Blue Is the Opposite of Blue
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I'm a little annoyed tonight, everyone. I'm also incredibly bemused but also relieved.
Two weeks ago, my ex-girlfriend added me on Facebook out of the blue. Now this isn't weird for some people who get on well with their ex partners but my ex left me for someone else 3 years ago (you all remember that) and hasn't said a word of any sort to me for 18 months, so I was little confused as you could probably understand. In fact, the last time we spoke she said she "hated people" like me.
Anyway, my current girlfriend grabbed my phone off me and accepted the friend request off her. The next morning I was driving to Scotland so I took the long journey as a chance to ask my ex-girlfriend if her adding me as a joke between her friends. She admitted that it wasn't a joke, but "a mistake". I gave her the chance to just reverse the friend request, but told her I wasn't fussed either way because we're both 20-years-old with different lives now. We should be able to have a mutual understanding at the very least.
A few days later and my birthday comes around. Among the birthday messages on Facebook was one from my ex-girlfriend. It felt a little weird to get one from her because of everything that's happened between us, but I thanked her nonetheless and thought nothing of it. That mutual understanding felt achievable from my end at least. Anyway, I come back from my week in Scotland and notice that I forgot to thank a few people for their birthday messages on my Facebook wall.
While down there I notice the birthday message from my ex-girlfriend has disappeared completely. Wondering whether or not she's deactivated her account, I check for her profile to see what's up. Apparently the link to her profile is "broken". She's only gone and blocked me. She's actually blocked me. I haven't spoken to her or said anything about her since I thanked her for wishing me a happy birthday last week. This is all this after adding me out of nowhere, after 18 months of silence, after telling me she hated me, after leaving me for someone else.
I honestly thought she'd grown up in the time we've spent not talking to each other, but it appears I was way off on that one. Absolute headfuck, man. Absolute headfuck. But I realised that the first feeling I felt after I found out was relief, and not upset. It just made me so happy to finally tell myself that the particular chapter of my life which involved her is well and truly over. My current girlfriend is a star in ways my ex will never, ever be to me and that gives me so much hope.
Now don't get me wrong, you all know how much of a whiny shit I was when I was with my ex-girlfriend. She knows it, you know it, I know it now. But I was miserable with my ex-girlfriend. The only times I wasn't upset between 2009-2011 was when I was with my friends and I was able to at least keep parts of me I'd lost to fit in with her. Her blocking me this week is just another in a long line of incidents where I look back and think "What the actual fuck are you doing?"
And it's nice that I can ask that question, because she's a mental case with me, I swear to god. Either that or her boyfriend found out she'd added me and got pissed off with her, which is equally is mental. I've come a long way from that summer. A long fucking way, and I'm so glad she's not my problem anymore, especially when she pulls crazy stunts like this one.
Two weeks ago, my ex-girlfriend added me on Facebook out of the blue. Now this isn't weird for some people who get on well with their ex partners but my ex left me for someone else 3 years ago (you all remember that) and hasn't said a word of any sort to me for 18 months, so I was little confused as you could probably understand. In fact, the last time we spoke she said she "hated people" like me.
Anyway, my current girlfriend grabbed my phone off me and accepted the friend request off her. The next morning I was driving to Scotland so I took the long journey as a chance to ask my ex-girlfriend if her adding me as a joke between her friends. She admitted that it wasn't a joke, but "a mistake". I gave her the chance to just reverse the friend request, but told her I wasn't fussed either way because we're both 20-years-old with different lives now. We should be able to have a mutual understanding at the very least.
A few days later and my birthday comes around. Among the birthday messages on Facebook was one from my ex-girlfriend. It felt a little weird to get one from her because of everything that's happened between us, but I thanked her nonetheless and thought nothing of it. That mutual understanding felt achievable from my end at least. Anyway, I come back from my week in Scotland and notice that I forgot to thank a few people for their birthday messages on my Facebook wall.
While down there I notice the birthday message from my ex-girlfriend has disappeared completely. Wondering whether or not she's deactivated her account, I check for her profile to see what's up. Apparently the link to her profile is "broken". She's only gone and blocked me. She's actually blocked me. I haven't spoken to her or said anything about her since I thanked her for wishing me a happy birthday last week. This is all this after adding me out of nowhere, after 18 months of silence, after telling me she hated me, after leaving me for someone else.
I honestly thought she'd grown up in the time we've spent not talking to each other, but it appears I was way off on that one. Absolute headfuck, man. Absolute headfuck. But I realised that the first feeling I felt after I found out was relief, and not upset. It just made me so happy to finally tell myself that the particular chapter of my life which involved her is well and truly over. My current girlfriend is a star in ways my ex will never, ever be to me and that gives me so much hope.
Now don't get me wrong, you all know how much of a whiny shit I was when I was with my ex-girlfriend. She knows it, you know it, I know it now. But I was miserable with my ex-girlfriend. The only times I wasn't upset between 2009-2011 was when I was with my friends and I was able to at least keep parts of me I'd lost to fit in with her. Her blocking me this week is just another in a long line of incidents where I look back and think "What the actual fuck are you doing?"
And it's nice that I can ask that question, because she's a mental case with me, I swear to god. Either that or her boyfriend found out she'd added me and got pissed off with her, which is equally is mental. I've come a long way from that summer. A long fucking way, and I'm so glad she's not my problem anymore, especially when she pulls crazy stunts like this one.