What are you missing most about life pre covid?

[Dave Ewing's Back 'eader]

I wish I had kept count of the City games I would have gone to, men, women and kids. Mind, the kids are on telly tomorrow. Every little helps.

 

[Del_Bosque]

Been WFH since Feb and will be for the for seeable, enjoying it more than the big commute.

Having a nice garden etc helped over summer, would of been a different kettle of fish in an apartment with no balcony/aircon.

Not missing going to City yet either, grim no holiday abroad this year but didn't fancy getting locked in a hotel as some of my mates did when the lockdown in Spain hit.

Imagine the situation is bleaker for people with their jobs at risk from another lockdown or family members at severe risk.

The people I really feel sorry for are the 17-23 year olds cooped up missing a year at the prime of their lives, job prospects bleak as anything. If it was me i'd be on first plane to Oz do 12 months over there.

All in all realise i'm quite lucky and things could be a lot worse.

 

[Cellarite]

Our adult son - he is disabled and lives in a care home - we have only be able to see him a few times since 15th March which included 133 days separated till July - no touching is allowed and we can see him only under supervision from care staff. Prior to lockdown he came home every other Saturday and stayed overnight with us-he lived at home until he was 19. He is non-verbal so even though we FaceTime him regularly it’s just us talking and hoping he smiles back- I pray that he doesn’t think we have abandoned him. He doesn’t have the capacity to take in the enormity of the situation and I have no idea of a future time when he can begin to stay over with us again. It’s pretty much broken me.

Occasionally, a post on this forum touches every member who reads it.

Keep going Blue Countrygirl and your husband.

 

[The Black Shed]

Our adult son - he is disabled and lives in a care home - we have only be able to see him a few times since 15th March which included 133 days separated till July - no touching is allowed and we can see him only under supervision from care staff. Prior to lockdown he came home every other Saturday and stayed overnight with us-he lived at home until he was 19. He is non-verbal so even though we FaceTime him regularly it’s just us talking and hoping he smiles back- I pray that he doesn’t think we have abandoned him. He doesn’t have the capacity to take in the enormity of the situation and I have no idea of a future time when he can begin to stay over with us again. It’s pretty much broken me.

I don't know you, but you are stronger than you think I'm sure abut that. You have more love, hope, kindness, humility and strength than I could ever wish for.

 

[gh_mcfc]

Fucks sake don't have words. So sorry for your situation

Just Barbaric. what has happened to our Human Rights. So Sad. It what sort of world are we denied the right to console and comfort our loved ones.

 

[gh_mcfc]

Absolutely everything as it's truly and utterly crushed my mental health this. Feel like a shell of a person to the one I was back in February. Vast majority of course is missing my family though. The lack of human contact is soul destroying. I don't think I'd ever gone more than a month without hugging my mum or dad in all of my life, and we're at over half a year now. Fuck knows when I will again. Some days I wonder if I ever will hug them again given this god damn virus. Shite innit. I know a hug isn't the biggest thing in the world, but fucking hell i do miss hugging my mum and dad. You crave it so much. I miss spending quality, carefree time with friends too. Now its sit outside, from a distance, wash your hands constantly. Always on edge. No sat indoors, playing games, watching films, getting pissed together, dancing together, being spontaneous. All gone.

I miss not being uncertain around people too ffs. Large crowds of people or busy streets make me feel a bit uneasy now. Conditioned that way, I guess. I miss football. I miss the cinema. I even miss the crap marvel films that seem to come out every few months. Cheap, easy thrills. I miss live music. I miss going to restaurants and sitting absolutely anywhere. I miss making plans. I literally missed my wedding. Cancelled. Rearranged. Fuck knows if it'll happen now. I miss jumping on a cheap £30 flight to some random beautiful European city just because we could at the weekend. I miss having things to look forward too. I miss that feeling of certainty, knowing that you were moving forward with your life and things were relatively in your control. I miss being relaxed. I miss being indoors in other places that simply aren't home.

I miss just being myself really... can't remember the last time I felt 100% like myself or truly, genuinely happy, ya know? I've had some fun times and laughed plenty of times during this, but its always with a big fucking huge asterisk. A distraction from the shiteness of it all. Then that brief moment ends, and it's back to the never-ending uncertainty. I miss not having to put on a brave face and pretending to be happy for others. I miss being the positive, happy one in my friend group! I just miss actual living. So yeah, a lot heh.

With you on all that pal. Add the fact I cant watch my lad and daughter play football (on the back of a shite year for other reasons) when basically thats filled most of my free time in the last 13/14 years of my life, I feel there is a massive void. Just drifting.

That said I am luckier and have less to worry about than most. A sensible school policy re isolation for E and a lad who for now at least knows he has a job and a bit of certainty about my Job ,all be it not the same as it was. At some point things have to change ,

On the plus side i have built a home pub and sit at the bar talking to myself like jack Nicholson in the shining.

 

[twosips]

With you on all that pal. Add the fact I cant watch my lad and daughter play football (on the back of a shite year for other reasons) when basically thats filled most of my free time in the last 13/14 years of my life, I feel there is a massive void. Just drifting.

That said I am luckier and have less to worry about than most. A sensible school policy re isolation for E and a lad who for now at least knows he has a job and a bit of certainty about my Job ,all be it not the same as it was. At some point things have to change ,

On the plus side i have built a home pub and sit at the bar talking to myself like jack Nicholson in the shining.

Ahhh nice. Enjoy that pub mate. Gotta appreciate the small things.

 

[Blue and still suffering]

The post by Blue Countrygirl does put everything in perspective for most of us however that doesn't mean that any of the other posts are any less valid for the people who submitted them considering their own circumstances.
This is a difficult time for all of us in our own way

 

[Magicpole]

The post by Blue Countrygirl does put everything in perspective for most of us however that doesn't mean that any of the other posts are any less valid for the people who submitted them considering their own circumstances.
This is a difficult time for all of us in our own way

Absolutely, I was speaking solely about the stuff I was going to say, which wasn't important at all and certainly not unique. Apart from the German Dominatrix possibly, but everything else we all feel, missing family, friends, going for a pint inside, not that we are regulars anywhere, but every now and again a pint in one of our lovely old pubs is good for you. Other posts on here are all valid to the guys who posted them.

 

[andyhinch]

Thanks for all the support folks - It’s tough for all those with loved ones in care homes - there is just no way around it as the staff must abide by the guidance for safety and the loss of life has been heartbreaking. Seeing him in even restricted circumstances is a joy -thankfully we have plans to see him at the weekend, outside in a park and the restrictions still allow that so happy days. Keep smiling everyone.

People on here complain out not going to the pub, it puts them to shame , hope it all works out, I cannot imagine it