Parents threatening their children

what’s the neighbour like when you talk with her?

I asked her to turn down her RnB racket once, and she just nodded without saying anything then turned it down a little bit.

If you're calling your infant children cunts and so on every day and threatening to batter them every hour then she's probably not the kind of person to have a civil conversation with about it, although it's probably difficult to have a non-emotive conversation with anyone on that subject.

I've been out in the garden and raised my voice to whoever I've been speaking to so she can hear me, and said 'fancy talking to your kids like that' before so she can hear me but she's not either not heard me or not taken a word of it in.
 
Is there a Dad or a bloke around the place? She may be struggling to manage or cope. If you make the authorities aware she may actually be glad of the intervention and some help perhaps

I don't know about Dad but she has a few men round, normally smoking weed in the back. They don't seem like the type to pitch in with parenting.
 
I asked her to turn down her RnB racket once, and she just nodded without saying anything then turned it down a little bit.

If you're calling your infant children cunts and so on every day and threatening to batter them every hour then she's probably not the kind of person to have a civil conversation with about it, although it's probably difficult to have a non-emotive conversation with anyone on that subject.

I've been out in the garden and raised my voice to whoever I've been speaking to so she can hear me, and said 'fancy talking to your kids like that' before so she can hear me but she's not either not heard me or not taken a word of it in.

She'll be lucky if her kids don't stab her in the fucking throat with a steak knife one day.
 
The kind of abuse that affects children the most is constant shouting, emotional abuse and belittling, leaving children confused and frightened. It affects their sense of well-being, confidence, self esteem and stays with them for life. I’m still surprised in this day and age that people think it’s ok so long as they aren’t hit or marked, as some people have alluded to on this thread. Many of us were hit by parents that cared for and loved us. That was then and we were emotionally resilient because we were loved. Yet ask any adult who was constantly put down, screamed at and had their sense of worth shattered as a kid what that was like and they will break your heart with how it has affected them for life. I work with children and adults who have suffered trauma and suffering at both ends of the spectrum. Take it from me, if this is not an isolated incident do something about it... don’t sit back and think it’s somebody else’s responsibility. Safeguarding children is everybody’s responsibility.
My dad took a perverse delight in belittling me on every possible occasion. I've suffered from lack of confidence all my life. What your parents do has a massive effect on your life. Glad to say, I realised this when I became a dad and my kids (now in their 30s) are fine.
 
That's what I'm wrestling with at the minute.

Emotional abuse can be just as destructive as physical abuse and hearing the way she constantly bullies and screams at them at the top of her voice angers me when the kids have done very little/nothing to deserve it.

I think there are probably two main types of children when it comes to dealing with parents who become physical/strict to the point of abusive:

1. Those who can deal with it and as they grow older, almost wear it with a badge of pride.
2, Those who can't deal with it and go quiet/shy/asocial and let it ruin their lives.

My neighbour's kids, I hope, fall under the first category. I've not seen them with any physical injuries, and they seem social and fairly normal if a little naughty at times (when out of the house), but sadly they look like they'll end up like their mum in terms of their behaviour and so the cycle will invariably continue. For those reasons, I'm leaning towards not reporting her at the minute but if it gets any worse then I will.

I know a few people who fall under the second category and most of them have had their lives ruined/badly affected by it and so many of them are alcoholics as a means of dealing with it. I'd hate for that to happen here and agree with your last sentence but obviously the difficult bit is whether and when to intervene if you've not got the full picture.
There is nothing to wrestle with. Report it. Or, PM me the details and I'll report it. There is zero place for any parent who, as you state, "constantly bullies" their children. Zero.
 
Never got threatened when I was a kid in the 70s. Just got a good hiding offm and dad.Not condoning violence nowadays towards kids, just that times we're different then and I had respect for my parents, unlike many kids nowadays.
My son and daughter have the utmost respect for me and my wife. Neither of us have ever laid a finger on them, or threatened them. Absolute, utter bollocks that kids need a firm hand now and again to toe the line.
 

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