General / Mental Health Support Thread

[PinkFinal]

Just rung the local mental health team
I think they've assigned me a nurse
Even so I still think I'll need to go to the hospital tonight

 

[Kirkstall Blue]

I amused myself by looking online for advice last night.

1. Don't stay in the house, but get out and about. Check.
2. Socialise. Check. (Given I now go to church regularly, I am probably doing more socialising than in my whole life.)
3. Maintain your friendships. Check.

So maybe the answer (as this regime is not working for me) is to do the exact opposite.

Good advice Brian stay indoors keep warm and dry and wait until the sun comes out in March the warmer weather is on its way.
Spoil yourself with a treat of something nice to eat and don’t read the match day forum if you suffer from depression.

 

[Kirkstall Blue]

Just rung the local mental health team
I think they've assigned me a nurse
Even so I still think I'll need to go to the hospital tonight

It’s the right place to go even though it’s a long wait, I know it’s a struggle just concentrate on that one thing, how is your brother ?

 

[BrianW]

Good advice Brian stay indoors keep warm and dry and wait until the sun comes out in March the warmer weather is on its way.
Spoil yourself with a treat of something nice to eat and don’t read the match day forum if you suffer from depression.

The match forum would make Pollyanna want to top herself, even if she'd just won the Lottery.

 

[AliBobbyJ]

Good advice Brian stay indoors keep warm and dry and wait until the sun comes out in March the warmer weather is on its way.
Spoil yourself with a treat of something nice to eat and don’t read the match day forum if you suffer from depression.

In fact they're such miserable buggers on there it would make him feel cheerful by comparison.

 

[PinkFinal]

It’s the right place to go even though it’s a long wait, I know it’s a struggle just concentrate on that one thing, how is your brother ?

He's OK but lives in North Manchester
I'll see him tomorrow

 

[Fourinarow]

Mr Pink, have you considered changing your night time walks to some bike rides? If not and you're comfortable riding a bike, that could be a positive step. Obviously gives you more opportunities to ride out to further places when it's quiet at night away from the usual spaces. It'll get your blood pumping more etc and can be very enjoyable. There's loads of good cycle paths around Manchester, off the roads.

If you've not got a bike and would like one, maybe get in touch with 'The Cycle of Life Project' They provide donated bikes to people in Greater Manchester who need them as well as people with mental health issues. They'll drop it off at your house. I donated a bike to them last year that they provided to a bloke who was struggling who needed to get out of the house and have something to do. They do them up at their own expense and then pass them over to those who need them.

 

[Kirkstall Blue]

He's OK but lives in North Manchester
I'll see him tomorrow

Oh good I’m pleased he’s okay:) sometimes it harder to talk to family and people you know than complete strangers, good luck tonight if you need the AE they do a triage thing and it’s so many hoops to jump through, don’t be put off you are as important as all the other patients.

 

[PinkFinal]

Gonna take some stuff to the hospital.
In case I get kept in.
My existence has become sheer agony and this purgatory has to end. One way or another.
I cannot put into words how horrible terrifying and unbearable it's got.

When I spoke to the community mental health team this afternoon I mentioned ECT, and as I expected they said that will be a last resort. I feel I'm already there considering I've tried all available medication and have tried to use counselling and the gym to recover with no real improvement.

 

[Kirkstall Blue]

Gonna take some stuff to the hospital.
In case I get kept in.
My existence has become sheer agony and this purgatory has to end. One way or another.
I cannot put into words how horrible terrifying and unbearable it's got.

When I spoke to the community mental health team this afternoon I mentioned ECT, and as I expected they said that will be a last resort. I feel I'm already there considering I've tried all available medication and have tried to use counselling and the gym to recover with no real improvement.

Best wishes to night PF hope you can stay in touch if they find you a bed so much depends on beds and resources these days as I’ve already said your health is as important as anyone else’s and you want treatment :)

 

[PinkFinal]

Mr Pink, have you considered changing your night time walks to some bike rides? If not and you're comfortable riding a bike, that could be a positive step. Obviously gives you more opportunities to ride out to further places when it's quiet at night away from the usual spaces. It'll get your blood pumping more etc and can be very enjoyable. There's loads of good cycle paths around Manchester, off the roads.

If you've not got a bike and would like one, maybe get in touch with 'The Cycle of Life Project' They provide donated bikes to people in Greater Manchester who need them as well as people with mental health issues. They'll drop it off at your house. I donated a bike to them last year that they provided to a bloke who was struggling who needed to get out of the house and have something to do. They do them up at their own expense and then pass them over to those who need them.

You're right it's better than walking.
I still have a bike.
Something to consider definitely.

 

[BrianW]

I have found there is a mental health drop-in centre in sunny Bury. So I might give that a go next week, depending on how I go on over the weekend.

 

[ZenHalfTimeCrock]

I have found there is a mental health drop-in centre in sunny Bury. So I might give that a go next week, depending on how I go on over the weekend.

You are another person on here I’m rooting for.

Hope it goes well if you end up paying them a visit.

 

[Kirkstall Blue]

I have found there is a mental health drop-in centre in sunny Bury. So I might give that a go next week, depending on how I go on over the weekend.

Try it BrianW they have drop in centres all over the Greater Manchester area, let us know what happens even if you don’t find it helpful come back and tell us what it was like :)

 

[simmo]

I collected some personalised printed t-shirts last week which have the charity included. They are based in Burnley but only a short drive in the car from Manchester area.

