Lost my mum today.

crublue1 said:
Had a call to say she wasn't answering her phone.
I left work and went round, she had fallen and had passed away.
She had turned the lights and telly off and was on her way to bed.
She fell last week and I offered to stay with her for a few days but she said no.
I feel so guilty, I should have insisted. She was 89.
I'm fucking gutted. If I'd been there it might not have happened.
She was a lovely, kind woman, never judged anyone or anything.
She grew up with nothing, yet spent the latter years of her life working in a charity shop.
Born in alty, as was I, she was a red, and loved United as much as I love city. Her dad was blue, so i guessed she rebelled, as i did. She didn't mind at all that I chose city.
We watched the Derby together on Sunday, I don't begrudge her that win, and she never ever gloated.
We watched it hand in hand, I think she knew her time was near.
She was almost happy for city's successful recent years, she had seen enough red success to last a lifetime.
I'm so sad, when my dad went I didn't lose my dad, because he had dementia, I lost the guy that used to be my dad. Somehow that made it easier.
I've lost a wonderful human being that I'm so lucky to have had as a mum.
Sorry for the long type, I just needed to let it out.
RIP Sylvia
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So sorry mate, lost my father, my hero 12 months ago, it's fucking hard. The only comfort I can give is like my dad you were blessed to have known such a wonderful human being. That can never be taken away the memories and the love.

Rip to your mother and my thoughts are with you.
 
hilts said:
So sorry mate, lost my father, my hero 12 months ago, it's fucking hard. The only comfort I can give is like my dad you were blessed to have known such a wonderful human being. That can never be taken away the memories and the love.

Rip to your mother and my thoughts are with you.
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Thank you hilty.
 
crublue1 said:
Had a call to say she wasn't answering her phone.
I left work and went round, she had fallen and had passed away.
She had turned the lights and telly off and was on her way to bed.
She fell last week and I offered to stay with her for a few days but she said no.
I feel so guilty, I should have insisted. She was 89.
I'm fucking gutted. If I'd been there it might not have happened.
She was a lovely, kind woman, never judged anyone or anything.
She grew up with nothing, yet spent the latter years of her life working in a charity shop.
Born in alty, as was I, she was a red, and loved United as much as I love city. Her dad was blue, so i guessed she rebelled, as i did. She didn't mind at all that I chose city.
We watched the Derby together on Sunday, I don't begrudge her that win, and she never ever gloated.
We watched it hand in hand, I think she knew her time was near.
She was almost happy for city's successful recent years, she had seen enough red success to last a lifetime.
I'm so sad, when my dad went I didn't lose my dad, because he had dementia, I lost the guy that used to be my dad. Somehow that made it easier.
I've lost a wonderful human being that I'm so lucky to have had as a mum.
Sorry for the long type, I just needed to let it out.
RIP Sylvia
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Tell you what this is one sadest/ best posts Ive read on here, my mum was a red dad a blue,who says mixed marriages don't work both gone now you never forget them though. Take comfort in you loved your mum and she loved you.
 
i kne albert davy said:
Tell you what this is one sadest/ best posts Ive read on here, my mum was a red dad a blue,who says mixed marriages don't work both gone now you never forget them though. Take comfort in you loved your mum and she loved you.
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Thank you mate. May your parents rest in peace.
 
hammocity said:
The worst day of my life when my mum passed, it won't feel like it now but in time you'll look back on your fond memories of your dear mum.

My Dad passed three us years later at 89, he'd suffered a lot after my Mum passed, Covid didn't help. A friend of mine said "you're not a proper adult until you've lost both your parents" it's kind of true as although my responsibilities were looking after my Dad I still looked up to him.

You will get over it, cherish your memories, both your parents are a constant in your life, gone but very much not forgotten, I know exactly how you're feeling, take care, tough time.

RIP
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The worst day of my life wasn’t when my Dad died. It was when he was stricken with a stroke. He died two days later and that was a bit of a relief. It might sound weird or callous but that’s the way it was.

It will be 29 years on the 26th…
 
I'm so so sorry, your mum sounds an incredible woman and a brilliant mum to you... i'm so sorry. I know words don't help, but i've been there - i lost my mum on 16th June 2023, and i still cry almost daily thinking about how much i miss her and need her... I was 50 a few days ago and i spent all the time thinking of her being in labour 50 years ago and how everything she'd done for me and how much i love and miss her. And there's so much i would've wanted to tell her about this week, and i couldn't... and that hurt so much, all over again. The initial wave of loss does change, it does, but it still will always be there and hit you... because you love them and always need your mum. Ack crying now.

