Emigrating Guilt

Another thing to consider, my parents moved back to the States and live about ten miles from me now. They too were over England but wouldn't have made the move if I weren't here to help make it happen
 
JASR said:
We're just in the process of sorting out LPA's (financial one and health one) for my mum (should have done at leat 10 years earlier - but she at least had the earlier EPA after her own experience in dealing with a old relative).
I would suggest that is a very important thing to sort before you go. (And their wills if they haven't already).
The LPA's (if it's what they want), should be for you and your sister to be "jointly and seperately" in charge of.
It can be done via the govt website - it is ALSO a lot easier to do it (signatures) before you go.

I would also suggest you get your will/s sorted out, and maybe start thinking about the LPA's for yourself - especially with respect to who would act on your behalf - we recently changed our will's because we had used people of our own age... and time moves on :-(
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Thanks for the heads up and advice mate. Appreciated.
 
Thanks everyone, appreciate you sharing your experiences. Sounds like they were pretty postive overall and some good nuggets of advice too.

I have friends that have emigrated but not in the same circumstances i.e. with a kid, so it's been helpful in gaining a bit of perspective. Cheers Blues
 
I struggled with guilt of leaving my Mum at first, though circumstances added to that. We lost my Dad 13 months prior to me leaving. We lost my Nan (mum's mum) 3 weeks before I left. Then I was gone halfway round the world. We were very close so I know she struggled with me not being there, though she'd never admit that to me. She was always selfless and supportive.

I would add, if you've already set the plan in motion give your nearest and dearest as much time as possible to get used to the idea.
 
Do what you want and don't look back.
I'm here now in Manchester where I'v lived all my life while travelling a lot too.
My mum has cancer at the moment and my son is 15 going through his final school year before college and uni.
I would sell up tomorrow and move to my dream country,Thailand,but my mrs wont go yet,mai pen rai,we will one day and hopefully soon.
Its only 14 to 18 hours on a plane away to.come.back if needed.
 
Fred_Quimby said:
If your parents and sister really cared about you they would support you all the way and would want the best for you not the best for them. I have fully supported our children all the way and always wanted the best for them not us. I have a daughter in NZ and our son is thinking of going to the US in about a years time (his wife is American); I only wish the best for them and will support them no matter what decisions they make. They should be supporting you in the same way. Seize the Day.

Edit; it is your future not theirs.
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An excellent post Snr Quimby.

Your (The OPs) parents will probably be getting on in years and you and your son have yours in front. Your son and maybe you in ten years time will have the best of both worlds, Bi lingual with the 3rd most spoken language ( spanish not Catalan ) Twice the job opportunities, a better way of life in most but not all cases and as mentioned before, half a day away but in this day and age with Skype, Zoom, Whatsap etc etc, it really is nothing nowadays.
We have friends with 3 children who were out in Catalonia when we arrived . Parents have now moved back to Bristol and their 3 children are now settled down with Spanish partners.... the thing is, you dont know what's round the corner, sometimes you have just got to have a look.
 
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