first out of the lift some other guts just barge past me and go out first.

I always think ignorant tosser you must drive a BMW lol the other day some rude twat just walked out of the lift before me all suited and booted but the builder with his rigger boots said - after you Diane and let me go first.

I know who I respect more

You are right, that is just decent manners letting a lady go first. Although I was in London last week, on the tube, was sitting down and noticed that there was a pregnant lady standing up. I was annoyed that nobody offered her a seat so I got up straight away and gave her my seat. Then when she sat down and the way she sat down I realised she wasn't pregnant but just a bit of a round lady.

To be honest Diane, the whole feminist thing has made things a bit confusing. I was in a club with some female friends when a guy was harassing one of my mates I stepped in (thinking I am being a gentleman) and told him to get lost. My friend afterwards was like "I can take care of myself I don't need you to protect me from some loser". A few months later a similar thing happened and I just ignored it and then overheard the girls saying that us guys didn't bother saying anything when one of them was being harassed.
I don't know what to do now.

 

[BlueBearBoots]

I work on the 11th floor and I'm up and down in the lift all the time going out for a smoke. Some guys always wait and make sure they let me go first out of the lift some other guts just barge past me and go out first.

I always think ignorant tosser you must drive a BMW lol the other day some rude twat just walked out of the lift before me all suited and booted but the builder with his rigger boots said - after you Diane and let me go first.

I know who I respect more

You are right, that is just decent manners letting a lady go first. Although I was in London last week, on the tube, was sitting down and noticed that there was a pregnant lady standing up. I was annoyed that nobody offered her a seat so I got up straight away and gave her my seat. Then when she sat down and the way she sat down I realised she wasn't pregnant but just a bit of a round lady.

To be honest Diane, the whole feminist thing has made things a bit confusing. I was in a club with some female friends when a guy was harassing one of my mates I stepped in (thinking I am being a gentleman) and told him to get lost. My friend afterwards was like "I can take care of myself I don't need you to protect me from some loser". A few months later a similar thing happened and I just ignored it and then overheard the girls saying that us guys didn't bother saying anything when one of them was being harassed.
I don't know what to do now.

Ade for me it will always be right for a bloke to look out for me and be respectful, any woman that sniffs st this is bloody stupid it's not sexist it's just good manners :)

 

[NPBlue]

I like to think I have good manners, and I will hold a door open for anyone, male or female. I dislike it intensely when I am walking up to a door and the person in front just lets it shut behind them even though I am just a few paces behind.

I am a coach driver, and I like to help people loading and unloading their bags. Some people are willing to let you do it for them, and thank you for your efforts. Others are determined to do it for themselves, even though they struggle and refuse all offers of help, and it doesn't seem to matter what gender they are.

I suppose it depends on the individual. Some people like to be helped, and others don't.

Good manners don't cost anything, and I will always offer to help, but sometimes you are just wasting your time.

 

[maccadon]

I hold the door for pretty lasses.gives me a chance check out their arse

 

[gordondaviesmoustache]

Good manners cost fuck all.

 

[BlueBearBoots]

Quite heartwarming seems blues in the main have good manners.

:)

 

[ob]

I hold door open for anyone (male or female). When I came to London at the start I got up to give me seat to any female on the bus but now I only do it for anyone with kid, anyone elderly, or pregnant woman. If woman does same job as me I expect she should be paid the same but if earning same got to pay her way a bit.

When I meet up with my ex for coffee I pay 3 weeks out of 4 She only pays week after her payday.

I always say please and thank you in any shop or to bus driver when getting on and when getting off buses

 

[bgblue]

I do all the door opening, bag carrying stuff. Just comes naturally. But on the other hand, I sometimes ask my wife to get me a drink, so hopefully the fellas at the bar will let her push in, trouble is she's quite small :(