anyone else lonely?

gordondaviesmoustache said:
Funnily enough I was thinking about this yesterday, but in reverse.

Met a girl yesterday at a little get together in London with some friends. Quite liked her. Clever, thin, laughs at my jokes, eight years younger than me. That's four very big boxes ticked. On my way back last night I thought about seeing her again, and I may well do, but I did think quite a lot about how much being with someone involves compromise. My last relationship started off like a steam train and then fizzled out a few months later, mainly because of her wanting me to change and me implacably refusing to: telling her it simply wasn't an option.

My work entails a lot of time working alone; I also live alone and I now realise I've really grown to enjoy my own company. It's a bit strange because I'm a really social, outgoing person and I've got a lot of friends and contacts, both working and social. I'm certainly not a hermit and I do enjoy the company if others. I like people.

I think I'm quite a selfish person in many respects - and that's why I'm hesitant to enter into anything serious. I reckon I'll see that girl again, but any sign of it getting too serious and I expect I'll start backing off, as that will involve too much compromise with my life and how it operates.

Different proposition when you're older, as Warspite said, but I'll worry about that nearer the time and I'm certainly sad for anyone who feels lonely and isolated.
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Don't know why but I always assumed you were an old **** to be honest! :)
 
You havin a laugh? What with games like guess the date of the 2p wedged under your foreskin and guess what day my mum wore these knickers by smell alone.

You youngsters have not lived
 
For those concerned as they are single and lonely...............it could be worse, you could be in a relationship and lonely. Plenty are.
 
warspite said:
Loneliness is far worse when you are elderly, there is an 87 year old Woman lives in the flat above us she is on her own most of the day apart from when social care come of a Morning to get her bathed and dressed and same at night to get her into her bedclothes
Her only Daughter lives in Stafford and is a sour faced cow who to me has abandoned her and rarely visits, either Me or my Mrs make a point now of ringing on and going up and sitting with her for an hour or so and when the weather is nice like Yesterday I will get her down the stairs and get her to sit outside and chat with the other neighbours in our communal gardens, she is a lovely old lady but I can see her will to live slowly fading in the last few years bless her
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That's a lovely thing to do
 
It's strange but the older I get, the more selfish I've become (in terms of my time). I live alone, but have my 10 yo daughter over every other weekend. That weekend is sacred and nothing comes between it, not even City unless we go to the game together. The other 12 nights are mine to do as I please. I adore female company and part of me would love to meet someone who I could connect with, but can I see myself living with someone again......I honestly don't know if I could! I enjoy shutting the door, watching what I want, going where I want, seeing who I want but I do sometimes feel lonely (it passes quickly).
I see a lot of my male friends in an eternal state of misery, but rather than do something about it, they sit tight and moan....fear of being alone perhaps!
 
BOMBER7967 said:
It's strange but the older I get, the more selfish I've become (in terms of my time). I live alone, but have my 10 yo daughter over every other weekend. That weekend is sacred and nothing comes between it, not even City unless we go to the game together. The other 12 nights are mine to do as I please. I adore female company and part of me would love to meet someone who I could connect with, but can I see myself living with someone again......I honestly don't know if I could! I enjoy shutting the door, watching what I want, going where I want, seeing who I want but I do sometimes feel lonely (it passes quickly).
I see a lot of my male friends in an eternal state of misery, but rather than do something about it, they sit tight and moan....fear of being alone perhaps!
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It's called fear of loosing your house and seeing your kids 4 days a month.
 
worsleyweb said:
It's called fear of loosing your house and seeing your kids 4 days a month.
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Fair comment WW, but the alternative, in my case at least, was to smile on the outside and die on the inside...not happening!
 
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