BlueBearBoots
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Markt85 said:BlueBearBoots said:Ok so lots of ppl have problems, ask me I have the answer, honest :)
I have recently split from girlfriend after living together and raising her child from birth - i enjoyed every moment, yes we had our struggles, money was tight , but I got a place for us in the area she wanted. Last week she hits me with - 'I'm not happy, I want to split' ... It hit me pretty hard and I really didn't see it coming , I lost everything I felt for her in that moment and in over last couple weeks of living with her I really wish to never see her again. We have been reasonably amicable together due to the little girl we have raised in the house, she is moving back to her mums with the little girl - I am going to rent closer to where I was before. So there will be considerable distance. I really don't want contact with my ex ever again, I know she can turn, changed her mind and turn into a emotional wreck , I can honestly see her asking for me back and regretting the decision. But either way, I know that's it now.
The main question is ... What to do with the little girl. I love her loads. I have raised her as my own. She knows me as Dad. How shall I go about arranging to see her, my ex says she wants me still to see her. But ! That means staying in touch with my ex and I know down the line she will be a pain in the arse about it and the harsh reality is that the kid is not mine. Do I cut all ties and start a fresh ? Or come to some sort of arrangement to see the kid ?
Cheers
Mark. Oh my word I've seen so many threads where you have defended the fact you have brought ups a Child that isn't your own - it's obvious you love her as if she was your own - keep in touch with her no matter what - she will thank you for it and you will always have an important relationship with her
So sad for you mate you seemed really up for it x