Scared of dying

[bluemoon98]

I know I shouldn't be concerned being im only 15 but some nights I think about death and get really worried about what happens when we die and if it is entirely black - I get shakey ( I am now talking about it). I think it might be down to my brothers death when he was only just 19 and how he is or if anything is different to what people suspect. Thoughts?

 

[117 M34]

You will get eaten my maggots and worms. I wouldn't worry about it though, you won't feel a thing.

Get yourself a bird and find something do to take your mind off dying.

 

[ErlingHaaland]

Won't go into detail but I had to have a brain scan the other week and got the all clear yesterday ! The thought of death / dying did cross my mind but I come to the thought of their wasn't anything I could do to stop it !!

Enjoy life while you can .

 

[roaminblue]

Sounds like a bit of an existentialist crisis. I believe its may actually be called existential death anxiety. On one hand, yes its disturbing, on the other, its a testament to how far we have come as a species in that we are extremely self aware.

But that's not comforting in the slightest.

The problem is there is not a great deal that can be done about it. Therefore emphasis must be placed upon making the most of it no?

Good news is that death anxiety declines massively as we live beyond 65, so it should get better.

There probably people who you can speak to, if its a big problem. Freud would argue that its a mask for another issue in your life that you aren't ready to confront. But there are support groups for all sorts of things, one would imagine this is no exception!

 

[Bluemoon115]

I know I shouldn't be concerned being im only 15 but some nights I think about death and get really worried about what happens when we die and if it is entirely black - I get shakey ( I am now talking about it). I think it might be down to my brothers death when he was only just 19 and how he is or if anything is different to what people suspect. Thoughts?

At your age I was the exact same for a while. I watched a film set something like 200 years into the future, and knowing I'd be long gone by then properly freaked me out. Any time I thought about it a felt powerless/upset etc.

It passes. Until it does, don't think about it too much. Just try and enjoy yourself and find as many distractions as you can.

 

[1961_vintage]

What happened to your brother?

 

[bluemoon98]

What happened to your brother?

Stupidly enough, he used to sleep round a lot of his friends houses and when he was there was using cocaine and other substances. One day, he experienced chest pains and not wanting to tell the doctor with my mum present with him, about his drug use said that might be due to lack of exercise and putting on weight rapidly leading to not having tests but encouraging to do low intensity exercise. In the end. he had a heart attack because of his drug use and the doctors told my mum. She has always been angry with him for not saying when he went to the doctors and definitely a lesson for me to not get involved with the things.

 

[Why Always Ste]

I recently went into a coma, was in intensive care for 4wks and during the time I had died and gone onto the life support machine, all I had was very intense, almost real like dreams, in particular one in which I was just on this passenger aeroplane.
The dream felt like 30mins but it was for over a month.

You shouldn't fear death. This is the good phase of existence....
Pain is far worse.

 

[scotty123]

I have lost 28 people who were very close to me in the last 20 years both family and friends, 10 were Blues I have known for donkeys years, 2 were since Christmas, I have come to realise we are not immortal so I do not fear it anymore

 

[1961_vintage]

What happened to your brother?

Stupidly enough, he used to sleep round a lot of his friends houses and when he was there was using cocaine and other substances. In the end. he had a heart attack because of his drug use and the doctors told my mum.

OK firstly I'm really sorry to hear about what happened to your brother. That is an incredibly tough thing to have to deal with at your age and I hope that you have and use all the support of your friends and family in terms of dealing with your grief.

At a more practical level - have you been checked-out medically to ensure that you are not at risk yourself? It is not unreasonable for your GP to make sure that any medical issues are identified and dealt with. A clean bill of health from the medics would then give you some re-assurances and confidence and hopefully help you deal with your anxiety.