Two things;
Phobia isn't black and white. I'd say I'm arachnophobic, but money spiders I can handle. I can see pictures and videos without feeling fearful. But some people can't look at a picture without throwing up or feeling faint. With homophobia, you have your 'I'm going to stone you to death on the spot for doing something homosexual', and you have your 'I'm not going to hire this person, they're quite obviously lesbian'.
On attraction, that's not quite the case. The one I'm putting forward is that you're viewing transgender females as 'not for you'. Yet again, I state that if you are attracted to someone, and that changes after you find out that they are transgender, that is a transphobic reaction.
I'm not saying you don't want them to have a happy life, I'm not saying you think they're a freak, or anything else at all. That shift in attraction is what's transphobic, pure and simple. Your own views on what makes a woman a woman or what makes a transgender woman not a woman is what's transphobic there. You may be a nice guy, you probably are, you can still be a little transphobic though.
Rubbish, you stated you are putting down definitions, which were your own definitions of transphobia and your own ideas about what it is, you still are, when the dictionary definition shows you to be talking bollocks you move the goal posts. Using your new definitions, we are all a bit transphobic, a bit homophobic, a bit racist and bit whatever you want to put, just because we arent the same people and dont all find the same people attractive or want to have sex with them, what utter shite.
Attraction is a very subjective and individual thing, primarily because of that you cant make blanket statements like you have, about what other people think or are, with any certainty as we all see the world differently and all find different people attractive, we all have that right. Just because you dont find a particular person attractive for whatever reason, doesnt mean you are phobic of them or even think any less of them.
Again I go to the dictionary, rather than your little world of what a phobia is.
phobia
ˈfəʊbɪə/
noun
- an extreme or irrational fear of or aversion to something.
Saying someone isnt attactive, for whatever reason, doesnt mean you have an extreme or irrational fear. I have no fear or aversion to transgenders, fair play to them it takes a lot of guts (I was going to put balls, but that didnt seem right in this context) to come out and go through the process and anyone who is with them thats their right too, I dont think any less of them for it, in fact the opposite, I have a lot of admiration for them, like I do all sorts of people, doesnt mean I want to have sex with them though.
Edit: At no point did I say transgender women arent women, that is you putting that on me, to try and make a point.