bluegirl74
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First of all, sincere condolences to you both and to your families. Losing anyone you love is horrific, losing a parent shakes your world entirely. Someone told me once that grief is what we feel when we can no longer express our love for someone, and I think that there's some truth in that.
I've lost both my Mum and Dad in the last few years and in the depth of both my losses, I couldn't belive that the world was continuing to turn when mine had imploded. You'll feel a hundred different emotions over the next few days and every one of them needs to be worked through as you process the grief while also trying to deal with formalities and practicalities.
I'm going to offer some different advice to that which other posters have done. The phrase "stay strong" has developed over the last few years and while I know that people mean it kindly, I personally find it very dangerous. So im.just going to remind you that you don't need to stay strong, some days that will be too difficult. Pent up emotions are damaging to all of us. So cry when you want to, vent when you need to and laugh when you can. Talk as much as you are able to. This place is available 24/7 if no one else is.
I'd personally recommend checking out the Cruse website. Its a charity which offers all kinds of help, advice and support to the bereaved. They helped me enormously this year when the grief I'd historically kept suppressed crept up on me.
Take care of yourselves and give yourselves time, it really is the only healer x
First of all, sincere condolences to you both and to your families. Losing anyone you love is horrific, losing a parent shakes your world entirely. Someone told me once that grief is what we feel when we can no longer express our love for someone, and I think that there's some truth in that.
I've lost both my Mum and Dad in the last few years and in the depth of both my losses, I couldn't belive that the world was continuing to turn when mine had imploded. You'll feel a hundred different emotions over the next few days and every one of them needs to be worked through as you process the grief while also trying to deal with formalities and practicalities.
I'm going to offer some different advice to that which other posters have done. The phrase "stay strong" has developed over the last few years and while I know that people mean it kindly, I personally find it very dangerous. So im.just going to remind you that you don't need to stay strong, some days that will be too difficult. Pent up emotions are damaging to all of us. So cry when you want to, vent when you need to and laugh when you can. Talk as much as you are able to. This place is available 24/7 if no one else is.
I'd personally recommend checking out the Cruse website. Its a charity which offers all kinds of help, advice and support to the bereaved. They helped me enormously this year when the grief I'd historically kept suppressed crept up on me.
Take care of yourselves and give yourselves time, it really is the only healer x