Child access law firm

[Pigeonho]

Re: Child access law firm

As much as I despise, loathe and detest my ex, she did sort things out amicably with me regarding the kids when we split. I feel sorry for those who go through hurt because it really shouldn't have to be that way and 9 times out of 10, (unless the dad doesn't want to see his kids), it's the woman who turns into the mega-woman. Seen it so many times where just because she's the mum, she uses the child against the dad and it's fucking wrong wrong wrong. My next door neighbour now, she has the house she shared with her husband and even though it is her who had an affair it is him who has had to surrender all that and find himself somewhere to live and miss out on the majority of his childs upbringing. Why? Because she's the mum. Bollocks.

Anyway, try David Hinchliffe in Oldham.

 

[No6]

Re: Child access law firm

Can anybody recommend a decent firm?

Need some advice ASAP. Ex is always threatening me with not letting me see my sons, using them against me and being bitter and nasty in general. Had enough now she has caused me too much stress and hurt.

Hi mate, im a social worker...

Couple of things first, how old are the kid's ? are you in the birth cert ?

It really is simple to deal with as long as you have no genuine reasons that she could withdraw access, drugs, alcohol, violence, abuse etc...

If you have tried to agree visiting rights and she is not being coperative, then you can see and family law solicitor. They will send a letter to open comunication, it could be dealt with just by a few letter's, if it is still ignored then you can go for a court date.

As long as you have shown attempts to communicate without resorting to court in the first instance, they should favorable to your case if the other side is being akward, with a solicitor you have a record of all attempts to do come to an agreement.

In almost all cases they try to make to two parties agree to a deal before entering the court, then it will be transcribed and binding, if either party fails to keep to the deal then they will be able to recall them tpo court to ammend the agrrement.

Every father has the right to see kids in the eye's of the law, although in the short term she may stop you seeing them, it will do her harm in the long term.

It really is a routine case and a legal aid solicitor will be just as good as some £500 pound an hour hot shot. Most of the time its just a standard template to a hearing, unless of course she has a valid reason to prevent you seeing them.

Just try to stay cool about it and not get into arguments that can be used against you.

This really is very good advice. Good luck, try to keep calm ;)

 

[worsleyweb]

Re: Child access law firm

Sorry to hear this mate. I have been through this for years with my ex and my wo daughers .I wasted thousands wirh solicitors who basically made the situation worse. Basically my solicitor used to write to hers and says she was a c..t and hers would respond and slag me off. Hers was all paid for on legal aid and mine was costing me £250 a letter Eventually i decided to represent myself in court and kept a file of all the allegations she had made and a diary of when i saw the kids etc. i had to resort to taking a photo of the kids packed lunch as i had solicitors letters telling me i was bad at making sandwiches. It went on for three years until i eventually got a court order which meant i have overnight custody 5 days a fortnight during term time and 50 50 during the rest of the year. i know you hear horror stories of courts going against dads but my honest opnion in my experience was that the court was more than fair to me as i simply explained that i wanted an ongoing relationship with my kids and did not feel that 4 days a month access was meaningful. The court accepted this. My ex is still absulte poison and messes me about with the kids all the time but eventually you will calm down with it. For many years i had a fear of loosing my kids but when they get to 11 as my eldest is now they make there own mind up.I know the pain of this mate but it will pass, be strong and dont weaken. Time passes - a lot of men have been through the same thing -dont beg or show any weakness with her just be firm and persistent for what you want.

 

[1_barry_conlon]

Re: Child access law firm

Sorry to hear this mate. I have been through this for years with my ex and my wo daughers .I wasted thousands wirh solicitors who basically made the situation worse. Basically my solicitor used to write to hers and says she was a c..t and hers would respond and slag me off. Hers was all paid for on legal aid and mine was costing me £250 a letter Eventually i decided to represent myself in court and kept a file of all the allegations she had made and a diary of when i saw the kids etc. i had to resort to taking a photo of the kids packed lunch as i had solicitors letters telling me i was bad at making sandwiches. It went on for three years until i eventually got a court order which meant i have overnight custody 5 days a fortnight during term time and 50 50 during the rest of the year. i know you hear horror stories of courts going against dads but my honest opnion in my experience was that the court was more than fair to me as i simply explained that i wanted an ongoing relationship with my kids and did not feel that 4 days a month access was meaningful. The court accepted this. My ex is still absulte poison and messes me about with the kids all the time but eventually you will calm down with it. For many years i had a fear of loosing my kids but when they get to 11 as my eldest is now they make there own mind up.I know the pain of this mate but it will pass, be strong and dont weaken. Time passes - a lot of men have been through the same thing -dont beg or show any weakness with her just be firm and persistent for what you want.

This is a mirror image of what happened to me. Poison isn't the word.

Good luck to the OP with his.

 

[blackley macca]

Thanks for the advice blues, sorry for the delayed reply I have only just seen the thread.

I will have another read through and send some PM's about.

Cheers.

 

[brooklandsblue2.0]

Re: Child access law firm

Balls to lawyers mate get in touch with these guys and set up camp on the Beetham tower

 

[blackley macca]

Hi Macca,

Sorry to hear of your situation. Don't know where in M/cr you are (but guessing North Manchester). If so, Joan Ferguson at 481 Cheetham Hill Road was a specialist in this field, worked hard for her clients and had a great ethic.

Yes blackley mate. I will have a look into it cheers.