Billy No Mates

[Kinkladze 1]

Props to everyone who has offered help, friendship and words of support to the OP. You should be proud of yourselves.

 

[PinkFinal]

There's no stigma in being lonely really.
Society is just so so broken and different to how it was when us FOCs grew up.
I've lost friends , lost contact and I'm just too hard headed and stupid to initiate contact after so long without it.

 

[City_Shirts]

There's no stigma in being lonely really.
Society is just so so broken and different to how it was when us FOCs grew up.
I've lost friends , lost contact and I'm just too hard headed and stupid to initiate contact after so long without it.

It has but it’s still a choice that you can change at any time.

Make a list of those you’d like to reconnect with and make contact, you’ve nothing to lose and everything to gain.

We are only here once mate

 

[Eaststander1]

Wow didnt expect the ammount of response or kindness i have generated

it is much appreciated

Thank you

You're never alone mate, genuine people will always care ....

At the end of the day though, only YOU can change your life .... so when you get the 'all clear' from hospital, think positively .. take the steps to improve YOUR situation , and you'll become a lot happier within yourself ..... you could join a gym, you might meet new people....join any type of class, keep fit, art, a walking club, or just anything at all that interests you and will involve you with 'like minded' people ..... I made new friends in my local library the other week ..... join a City supporters club .... volunteering in something is another way to meet people .... you could do ANYTHING, but YOU have to initially make the effort to do so .... people make decisions, and take steps to change their lives, hopefully for the better everyday .... it's highly unlikely that it will ever just 'fall on your doorstep' if you don't actively make it happen yourself.

 

[mexico1970]

There's no stigma in being lonely really.
Society is just so so broken and different to how it was when us FOCs grew up.
I've lost friends , lost contact and I'm just too hard headed and stupid to initiate contact after so long without it.

It's even harder for young people who have relied just on technology to make friends and have virtual friends they can just put back in the box with little to no emotional connection to them.

The death of the sense of community hasn't helped with successive government not really want people meeting together in case they form a bond and a common cause.

Mate, initiate contact they are probably thinking the same way.

 

[Alan ogleys ball bag]

I no im going to get ridiculed for this ....

Currently sat in hospital in london..

Havent seen us play since i gave up my season ticket after the wigan cup final...

Mainly due to 1 thing . I have 0 mates that support city .

I used to go to games on my own, travel on my own and in then end it got a bit lonely .

I also stopped gping to away games down here as had a few things said to me for having a southern accent.. my dads family are from manchester ...

He told me when i was 5 red was banned from the hpuse and if i didnt support city i had to to to borstal

I no people are going to find this hysterical ,

But ive had a failed suicide attempt back in 2010, im back in the priory weekly and now have had my second major op in 12.weels and im only 43 ....

I want to get back to live games but i really dont want to go it alone .....

Laughs out the way but id appreciate some city mates ,,,,,


Sad fucker i no ..

feel for you mate keep the faith and fuck em

 

[Blue Mist]

It certainly is a great way to make mates, but thsse days you have to go on city website click to join supporters club then get an email back and wait, dont know when they changed it to this method

That's such a stupid policy. It will be because of tickets but what about meeting like minded Blues in a pub to watch the match and have a moan (we're Blues what else would we do)
Football really is fucked if a Blue from the far east (norfolk) cannot just go along to a boozer and see the Chairman of an SC and pay his fiver.

 

[york away to this!]

The oddball bluemoon fam is a wierd thing. Hope the OP exploits it for all it's worth. Love it, detest it, though use it.
We're all cunts, though we're all city cunts so we love each other...

 

[heslops barnet]

You're never alone mate, genuine people will always care ....

At the end of the day though, only YOU can change your life .... so when you get the 'all clear' from hospital, think positively .. take the steps to improve YOUR situation , and you'll become a lot happier within yourself ..... you could join a gym, you might meet new people....join any type of class, keep fit, art, a walking club, or just anything at all that interests you and will involve you with 'like minded' people ..... I made new friends in my local library the other week ..... join a City supporters club .... volunteering in something is another way to meet people .... you could do ANYTHING, but YOU have to initially make the effort to do so .... people make decisions, and take steps to change their lives, hopefully for the better everyday .... it's highly unlikely that it will ever just 'fall on your doorstep' if you don't actively make it happen yourself.

One small step at a time……..

 

[dennishasdoneit]

That’s sad to read that you feel like that.

I’ll be your mate.

I’m very similar in that I live in Kent and for many years in my 20s I used to travel to most games on my own. However I have always found city fans some of the most friendliest and helpful people I’ve met.

There are even people on this board that I’ve met and gone to games with and even this week one has messaged me offering a ticket which was appreciated greatly.

Don’t give up and start seeing if you can go again. Even if it’s just to the pub to start with and meet fellow blues.
Where abouts in London are you based.
I work in London so I’m happy to try meet up if we can.

Maybe join a supporters club aswell.

Anyway feel free to private message me if you wish to but I guarantee you won’t feel alone at the match if you just say hi to people strike up conversations.

All the best mate and feel free to message.

Good post.
I can't tell you how much joining a supporters club helped me in my early days of watching City. After disastrous trips to Ipswich by train alone in the storms of Oct 1987,and a horrendous, traumatic shocking visit to Leeds Ellland road around the same time...( I ended up ion the Leeds kop ),again alone,travelling from Nottingham....I realized I can't do this on my own.

I reached out to the supporters club office at Maine Rd and also had request for lifts put in the supporters club page of the home match program.

My footballing life changed,I never looked back.one of my best mates is a blue from Wales,we were in the leicester and rugby branch late 80s,he lives in Guilford now and we are still in contact,nearly 40 years of friendship,just from joining a branch.

Get yourself in with the London branch,I've known a fair few of them from back in the day when it was run by Tina.( Some big drinkers mind,so watch yourself ; )

Best of luck on your quest Blue.

 

[Blue Mist]

Can I just point out that the OP still hasn't bought me a beer.
The pubs I frequent accept credit/debit cards, PayPal and even cheques, all if which can be done over the phone but, thus far, nowt.

I'm not going to say I'm disappointed, thirsty yes but not (yet) disappointed.

 

[The Mighty Marmoush]

That's such a stupid policy. It will be because of tickets but what about meeting like minded Blues in a pub to watch the match and have a moan (we're Blues what else would we do)
Football really is fucked if a Blue from the far east (norfolk) cannot just go along to a boozer and see the Chairman of an SC and pay his fiver.

I agree 100% city are getting more and more detached from the real fans these days

 

[Eaststander1]

One small step at a time……..

Yep, it has to be done one step at a time if he's genuinely serious about improving his overall situation.... the main thing is he actually moves forward in a way that best suits him, because he clearly can't go on the way he is doing .... I'm only putting suggestions his way, as are others on here, but nothing will work unless the OP actually wants them to.