My head is in bits

Lucky Toma,sounds to me like a typical case of 'can't live with her,can't live without her'.I'll put my mortgage on it that in a few months time you and Jane will be together.I can sense that she means a great deal to you my friend! Despite all this 'i'm playing it cool stuff!'.Could be wrong,usually am where women are concerned as i've fucked up more than once with the fairer sex! wish you the best of british however it pans out for you anyway mate
 
Just read this so I'm sorry about the lateness but you've done fuck all wrong and if it feels like you're brokenhearted then do things to take your mind off her.

When I split up with my first love (not saying that she's yours, I'm just trying to relate), I sank into a deep depression and didn't know what to do but I went out and met new people (friends, not girls) but it turned out that the girl that I met and saw as a friend is now my girlfriend and we are madly in love. The thing I'm trying to get across is that life in unpredictable so if you leave her and her weak self to it then you might be as lucky as I was and catch a break.

Also, like unsworthblue said if you play it cool and make yourself scarce from her life then she will start to think 'Hold on, why hasn't he text me, or called me, or tried contacting me? Maybe he doesn't miss me', then, as a girl, she will get paranoid and will want answers from you which will lead to her calling you and everything will leak out then.

As for the guy, fuck him (not literally), he sounds like a right clingy, over-protective, weak male.

Good luck with it all though mate, I hope you're starting to feel better since you started this a few weeks ago. And I hope that you turn out to be happy and make the right decisions.
 
Lucky Toma said:
Fucking hell guys that is some seriously good advice!

Bigga mate, as much as its embarrassing to admit it, you're right about the 'role reversal' thing. That is how its felt at times definitely. In fact you're right about pretty much everything.

I'm very much leaning towards just letting her go. If she texts/phones or e-mails I will reply and be pleasant but not 'give' her anything.

And then in the future if its meant to be its meant to be.

In the meantime got a couple of dates lined up and I'm going to do all that I can to move on.
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Scottyboi's right about the lack of photos, ehehe, especially under your current mindset!



but here's another witticism that is worth remembering in situations like this too LT:

“Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions”

Woody Allen




- and it's a great thread you've kicked in with here, baring your all and receiving the love and respect from many of us through the ether for it...

I know you're in a better position to determine than any one of us what's right and best in the circumstances, but I'd also advocate not taking too much too seriously. As this girl matures, which inevitably she will, she'll be a much improved model. Who better than to help and guide her along the way, eh?

<eg>

(evil grin)

ehehee
 
As me granddad once said,
if its got wheels or tits on it you'll have nowt but trouble lad!!!!
 
BELLENDER said:
As me granddad once said,
if its got wheels or tits on it you'll have nowt but trouble lad!!!!
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one of my old mechanics in NYC had that on a poster with a hotbabe in wearing a mini-T and short denims straddling a car in a suggestive sort of way, although its text went 'If it has tits or wheels it'll give you problems'

LT - connect your telephone to your computer and get uploading! (actually, for the more advanced amongst us, me not being one, I'm sure you can get those photos up on here directly)

;o)
 
Lucky Toma said:
Fucking hell guys that is some seriously good advice!

Bigga mate, as much as its embarrassing to admit it, you're right about the 'role reversal' thing. That is how its felt at times definitely. In fact you're right about pretty much everything.

I'm very much leaning towards just letting her go. If she texts/phones or e-mails I will reply and be pleasant but not 'give' her anything.

And then in the future if its meant to be its meant to be.

In the meantime got a couple of dates lined up and I'm going to do all that I can to move on.
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The whole role reversal thing is nothing to be ashamed of mate its very common and is just a common trap that is very easily to fall into!
 
I like the sound of you going on your new path. These complications with Jane will surely continue, just with new names and situations. Fool you twice, shame on you.

I would like to suggest that you share the phone pix with your Bluemoon pals - you know, catharsis and all that. Best wishes.
 
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