The charity itself is called casual minds matter. They do several topics, including face to face, one to one and zoom calls. The website details are below.

https://casualmindsmatter.com/online-group-zoom-meeting/

 

[Eric Hitchmough]

Gonna take some stuff to the hospital.
In case I get kept in.
My existence has become sheer agony and this purgatory has to end. One way or another.
I cannot put into words how horrible terrifying and unbearable it's got.

When I spoke to the community mental health team this afternoon I mentioned ECT, and as I expected they said that will be a last resort. I feel I'm already there considering I've tried all available medication and have tried to use counselling and the gym to recover with no real improvement.

Wishing you all the very best, mate.

 

[wattle]

I did something I never thought I’d ever do today - I left the game and went home at half time. I lost my mum a year ago go and my dad suddenly a few months ago. And yesterday I had to put my little dog hero Stan down. I thought the hour and half trip and watching city would help but it didn’t. I just wanted to be at home with my missus and other dog. I feel like I’m hitting a wall. My heart and head has taken a hell of a bashing and I’m worried I’m about to crash. I’ll never do anything totally stupid but I feel like just sitting in a dark room for the foreseeable and don’t want to leave the house. I’ve had death thoughts for many years, lingering around in the background, but would never do that to my family, especially as I now know what death feels like from the other side of the coin. I’m just heartbroken and don’t really know what to do with myself. I’m sick of being brave and managing. I feel like I could just stop managing for a while but that might be stressful for my missus. I stupidly thought my 50’s would be easier with the kids grown up and being mortgage free. It isn’t. It’s fucking rubbish

 

[Kirkstall Blue]

I did something I never thought I’d ever do today - I left the game and went home at half time. I lost my mum a year ago go and my dad suddenly a few months ago. And yesterday I had to put my little dog hero Stan down. I thought the hour and half trip and watching city would help but it didn’t. I just wanted to be at home with my missus and other dog. I feel like I’m hitting a wall. My heart and head has taken a hell of a bashing and I’m worried I’m about to crash. I’ll never do anything totally stupid but I feel like just sitting in a dark room for the foreseeable and don’t want to leave the house. I’ve had death thoughts for many years, lingering around in the background, but would never do that to my family, especially as I now know what death feels like from the other side of the coin. I’m just heartbroken and don’t really know what to do with myself. I’m sick of being brave and managing. I feel like I could just stop managing for a while but that might be stressful for my missus. I stupidly thought my 50’s would be easier with the kids grown up and being mortgage free. It isn’t. It’s fucking rubbish

Both your parents in a short space of time is going to take it out of you, me saying it’s natural or normal to feel like you do when parents or close family and friends die, won’t mean a thing or help you.

It’s grief that makes you leave the game early and go back home where you can be alone with your thoughts.

Last year my sister lost her husband, son in law and two dogs all in quick succession, she was devastated much like you are she only wanted to stay indoors.

One thing she found useful was a bereavement group where you meet other people going through the loss of a loved one, also a trip to the doctor could help, maybe it’s not your thing.I’m trying to think of something that might help :)

 

[wattle]

Both your parents in a short space of time is going to take it out of you, me saying it’s natural or normal to feel like you do when parents or close family and friends die, won’t mean a thing or help you.

It’s grief that makes you leave the game early and go back home where you can be alone with your thoughts.

Last year my sister lost her husband, son in law and two dogs all in quick succession, she was devastated much like you are she only wanted to stay indoors.

One thing she found useful was a bereavement group where you meet other people going through the loss of a loved one, also a trip to the doctor could help, maybe it’s not your thing.I’m trying to think of something that might help :)

Thank you! Yeh I’m definitely going to need some help. I’ve been barrelling on through my parents death and being practical but this I’d different. Maybe it’s the straw that breaks the camels back and I think that having to make the decision ourselves makes it even harder. I’m autistic so have been looking at appropriate councillors to talk to. Hopefully that’ll help. I have an anxiety disorder and have had since my mum became really ill with dementia 3/4 years ago. And I’m lucky to be very aware what’s happening to my mind, but, probably because I’m autistic I’ve never let death of friends, work colleagues affect me that much - I’ve just been very practical about it. This last year though, especially with my dad and now my dog, has broken me.
Sorry to ramble - it’s just quite useful to write it down :(

 

[Kirkstall Blue]

Thank you! Yeh I’m definitely going to need some help. I’ve been barrelling on through my parents death and being practical but this I’d different. Maybe it’s the straw that breaks the camels back and I think that having to make the decision ourselves makes it even harder. I’m autistic so have been looking at appropriate councillors to talk to. Hopefully that’ll help. I have an anxiety disorder and have had since my mum became really ill with dementia 3/4 years ago. And I’m lucky to be very aware what’s happening to my mind, but, probably because I’m autistic I’ve never let death of friends, work colleagues affect me that much - I’ve just been very practical about it. This last year though, especially with my dad and now my dog, has broken me.
Sorry to ramble - it’s just quite useful to write it down :(

Writing it down might help organise your thoughts into some sort of order, like “keeping a diary” can be useful, or a similar thing sharing thoughts in a thread like this one, no one knows who you are:)

Someone you trust that will step in and listen like your wife (who probably knows you the best) ….it may fill the gap losing your parents is bound to leave and animals for the same reason we love our pets they are family to.