Spiritulists........yay or nay?

[SkyBlueFlux]

I've never been to one but if it gives you comfort they why not ? You should do what feels right for you

I'm with girlbob. If it makes you feel better then go for it.

I know I'm in danger of sounding belligerent, but my mum went to one of these people when she was at a difficult point in her life because she thought it would make her 'feel better'.

The medium gave her a false hope that things would get better in very specific ways. When they didn't get any better but in fact got much worse she ended up on anti-depressants.

I'm not saying the medium caused that directly but the fact that my mum didn't learn to properly deal with her issues when things first started to go badly and instead went along thinking 'oh they'll start getting better any day now' led to her being unprepared when things ultimately got much worse.

I'm not trying to be a dick but this kind of 'whatever makes you feel better attitude' is potentially dangerous. Plowing into crisps and junk food makes people feel better, but I wouldn't recommend they do that either.

 

[Danielmanc]

I've never been to one but if it gives you comfort they why not ? You should do what feels right for you

I'm with girlbob. If it makes you feel better then go for it.

I know I'm in danger of sounding belligerent, but my mum went to one of these people when she was at a difficult point in her life because she thought it would make her 'feel better'.

The medium gave her a false hope that things would get better in very specific ways. When they didn't get any better but in fact got much worse she ended up on anti-depressants.

I'm not saying the medium caused that directly but the fact that my mum didn't learn to properly deal with her issues when things first started to go badly and instead went along thinking 'oh they'll start getting better any day now' led to her being unprepared when things ultimately got much worse.

I'm not trying to be a dick but this kind of 'whatever makes you feel better attitude' is potentially dangerous. Plowing into crisps and junk food makes people feel better, but I wouldn't recommend they do that either.

I agree with this. What "makes you feel better" isn't necessarily good for you. These spiritualist charletans exploit people when they are vulnerable.

 

[Why Always Ste]

They are scum, preying on the vulnerable for a quick buck.

Fancy coming down here and calling my own Mother Scum?

 

[Danielmanc]

They are scum, preying on the vulnerable for a quick buck.

Fancy coming down here and calling my own Mother Scum?

If she's genuine, she would be expecting him

 

[StrangewaysHereWeCome]

My stepdad died when I was 16 and my mum starting going to the spiritualist church. She got a great deal of comfort from it but as far I'm concerned it was all bollocks. She was still a regular attendee right up until she died. She even played the organ for them at the services, it's not all sitting in a circle and talking to imaginary ghosts. They do actually have services and sing hymns and shit.
I even had one of their ministers conduct her funeral because that's what she wanted. Even though her own brother and his family refused to attend because of their own religious beliefs.

Although it was undoubtedly a great comfort to her at a difficult time and continued to be up until her death, it's always left a slightly bitter taste in my mouth.
I never knew my biological father and even though I classed my stepdad as my real dad, there was always the need to meet the sperm donor, just out of curiosity if nothing else.
My beef with the shysters posing as mediums is that they told her he was dead and she was convinced of the fact. She'd thought he was dead years before when he suddenly stopped paying child support after never missing a week in 12 years, and having a medium tell her too, just convinced her more. I took her at her word and put it out of my mind.
Ten years after she died I was looking at the genes reunited website and was stunned and more than a little gutted to find out he'd only recently died.
I've never blamed my mum for that but it hurt for a long time that I wasted all those years when I could have confronted him and asked him the questions that no doubt many bastards grow up wanting to know.

Sorry for the language but, fucking hell mate, that is gutting.

 

[BlueMo']

Nay

 

[manimanc]

During the last few months, I've lost two very close people to me. One was a relative and the other a good friend. Sadly, and wrongly on my behalf, I never got the chance to tell them how much they meant to me, as they were both taken suddenly. I'm considering seeing a spiritualist to hopefully get 'in touch' with them, so I can say the things that got left unsaid. Maybe part of me wants some kind of proof that the end is not the end, and their happy in whatever place they are, part of me wants to say 'thank you for everything', and a little bit of me, thinks I'm being a dickhead. Has anyone used a spiritualist and found it a help or should I let them rest in peace and treasure the memories? Thanks.

dont waste your time mate its bollocks.

if you were close to them they'll know how you feel.

what`s bollocks,spiritualists?
they`ll know how he feels? they being his relatives who have died?
how can dead people know how they feel,they`re dead arn`t they,isn`t it bollocks you said?
oh by the way,i`m 200% believer in spiritualists,if you`re comfortable in going to see one then go for it mate..

 

[OurCity]

Its right to be sceptical as there a lot more dodgy mediums out there than genuine ones. Even good mediums get it wrong a lot of the time.

Speaking from my experience. I went to see one at a very low point in my life, and was told something very personal about a meeting I had with this particular dead relative, that just convinced me from that moment that it's not all bull. That was 14 years ago and I remain convinced to this day.

The medium was a complete stranger and knew nothing about me or my situation. It would have been a one in a million guess for him to say what he did. Maybe he got lucky, but I don't think so.

To the OP, best advice is maybe to stay away as you're more likely to find a duff one, but if you do go, don't expect to get anything and give nothing away when you talk. Good luck.

 

[Danielmanc]

During the last few months, I've lost two very close people to me. One was a relative and the other a good friend. Sadly, and wrongly on my behalf, I never got the chance to tell them how much they meant to me, as they were both taken suddenly. I'm considering seeing a spiritualist to hopefully get 'in touch' with them, so I can say the things that got left unsaid. Maybe part of me wants some kind of proof that the end is not the end, and their happy in whatever place they are, part of me wants to say 'thank you for everything', and a little bit of me, thinks I'm being a dickhead. Has anyone used a spiritualist and found it a help or should I let them rest in peace and treasure the memories? Thanks.

dont waste your time mate its bollocks.

if you were close to them they'll know how you feel.

what`s bollocks,spiritualists?
they`ll know how he feels? they being his relatives who have died?
how can dead people know how they feel,they`re dead arn`t they,isn`t it bollocks you said?
oh by the way,i`m 200% believer in spiritualists,if you`re comfortable in going to see one then go for it mate..

I think the point was that they would know when they were living.

The dead know nothing, they are dead.

 

[Ovo]

I've never been to one but if it gives you comfort they why not ? You should do what feels right for you

I'm with girlbob. If it makes you feel better then go for it.

I know I'm in danger of sounding belligerent, but my mum went to one of these people when she was at a difficult point in her life because she thought it would make her 'feel better'.

The medium gave her a false hope that things would get better in very specific ways. When they didn't get any better but in fact got much worse she ended up on anti-depressants.

I'm not saying the medium caused that directly but the fact that my mum didn't learn to properly deal with her issues when things first started to go badly and instead went along thinking 'oh they'll start getting better any day now' led to her being unprepared when things ultimately got much worse.

I'm not trying to be a dick but this kind of 'whatever makes you feel better attitude' is potentially dangerous. Plowing into crisps and junk food makes people feel better, but I wouldn't recommend they do that either.

It's all about opinions mate. I seen one when I was a bit younger and had been suffering from depression, I was afraid to leave the house and in a real bad way. She helped me through it and my life has been brilliant ever since I seen her those years before hand and it's still great now to be honest. I keep in touch with her because she helped and I appreciate her help ever so much.