Looking After elderly relatives

[Lovebitesandeveryfing]

You obviously are a much loved Dad for your son and daughter to do that, you’ve reaped what you’ve sown, literally!

Believe it, I was utterly gobsmacked when they phoned up in 2020 to suggest it! I had not so much as thought about it. I was more than touched. I am looking after my granddaughter, taking her to school picking her up, keeping her on Wednesdays, etc. That's a joy. Working out very well for everyone. Of course, I pay a fair rent, and look after myself. Long may it continue.

 

[BimboBob]

Had to give my brother a little dig when we went to my mums house after she died to pick up anything sentimental we wanted. He got there 40 minutes before us and helped himself to stuff and hid them in his boot. We turned up, noticed stuff had been gone through, and I took him aside and asked him. He denied everything. I had to threaten him to open his boot. 2 suitcases were there, full of odds and sods including jewellery. I'm not a violent man but at that moment I went mental. Not proud of it but he dutifully carried the suitcases in and we went through it all properly.
He's fine now, we get on better than ever, but I was aghast at the gall. No idea what went on in his head.

 

[hammocity]

Believe it, I was utterly gobsmacked when they phoned up in 2020 to suggest it! I had not so much as thought about it. I was more than touched. I am looking after my granddaughter, taking her to school picking her up, keeping her on Wednesdays, etc. That's a joy. Working out very well for everyone. Of course, I pay a fair rent, and look after myself. Long may it continue.

Fantastic, btw, I did mean your Sin and Daughter in Law!

 

[BlueMoonRisin’]

Proper tough, me and my sister never had a cross word about looking after Dad and the consequent inheritance, it’s wha he would have expected, your story is truly heartbreaking.

My sis is narcissistic mate. She's tried putting her guilt on not coming over and seeing mum alive on to me. The love and respect i had for her has gone forever. She doesn't need the money as she's loaded but begrudges me of having a third of mum's inheritance. I feel sad even thinking about it all.

 

[PinkFinal]

I looked after my father for 8 months until his death in December.
It was extremely tough and testing on my mental health.
To be blunt he was never a great father but being kind I decided that that was because he just wasn't capable of it. It wasn't as if he did absolutely nothing for me. During one of our rows I told him that I wasn't interested in his house and money and that is true. All I ever wanted from him was a bit of respect which he didn't show me much of for fifty years.

 

[hammocity]

I looked after my father for 8 months until his death in December.
It was extremely tough and testing on my mental health.
To be blunt he was never a great father but being kind I decided that that was because he just wasn't capable of it. It wasn't as if he did absolutely nothing for me. During one of our rows I told him that I wasn't interested in his house and money and that is true. All I ever wanted from him was a bit of respect which he didn't show me much of for fifty years.

I wouldn’t expect anything else of a punk fan of our generation, we may have been rebellious but there were solid reasons why we reacted as we did including friendship and helping others.

 

[Mr Fraser]

I recognise so much in the observations from other posters from my personal experiences which I won't bore you with in detail. My contribution is don't compare what you did and what others did or didn't do. Do what you think is right. I did loads for mum before she died and glad I did. Two sisters lived far away 1 was supportive, 1 didn't see her in 5 years after not getting her "inheritance early"

 

[hammocity]

I recognise so much in the observations from other posters from my personal experiences which I won't bore you with in detail. My contribution is don't compare what you did and what others did or didn't do. Do what you think is right. I did loads for mum before she died and glad I did. Two sisters lived far away 1 was supportive, 1 didn't see her in 5 years after not getting her "inheritance early"

Yes, we do it out of love don’t we? Good lad.

 

[henrythedogcity]

Thanks for all your input blues,I don't mind doing my bit it's just the fact that other members of wife's family don't do half as much as we do and seem to get away with it.
Both wife's siblings are minted and one constantly trys to lord it even tho it's his his wife's family's money ( old money ).
I currently run two businesses and don't have time to scratch my arse and never seem to have any time or money to chill.
Sorry for rant

 

[henrythedogcity]

In a follow up to my original post my farther in law passed away last week and his son who's not been to see him for three months was in the house the morning after removing over 50k worth of valuables and had the house valued the same day.
Wanker!