General / Mental Health Support Thread

SMB75 said:
Thanks for that
I am a runner and im doing the Manchester marathon again in April.
Yes im on my own, turned 50 last year and it is a big problem. Being honest I hate living on my own whilst everyone else has someone. But it seems impossible to meet anyone and I dont think women are attracted to nice guys.
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Don't brush your teeth for about 8 months, maybe pull a few of them out. Wear the same clothes everyday without getting a shower and start slapping women about.

That should sort it :)
 
SWPISHOME said:
Try and look at the positives, You have a roof over your head, you can eat everyday and you go to work and go home, you possibly have also people you can talk to in work, maybe even made some good friends there too.

You'll only annoy yourself if you see other families that don't work that have numerous kids going about their day without a care in the world...Would you like that lifestyle also, just sitting in the house all day living off benefits? Me personally, Absolutely not.

Maybe being on your own is a massive problem more so than what other people are doing and not earning as much as you'd like? Do you have any hobbies or anything?

I used to think the exact same as you and it does sometimes cross my mind to this day, but those people don't effect my life so I just leave them to it, I wouldn't like to be in there shoes, My kids seen me going to work everyday, bringing money in to keep us all going sets a good example in my eyes, I never went to college but I want my kids going to college so they don't have to be in a position that I'm in which is working 8-5 everyday carrying heavy shit, I want them to do as less work as possible for a big pay packet every week.

I don't know exactly as I've only read your two posts, but if it is a case of living alone maybe you've too much time to think? Get yourself out and about running or even walking, I find it really enjoyable.
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But question for you why is it that single men and actually women get treated with utter contempt? Why is there no financial incentive? Why does the government not help us a little more, all we get is an insuliting 25% council tax reduction.

You could argue that given that we are not burdening the world with more children and families that we should be given some sort of incentive for that instead of being seen as a cash cow.
People who breed and breed get money, why can't people who dont breed get some incentive?
 
I'm seeing a psychiatrist on Tuesday.
I guess this is in response to my self deletion "threat" over being refused electro convulsive therapy. It's certainly not an empty threat.
I regularly walk past railway stations, past rivers and canals, over motorway bridges. I could lose control and just do it, I'm certainly disorientated enough by extreme depression to do that.
It's getting very gradually worse every day. I find it surprising that I'm not banging my head against the wall or screaming.
My brother doesn't want me staying at his house even for a few days which has shocked me to be honest. It's not as if I'm an objectionable person or anything. I just wanted not to be alone for a while when I'm in this state.
To be honest I see it as a green light for self deletion. There isn't really anyone else who'll be seriously impacted by my departure.
If he can't even be arsed with me for a few days what's the fucking point? If your own family don't give a shit it's just fucking over.
 
PinkFinal said:
I'm seeing a psychiatrist on Tuesday.
I guess this is in response to my self deletion "threat" over being refused electro convulsive therapy. It's certainly not an empty threat.
I regularly walk past railway stations, past rivers and canals, over motorway bridges. I could lose control and just do it, I'm certainly disorientated enough by extreme depression to do that.
It's getting very gradually worse every day. I find it surprising that I'm not banging my head against the wall or screaming.
My brother doesn't want me staying at his house even for a few days which has shocked me to be honest. It's not as if I'm an objectionable person or anything. I just wanted not to be alone for a while when I'm in this state.
To be honest I see it as a green light for self deletion. There isn't really anyone else who'll be seriously impacted by my departure.
If he can't even be arsed with me for a few days what's the fucking point? If your own family don't give a shit it's just fucking over.
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For what little it might be worth, people who've survived suicide attempts have said that in the split second before hitting the water or whatever, or before that big locomotive came screaming round the bend, they had a momentary thought of "No .."
Maybe some of those who didn't make it felt the same way. I don't know. I've no bloody idea.
Anyway good luck at the pysch.

Has your brother seen this thread?
 
AliBobbyJ said:
For what little it might be worth, people who've survived suicide attempts have said that in the split second before hitting the water or whatever, or before that big locomotive came screaming round the bend, they had a momentary thought of "No .."
Maybe some of those who didn't make it felt the same way. I don't know. I've no bloody idea.
Anyway good luck at the pysch.

Has your brother seen this thread?
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I doubt it
It's not that I want to die it's just a matter of wanting the agony to end
 
PinkFinal said:
I'm seeing a psychiatrist on Tuesday.
I guess this is in response to my self deletion "threat" over being refused electro convulsive therapy. It's certainly not an empty threat.
I regularly walk past railway stations, past rivers and canals, over motorway bridges. I could lose control and just do it, I'm certainly disorientated enough by extreme depression to do that.
It's getting very gradually worse every day. I find it surprising that I'm not banging my head against the wall or screaming.
My brother doesn't want me staying at his house even for a few days which has shocked me to be honest. It's not as if I'm an objectionable person or anything. I just wanted not to be alone for a while when I'm in this state.
To be honest I see it as a green light for self deletion. There isn't really anyone else who'll be seriously impacted by my departure.
If he can't even be arsed with me for a few days what's the fucking point? If your own family don't give a shit it's just fucking over.
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Try not to read the political forum PF it’s all doom and gloom at the moment and if your feeling depressed and down it won’t help, the news on TV is just as bad, to much suffering in the world. Tuesday will come round soon enough so it’s time to make a list of all the things you have tried to help yourself with.
The drop in centre
Weight training
Walking
Music
The Doctor
Tablets
Football forum.
All the things you have researched ECT and that’s what you want to try or the nerve stimulation and hand it to the psychiatrist on Tuesday I’m sure they will listen
One of the most important things is the suicidal thoughts and describe the words you’ve shared with us and write it down hand it over first soon as you walk in.
 
