Alcohol, hints, tips, advice etc.

Brilliant.

(more patronising advice alert). Try to absorb yourself in something, if you can. A book, or writing about how you feel in a diary, or dig out that guitar you never learned to play (don't worry, we all have one).....whatever else floats your candle.

I took delivery of a used Kindle from Fleabay the other day. Just £20 delivered, and it's pretty recent and very tidy. Half-way through the 1st book I've read in years (shameful for a so-called writer!). Just hauling my sorry arse into the 21st century! Best £20 I spent in years.

As i say, maybe try to distract yourself with something you really fancy. I know the physical side will be way harder than boredom, but even if it helps a bit, it can't be bad.

ATB, bud....a lot of people rooting for you and sending you positive vibes,
I don't feel patronised at all mate, I'll take any advice given.
I've moped about today feeling sorry for myself. But I've been here before and in a few days things will start looking better I know.
Thanks to everyone who has taken the time to help or comment.
You don't know how much it means to me.
 
I've always thought that 'writing a letter' to say goodbye to something like this (e.g. gambling, drugs or booze etc) has a bit of merit.

I know it seems a bit hippy dippy (not dipper!), but it sort of makes sense to me. No one ever need see the letter except yourself.

As I understand it, people seem to start their letter with recalling the 'good times' their addiction started off as - and quickly they realise it wasn't much fun ever; embarrassing themselves. hurting loved ones, hating and damaging themselves, hitting rock bottom etc.

Then they go on to outline why they are ending the relationship with their addiction. I reckon that part is a lot easier to spill out while they are still angry at their 'ex'. The letter is then a powerful thing to pull out and read when those demons try creeping up on them again.

To read how raw, angry, defeated and heartbroken they were when they wrote it (and not view it all through rose-tinted memory) brings it home exactly why they are doing this.

Not sure if I've covered all the ingredients of one of those letters (bound to be more stuff online), but that's the gist as I understand it.
 
Both my parents were alcoholics, killed my mum aged 55, Dad lasted a few years more before it did for him too... I am 54 now, I have the “thirsty” gene for sure.. After being on a functioning but ultimately boozey destructive path myself , I met my now wife who didn’t and never really had drunk.. Firstly she got me out of the habit, and helped me be strict about my “problem” .. I stopped drinking Monday, Tuesday , Wednesday and sundays,, hard at first, but once I broke the habit I enjoyed the non drink days and especially the mornings.. Had so much more energy .. Also enjoyed the days when I did have a drink , plus didn’t feel the need to have that last few large swigs before I went to bed.. I know we are all different, but breaking the habit seemed to do the trick for me.. Appologies if a bit rambling.. All the best to anyone trying to give up or drink less ,
 
Both my parents were alcoholics, killed my mum aged 55, Dad lasted a few years more before it did for him too... I am 54 now, I have the “thirsty” gene for sure.. After being on a functioning but ultimately boozey destructive path myself , I met my now wife who didn’t and never really had drunk.. Firstly she got me out of the habit, and helped me be strict about my “problem” .. I stopped drinking Monday, Tuesday , Wednesday and sundays,, hard at first, but once I broke the habit I enjoyed the non drink days and especially the mornings.. Had so much more energy .. Also enjoyed the days when I did have a drink , plus didn’t feel the need to have that last few large swigs before I went to bed.. I know we are all different, but breaking the habit seemed to do the trick for me.. Appologies if a bit rambling.. All the best to anyone trying to give up or drink less ,

That's heartbreaking about your parents, mate. Huge respect to you for tackling this bastard disease head-on.
 
That's heartbreaking about your parents, mate. Huge respect to you for tackling this bastard disease head-on.[/QUOT
That's heartbreaking about your parents, mate. Huge respect to you for tackling this bastard disease head-on.
Cheers, and you are right saying it’s a disease,it affects people from all walks of life.. My mum had a good job in the City, (I’m a Londoner as well :))Dad director of his own company .. It can just get a hold of you ... Anyway thanks for your massage :)
 
Both my parents were alcoholics, killed my mum aged 55, Dad lasted a few years more before it did for him too... I am 54 now, I have the “thirsty” gene for sure.. After being on a functioning but ultimately boozey destructive path myself , I met my now wife who didn’t and never really had drunk.. Firstly she got me out of the habit, and helped me be strict about my “problem” .. I stopped drinking Monday, Tuesday , Wednesday and sundays,, hard at first, but once I broke the habit I enjoyed the non drink days and especially the mornings.. Had so much more energy .. Also enjoyed the days when I did have a drink , plus didn’t feel the need to have that last few large swigs before I went to bed.. I know we are all different, but breaking the habit seemed to do the trick for me.. Appologies if a bit rambling.. All the best to anyone trying to give up or drink less ,
No apology needed. Rambling is a good way to shed a mental weight, for me anyway.
I'd like to think anyone can contribute to this thread however they want, it's a complex subject, and everyone has there own way of coping/ dealing with the problem.
I'm really glad you managed to break your habit mate.
I really wish I had the mental strength to enjoy a drink now and again, but it's all or nothing for me. As soon as I have a drink after a period of abstinence I'm back on it big time withinn days.
I'm beginning to realise I may have to pack in for good this time. But hey, there's worse things that could happen, especially in the times we're living in.
Thank you for the contribution.
Stay safe
 
Deffo.
I'm planning to stop this weekend. I'm fucking dreading it. I'd like to post my progress whether good or bad.
Hope I don't bore you all too much.
Thanks all again.
I seem to be continously thanking people lately.
One day at a time. Don't think of it as never having a drink again if that puts you off stopping. Don't be too hard on yourself either. Keep posting too.
 
One day at a time. Don't think of it as never having a drink again if that puts you off stopping. Don't be too hard on yourself either. Keep posting too.
Thanks bud.
I just don't see the point in doing six months only to start again and end up back where I started, if that makes any sense at all.
My logic is probably a bit fuzzy at the moment though.
Like you say, one day at a time.
Thanks for the support
 
Cheers, and you are right saying it’s a disease,it affects people from all walks of life.. My mum had a good job in the City, (I’m a Londoner as well :))Dad director of his own company .. It can just get a hold of you ... Anyway thanks for your massage :)

Hmmm, you cockneys don't fuck about do you, you've only known him 5 minutes.
 
Thanks bud.
I just don't see the point in doing six months only to start again and end up back where I started, if that makes any sense at all.
My logic is probably a bit fuzzy at the moment though.
Like you say, one day at a time.
Thanks for the support
You won’t be doing 6 months just to start again, you will have done 6 months not drinking :). ... The habit will have been broken then you can go from there.. Good luck fellow blue
 
Thanks bud.
I just don't see the point in doing six months only to start again and end up back where I started, if that makes any sense at all.
My logic is probably a bit fuzzy at the moment though.
Like you say, one day at a time.
Thanks for the support

Get to base camp - then re-evaluate, mate. The journey onward will look a lot more do-able when you're fighting fit.

(That's gotta be a 3-like post....minimum?)
 

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