TheBeautifulGame
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For me, it's not about being right. I could care less about being right. It's about being intellectually honest about what is happening, in football and in life and to have the integrity to be objective about a situation.Takes one to know one. Just that one of us knows what he is talking about. Hopefully :)
A little free advice for you.
One of my old mentors (yes, accountants have them too) told me that "people will forgive you for being wrong, but they won't forgive you for being right". Being right in a community isn't the most important thing. Knowing when to shut up is, though .....
And a little self-deprecation goes a long way on here. I suggest you (try to) use it wisely.
The difference between me and some others is that I do not allow any bias to cloud by judgement. I try to be as fair as possible and call everything down the middle.
We're never going to get anywhere if we refuse to look at the objective facts about a situation. And in both of our cases, we have slowly inched towards conceding some minor points. But there is much more room to grow.
And I will have you know that I'm not above self-depreciation. But I'm going to stand my ground where appropriate. Remember how I engaged with Richard when he tried to pull rank on me. That kind of hubris is the antithesis of self-depreciation. And what had aligned us (as in you and i) for so long before this recent dust up over the Henderson incident is that we both equally objected to VAR and how top down it was. How it was against the desires of average fan not to mention all the problems it was causing.
While I hear you in some of your advice, I could also apply that same advice right back at you. The individuality of thought should not be repressed. Sure, I see things a little differently, but so what? It would be boring if we all agreed on everything. And I'm also willing to learn from those who can offer constructive thought and challenge me on my views. You may not realize it but you sort of helped me along as well when you said it's not about if the laws make sense but what they are. And I took a new avenue of getting into the whole what is a goal scoring opportunity and all that. To which you also proceeded to fight me on. That is when I concluded that all you seem to care about is being right, and here you are trying to lecture me about being right isn't the most important thing. You could have met me half way countless times but you didn't. And so I worked my around that challenge as well and here we are.
You said something that I can agree with about how you'll agree with me when you agree and you'll disagree with me when you disagree. And that's fair. I'll do the same. But there should be more respect and cooperation imho.