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Thinking about it you really need your brother with you or someone to go along and support you, since your brother isn’t able to help then maybe one of the many Autistic associations can make suggestions

There is one called “Autism together” or bereavement groups because losing your Dad is a big thing for anybody to deal with and something doubly hard if you are on your own and no one to share the burden

Stay upbeat PF the clocks go back soon and you will feel a bit better :) everyone else in the thread as well we will soon be feeling the warmer weather and the rain will stop
 
Kirkstall Blue said:
Try not to read the political forum PF it’s all doom and gloom at the moment and if your feeling depressed and down it won’t help, the news on TV is just as bad, to much suffering in the world. Tuesday will come round soon enough so it’s time to make a list of all the things you have tried to help yourself with.
The drop in centre
Weight training
Walking
Music
The Doctor
Tablets
Football forum.
All the things you have researched ECT and that’s what you want to try or the nerve stimulation and hand it to the psychiatrist on Tuesday I’m sure they will listen
One of the most important things is the suicidal thoughts and describe the words you’ve shared with us and write it down hand it over first soon as you walk in.
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Thanks KB.
I can't get away from the fact that this is a decisive week.
I'm not just experiencing suicidal thoughts (every single minute I'd say) I'm also doing things like checking railway timetables. I'm in an extremely dark place indeed and obviously I'm scared of what's going to happen. Whether they will continue to reject my wishes on some ground or other. Obviously they're the experts and they will be considering their own ethical & legal responsibilities and their own careers but I don't see any way out of this aside from ECT.
 
Dear Pinkfinal I’m just a stranger on a forum that we share a mutual love of the same football club for . I hope the experts you are seeing this week recognise the turmoil you’ve experiencing and a plan can be put in place for your treatment. I know it’s of small comfort but but from one Blue to another keep doing what you’re already doing . Take care
 
PinkFinal said:
Thanks KB.
I can't get away from the fact that this is a decisive week.
I'm not just experiencing suicidal thoughts (every single minute I'd say) I'm also doing things like checking railway timetables. I'm in an extremely dark place indeed and obviously I'm scared of what's going to happen. Whether they will continue to reject my wishes on some ground or other. Obviously they're the experts and they will be considering their own ethical & legal responsibilities and their own careers but I don't see any way out of this aside from ECT.
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We will be thinking of you tomorrow PF and hoping the psychiatrist listens to you, it’s not the end though think of it as the start of a fight back against a health system that failed you in the past.
We will still be here all blues together to listen and try and come up with ways to help.
 
Unfortunately, the NHS Mental Health provision is piss poor. Unless you can convince them that you're an imminent risk to yourself or A.N.Other, they pretty much bung you on tablets and forget you.

You have to be a mithering bugger to get help, and when you've got MH issues, you often just withdraw into your shell. The last thing you want to do is run a campaign.
 
BrianW said:
Unfortunately, the NHS Mental Health provision is piss poor. Unless you can convince them that you're an imminent risk to yourself or A.N.Other, they pretty much bung you on tablets and forget you.

You have to be a mithering bugger to get help, and when you've got MH issues, you often just withdraw into your shell. The last thing you want to do is run a campaign.
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That’s right Brian simply ringing the doctor for an appointment is a minefield, all of the receptionist’s are trained to put you off seeing the doctor.

Number ten in the queue :( and no appointments left by the time they answer :(
 
SMB75 said:
Thanks for that
I am a runner and im doing the Manchester marathon again in April.
Yes im on my own, turned 50 last year and it is a big problem. Being honest I hate living on my own whilst everyone else has someone. But it seems impossible to meet anyone and I dont think women are attracted to nice guys.
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The trick is, find something or an activity where women go or do stuff.

You're obviously physically fit if you're running marathon's, so join a gym class where they are i.e. yoga or Body Pump/Zumba etc. I did about 20 years ago and after a while I guarantee they'll start talking to you and talking about themselves etc. Listen to them, and show interest in what they say .... trust me they'll be eating out of your hand in no time.

Nice guys win, and if you're a cheeky fcuker like I used to be, win big!
 
The Norfolk Blue said:
The trick is, find something or an activity where women go or do stuff.

You're obviously physically fit if you're running marathon's, so join a gym class where they are i.e. yoga or Body Pump/Zumba etc. I did about 20 years ago and after a while I guarantee they'll start talking to you and talking about themselves etc. Listen to them, and show interest in what they say .... trust me they'll be eating out of your hand in no time.

Nice guys win, and if you're a cheeky fcuker like I used to be, win big!
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Thank you.
 
They've again rejected my request for ECT
If not being able to get out of bed. not being able to talk to people and not being able to go outside during the day without enormous dread doesn't meet the criteria for ECT then I suppose I'll have to wait to get worse before they accept me.
They said other things would have to be tried before considering it which is understandable but every moment feels like torture.
It's just dragging on. I have no immediate plans to exit but that could change in minutes cos that's how my mind works. I've told them this , that I can't predict how I'm going to feel or what I'm going to do.

It's a beautiful sunny day today.
 
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