Exactly what I told my lad.A very sad story that.
I teach young Stoned a simple rule.
If someone hits you, you hit them back twice as hard and twice as many times. Fucking give it them. Leave them in no doubt you are not to be fucked with.
But, you never go looking for mither and you must never be the aggressor.
Going well so far fingers crossed.
I’ve told my daughter this many times. Drummed it into her that my experience of bullies (personal and from mates and people on here etc) shows that they only pick on those that don’t fight back ie if the bullying isn’t stopped by the teachers then she has free reign to smash the twats in the faceA very sad story that.
I teach young Stoned a simple rule.
If someone hits you, you hit them back twice as hard and twice as many times. Fucking give it them. Leave them in no doubt you are not to be fucked with.
But, you never go looking for mither and you must never be the aggressor.
Going well so far fingers crossed.
I think the difference today is that a lot, possibly most, of bullying is psychological. Back in the day, you picked out the ring leader and took them on, their supporters dissipated. With social media, it's unclear who the leader is. It gives those who won't speak up in public a voice, and sometimes, on occasion, it's pure poison. They don't know how to fight physically but they learn quickly how to manipulate others to follow their lead and to do their bidding.A very sad story that.
I teach young Stoned a simple rule.
If someone hits you, you hit them back twice as hard and twice as many times. Fucking give it them. Leave them in no doubt you are not to be fucked with.
But, you never go looking for mither and you must never be the aggressor.
Going well so far fingers crossed.
I think the difference today is that a lot, possibly most, of bullying is psychological. Back in the day, you picked out the ring leader and took them on, their supporters dissipated. With social media, it's unclear who the leader is. It gives those who won't speak up in public a voice, and sometimes, on occasion, it's pure poison. They don't know how to fight physically but they learn quickly how to manipulate others to follow their lead and to do their bidding.
I have never had a fight but was called out a number of times at school. The idea of being punched never appealed to me, but I at least had the sanctuary of home. The bullies didn't know where I lived, as did none of their entourage, and usually the issue sort of went away on its own - perhaps the antagonist had quiet time to reflect too. This sanctuary doesn't exist anymore. The victim is constantly persecuted and the bully is continually re-energised.
Reacting today with violence is something I truly advise against. Social media is the conduit by which this poison spreads, and it's turning some kids feral.
This is a very important point. Some of the things my kids got upset about just made me laugh they were that insignificant. These little things escalate and aggregate and sometimes become major issues, and parents (myself included) often don't (or can't) see the full picture because the child hasn't got the capability to articulate what they're feeling. The damage is already done by that time.Nail on the head re social media.
Back in the day, if you had a rough time in school you’d go home and that was your sanctuary. These days it can be 24/7 and as you say, a lot more psychological which I personally think can be a lot more harmful long term.
It must be awful for kids these days. Not just in extreme examples like this where you can be bullied but also for small things like, how many likes you get, seeing all your friends at a party you didn’t know about, all that shit you have stupid hang ups about when you’re a teenager is just exasperated by social media.
I think the difference today is that a lot, possibly most, of bullying is psychological. Back in the day, you picked out the ring leader and took them on, their supporters dissipated. With social media, it's unclear who the leader is. It gives those who won't speak up in public a voice, and sometimes, on occasion, it's pure poison. They don't know how to fight physically but they learn quickly how to manipulate others to follow their lead and to do their bidding.
I have never had a fight but was called out a number of times at school. The idea of being punched never appealed to me, but I at least had the sanctuary of home. The bullies didn't know where I lived, as did none of their entourage, and usually the issue sort of went away on its own - perhaps the antagonist had quiet time to reflect too. This sanctuary doesn't exist anymore. The victim is constantly persecuted and the bully is continually re-energised.
Reacting today with violence is something I truly advise against. Social media is the conduit by which this poison spreads, and it's turning some kids feral.