Scattering family/loved one's ashes.

BlueMoonRisin’ said:
Hi pal. My eldest daughter recently mentioned ashes being made into jewellery pieces, something i was unaware of. I think she'd like some of her grandma's ashes made into jewellery or an ornament as a keep sake. Have you seen any ashes jewellery, Bigga?
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My ex had one made from her Grandma and her other fam members had some done.

Might be cathartic for you, in a way.

I've told my kids they can do whatever they want with my ashes, just don't want to be buried where they'd have to travel/ feel guilty about not being able to go to a cem.

It's not what I'd want for them after seeing my Ma struggle with guilt when the weather turns bad and such to see my brother/ her Son.

I'll NEVER want that for any of my fam.
 
Protein Junkie said:
Condolences to you BMR - thoughts are with you.
My late wife was cremated and I bought a plot at the local cemetery with a grave stone.
It’s nice to visit there when I can. To me it’s better than casting them into the wind.
I also used a very small portion of the ashes to have two cremation tattoos.
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I'm just the same. My late wife is in Brooklands cemetery, and both me and the kids (now 40 and 36, but they're still my kids) go and clean the grave, and put flowers down. Her parents' grave is in the same cemetery.
My mum and dad's ashes were scattered at Duky crem. My mum's ashes were scattered on a windy day, and my youngest daughter ending up standing in a snowstorm, much to her disgust!
 
Kinkladze 1 said:
Just scatter them in places where she enjoyed being or where held nice memories for her or in places where you had good times together. Some of my mums are at Hollingworth Lake.
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Hollingworth lake is where my dad first took my fishing aged 6. I remember a copper asking my dad to wind the window down in the car. He asked dad where we were going and dad replied "fishing". He also so I asked if he was my dad and I said "yes". He had a nosey in the car and could see tackle which appeased him. This was not long after Brady and Hindley were arrested so fair play to him being alert in stopping us at 4am in the morning.

Mum loved to take her (our) Jack Russell dog Benji for a walk on fields near where we lived, so I think she would like some ashes scattered there.
 
Bigga said:
My ex had one made from her Grandma and her other fam members had some done.

Might be cathartic for you, in a way.

I've told my kids they can do whatever they want with my ashes, just don't want to be buried where they'd have to travel/ feel guilty about not being able to go to a cem.

It's not what I'd want for them after seeing my Ma struggle with guilt when the weather turns bad and such to see my brother/ her Son.

I'll NEVER want that for any of my fam.
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Definitely be cathartic for my eldest i think. Not me as i don't wear any jewellery. Worth her considering and i think it's a good idea.
 
BlueMoonRisin’ said:
Definitely be cathartic for my eldest i think. Not me as i don't wear any jewellery. Worth her considering and i think it's a good idea.
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I say "cathartic" as the way I think of it 'out of sight, out of mind' becomes laden with guilt when one remembers to go cem or life pushes love for whomever into the background.

I don't wear jewellery, but I would break my own rule for someone I, truly, cared for and they were fine with cremation.

That's just how I think, so not a reflection on you, at all.
 
My father we scattered in the gardens in town where he met my mum.
My wifes father always said he wanted a viking burial, so we had a model wooden viking boat made put his ashes in and put it alight down the river, played the Vikings theme too. We scattered her mum in the same spot.
 
BlueMoonRisin’ said:
I've recently been thinking about scattering my mum's ashes. Some of you are aware of me mentioning her passing last Sunday. She is being creamated but never said if she wants her ashes(or some of) scattering or not.

My dad died in 2004 and didn't say either but i dug a hole at the end of a fishing pond we fished together and and planted a tree there. Glad to say the tree has grown and is around 15ft high now. Dad would have definitely appreciated that i think.

I will bury some of mum's ashes in her garden and other family members may want to keep some in a urn.

Just wondering where you scattered or buried your loved one's ashes?
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Mum died in April. Will take he back to arbroath and scatter ashes on family plot which is full. Any thing left will go in the north sea. When dad died a while we put ashes in garden not sure how much we transferred to a planter
 
We’re actually doing this for my Mum next weekend. Personally I haven’t an interest in where they are. It’s not somewhere I’ll go to anyway. If I want to remember her I’ll probably go to the houses we lived in during her life, or the parks and places we went to; I certainly wouldn’t have any interest in going to a cemetery or churchyard, or a ‘chosen place’, and she definitely didn’t express a location or wish. But we’re all different, and other people, even other members of my own close family can and do feel differently.
Oh, and there’s a lot of ashes from one body isn’t there? I didn’t realise there were as many rules as there are about where you can scatter them tbh.
 
BlueMoonRisin’ said:
I've recently been thinking about scattering my mum's ashes. Some of you are aware of me mentioning her passing last Sunday. She is being creamated but never said if she wants her ashes(or some of) scattering or not.

My dad died in 2004 and didn't say either but i dug a hole at the end of a fishing pond we fished together and and planted a tree there. Glad to say the tree has grown and is around 15ft high now. Dad would have definitely appreciated that i think.

I will bury some of mum's ashes in her garden and other family members may want to keep some in a urn.

Just wondering where you scattered or buried your loved one's ashes?
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Me Da didn't have any wishes 'chuck me in the me in the nearest hole' was generally his mantra basically meaning he didn't give a fuck and none of us are of faith.

Died during lockdown and couldn't have a properly attended funeral so just had him toasted.

Only managed to arrange a 'gathering' a couple of months ago on his second anniversary-ish for him (the height of glamour at the Working Men's Club in Newton Heath).

Took him over to Castletown Bear (pretty much as south and west of Ireland you can go before falling into the Atlantic) and covered his ashes into a grave with some relatives.

Saved one little tipple of him to climb up Hungry Hill on my next visit (it's not a hill it's a fucking mountain) and smudge him on a rock up there................
 
A bunch of us took a friend’s ashes to the top of our local ski hill. He loved skiing and kayaking so I threw his Urn over the cliffs on top. We saw a big dust cloud, we saluted him with beers. Figured it would snow on him then carry him down River when it melted
 
Hope you are ok as can be BMR?

My brother passed away 42 years ago last week aged 21.
My parents scattered his ashes by this small tree in the crematorium. When my dad passed away 2007, we found out the tree had grown so large they had to cut it down. My dad's ashes were scattered around the site of the tree, as was my mum's 3 years ago.
 
Planting a tree and cutting-in her ashes into the soil is perfect I think BMR. A living thing that will grow and also be a focal point. You can have a block next to it with a plaque and your Mum's name etc.

Whatever you decide, it will be the right decision.
 
Nebuchadnezzar said:
Great choice, spent some time down there in May.
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Such a beautiful place to spend time - I love it (an absolute bastard to get to mind).

Just spent about the last 20 minutes trying to attach a photo of the view from Uncle & Aunties place (was my Nana's before she died) but apparently the photo is too big to attach. Stunning and I can stand and enjoy it for ages.

Still doesn't do it justice but a nice insight all the same...........
 
My Mum and Step Dad are buried in Chichester Cathedral. My mad Aunty took some ashes out when the frock bloke wasn't looking so I have a small acorn full of her sitting on my music room window.

My Dad is in a church graveyard about 10 miles away. Small village, peaceful, and buried next to one of his drinking pals who died the day after. I suspect he's ok!
 
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