Possible Work Place flirting

roy.or.r said:
Okay so I am in a weird situation right now. I joined a company 2 years back and things have been going good except for one thing. There is a lady who is around 54 years of age in our office. She has been single her whole life. Few months back she asked me to go to dinner with her. I went without thinking of anything since I often go out with my colleagues. She planned on going to a lake where there were park tables and during dinner, she asked me to sit by her side when in fact I was going to sit opposite to her. I didn't think of anything that time.

However, recently she has been asking me to go to dinner with her every other month. I went out again a few weeks back and last week she has asked me to join her for dinner the 3rd time.

So what to make of this? Is she actually hitting on me or is she just lonely and wants to hang out? I am 31 and I am in no mood to go out with her as anything other than just colleagues.

Should I ask her what's going on in a polite way?
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Forget her, just tell us if that Indian bird topped herself because your mate wouldn’t marry her or send her a shitload of money ..
I sent a Nigerian Prince £50k last month and not heard a fuckin peep from him yet... !
 
jimharri said:
And what about you? Serious question here; do you know what you're looking for? Sex? Friendship? Someone to keep you company on a might at the pub/theatre/cinema?
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Honestly I dont know
I am a proper introvert, meaning I love spending time with myself. I am a father and I love my daughter, I always try to put a smile on her face but when she goes home I am so happy to be alone again

I promised myself I would never get involved with another woman the way I was involved with my ex. In hindsight I tried to do to much to impress her. After that breakup the years went by and I became very cynical towards relationships. In regards to the neighbor, she is so sexy I wanted to fuck her, that is all. Then the work colleague/Netflix situation happened...

It stirred up feelings in me I haven't felt for years, I actually liked this woman more than because how she looked, I want to help her. This woman and I share similar interests, such as cinema, cycling, walking. I just feel we could have a nice time together beyond sex

I know what you will say "tell her how you feel" etc. Truth is I am an ugly motherfucker, she is beautiful and popular, if I come on too strong it will put her off. So I hope and pray she wants to take me and my daughter to the lake.
 
Thorin Oakenshield said:
Honestly I dont know
I am a proper introvert, meaning I love spending time with myself. I am a father and I love my daughter, I always try to put a smile on her face but when she goes home I am so happy to be alone again

I promised myself I would never get involved with another woman the way I was involved with my ex. In hindsight I tried to do to much to impress her. After that breakup the years went by and I became very cynical towards relationships. In regards to the neighbor, she is so sexy I wanted to fuck her, that is all. Then the work colleague/Netflix situation happened...

It stirred up feelings in me I haven't felt for years, I actually liked this woman more than because how she looked, I want to help her. This woman and I share similar interests, such as cinema, cycling, walking. I just feel we could have a nice time together beyond sex

I know what you will say "tell her how you feel" etc. Truth is I am an ugly motherfucker, she is beautiful and popular, if I come on too strong it will put her off. So I hope and pray she wants to take me and my daughter to the lake.
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"Faint heart" etc etc. Ask her out, if you can find somewhere to go. A walk in the countryside, perhaps. What's the worst that can happen? She says no. Yes; it will be like a kick in the bollocks for a while. But you'll know where you stand. This "limbo" you're in is no use to you.
 
jimharri said:
"Faint heart" etc etc. Ask her out, if you can find somewhere to go. A walk in the countryside, perhaps. What's the worst that can happen? She says no. Yes; it will be like a kick in the bollocks for a while. But you'll know where you stand. This "limbo" you're in is no use to you.
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That's pretty good advice.

@Thorin Oakenshield - indecision is generally the worst move in most aspects of life (and I say that as a pretty indecisive person myse).............
 
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