Hello MagicPole, thanks for your contribution.
Speaking for myself, I’m trying to make sense of what happened.
I like trying to understand humanity - maybe that’s a futile exercise, but i prefer to be as knowledgable as possible about us and our behaviour rather than be confused by it.
This is a particularly confusing human scenario and, if I can understand it a litte bit more by getting an answer to a seemingly inoccuous element of it, then it begins to resolve itself - far from fully of course, but jigsaws aren’t completed by just one piece, but can’t be completed without it.
That’s how my mind works, and I make no apologies if it doesn’t align with your way of thinking or processing.