Sorry, i don't think my post will have helped you much, i just wanted you to know that i've read it and have thought of your lovely mum for you, much love xx
 
Frank the Yank said:
The worst day of my life wasn’t when my Dad died. It was when he was stricken with a stroke. He died two days later and that was a bit of a relief. It might sound weird or callous but that’s the way it was.

It will be 29 years on the 26th…
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Completely understand, I held my Dad's hand around 6am on the 8th July 2022 when he effectively passed away. The ambulance arrived 45 minutes later, the medics said there was a slight heartbeat and they had a duty to try and resuscitate an 89 year old man who had been starved of oxygen for over an hour. It was a relief when they said later they were unable to save him, very horrible morning.
 
kippaxkid74 said:
I'm so so sorry, your mum sounds an incredible woman and a brilliant mum to you... i'm so sorry. I know words don't help, but i've been there - i lost my mum on 16th June 2023, and i still cry almost daily thinking about how much i miss her and need her... I was 50 a few days ago and i spent all the time thinking of her being in labour 50 years ago and how everything she'd done for me and how much i love and miss her. And there's so much i would've wanted to tell her about this week, and i couldn't... and that hurt so much, all over again. The initial wave of loss does change, it does, but it still will always be there and hit you... because you love them and always need your mum. Ack crying now.

Sorry, i don't think my post will have helped you much, i just wanted you to know that i've read it and have thought of your lovely mum for you, much love xx
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Beautiful post mate, thank you.
Your words are a great comfort to me, so please don't apologise.
My mum would be so happy knowing so many people care.
Thank you for your kindness, I am so grateful. X
 
hammocity said:
Completely understand, I held my Dad's hand around 6am on the 8th July 2022 when he effectively passed away. The ambulance arrived 45 minutes later, the medics said there was a slight heartbeat and they had a duty to try and resuscitate an 89 year old man who had been starved of oxygen for over an hour. It was a relief when they said later they were unable to save him, very horrible morning.
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So sorry mate, that's just so sad. Please accept my condolences.
 
crublue1 said:
Thank you blue.
Kind words. Xmas will be tough, I'd planned to go round and cook and share a baileys or 2 with her.
It won't be easy, but I'll get through it, thanks in no small part to the lovely people on here.
Best wishes to you and your family my friend.
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Hope you had a nice Christmas with your family mate. Lots of my friends in similar position this year. It’s horrible but there is no escaping. Hope it’s was a comfort to your family round you.
 
Sorry to read about the loss of your mum. Sending condolences but sounds like you were so lucky to have a mum like that. God bless.
 
We all have these thoughts mate. The simple fact is, we can’t be everywhere all the time. Your mum sounded like an amazing, loving woman. She loved you and the last thing she would want would be for you to blame yourself in any way. A fair few of us here have lost our parents. We feel your pain and also guilt. But, it is the last thing any of our old dears or dads would want. What I tell myself is, they made me. As long as I am alive, so are they. When I look at my siblings, my sons, my grandchildren, I see and hear them. Our hearts go out to you. Sometimes there is simply nothing we could have done, telling ourselves there was, is something we do, but it isn’t true. I will raise a good malt to her memory tonight. You look after yourself.
 
So sorry for your loss mate. My ma passed away in April. Was my first Xmas as an orphan this year as dad died a couple of years back. Hope you are ok and give me a DM if you ever need a chat. Take care
 
Well, we learn something everyday.
Turns out my mum was friends with molly leech, duncan edwards girlfriend at the time of the air disaster. They worked together in alty.
This pic is of my mum on the left, with molly in the middle. Taken in the isle of man in 55, so 3 years before the tragedy.IMG-20250105-WA0026.jpg
 
crublue1 said:
Well, we learn something everyday.
Turns out my mum was friends with molly leech, duncan edwards girlfriend at the time of the air disaster. They worked together in alty.
This pic is of my mum on the left, with molly in the middle. Taken in the isle of man in 55, so 3 years before the tragedy.View attachment 142181
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A fine photo fella, treasure the memories.
 
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