Came out...

[VinceYoungisaBLUE]

This is actually sad :( considering its not just them 2 but a whole family

I think if they both still love each other than they should try and make it work. See what happens and who knows the wife may learn something about herself too. Hell it may be that the husband doesn't really like guys either, it may just be him wanting to live out a fantasy he's had.

 

[paphos-mcfc]

If they reversed roles maybe they could work something out, as long as the kids don't walk in whilst she's battering his arse with a 10inch strap on.

 

[scotty123]

I dont know whether to watch Spurs at 8 or stay on this thread !!

 

[TheMightyQuinn]

It won't work unless she's got no self esteem

She could spend all day getting ready for a night out and look stunning but she'll know that it does nothing for him and that he'd rather be with a guy. Factor in the fact that other men will pay her attention, as that's the way of the world, and it's only going to get messy.

I can understand a gay guy keeping it quiet or pretending he's straight but you don't need to go as far as marriage and children. Incredibly selfish that your mate was chosen years ago to be this guys beard.

End of the day though, she's a woman, she'll want to change him and that's quite a challenge. I predict a life long relationship where ignorance reigns and noises coming from the shed are brushed under the carpet.

 

[TCIB]

It won't work unless she's got no self esteem

She could spend all day getting ready for a night out and look stunning but she'll know that it does nothing for him and that he'd rather be with a guy. Factor in the fact that other men will pay her attention, as that's the way of the world, and it's only going to get messy.

I can understand a gay guy keeping it quiet or pretending he's straight but you don't need to go as far as marriage and children. Incredibly selfish that your mate was chosen years ago to be this guys beard.

End of the day though, she's a woman, she'll want to change him and that's quite a challenge. I predict a life long relationship where ignorance reigns and noises coming from the shed are brushed under the carpet.

On a serious note this is a very real possibility :<

Now back to the stapons...

 

[andyhinch]

My mate's (and I do mean my mate, not me!) husband 'came out' to her yesterday.
He claims he's always been attracted to men, but has never acted on it. But he'd like to discuss the possibility of an 'Open Marriage' sometime in the future
He wants to stay married to her and loves her deeply and their sex life is better than it has been for ages.

She's obviously devastated, but still loves him, they have been a couple for years and have two children. She has no desire to be with anyone else.

What should she do? Stay and trust that he won't experiment/ cheat on her?
Or leave?

And you made the wise choice of bringing this to the attention of the grand old dames of Bluemoon?

Good grief

I was looking for a male point of view.
We are all offering our opinions, but we are all female.
I don't think she'll base her decision purely on what BM comes up with, I just thought it might be a helpful input for her..

Does this "open marriage" allow her to have different partners? I don't really get the concept my self, so people on here know my history, so I'm no shinning light but I've not been unfaithful to the person I'm sleeping with, a good relationship needs love or its broken, sleeping with someone else won't mend it

 

[squirtyflower]

My mate's (and I do mean my mate, not me!) husband 'came out' to her yesterday.
He claims he's always been attracted to men, but has never acted on it. But he'd like to discuss the possibility of an 'Open Marriage' sometime in the future
He wants to stay married to her and loves her deeply and their sex life is better than it has been for ages.

She's obviously devastated, but still loves him, they have been a couple for years and have two children. She has no desire to be with anyone else.

What should she do? Stay and trust that he won't experiment/ cheat on her?
Or leave?

And you made the wise choice of bringing this to the attention of the grand old dames of Bluemoon?

Good grief

I was looking for a male point of view.
We are all offering our opinions, but we are all female.
I don't think she'll base her decision purely on what BM comes up with, I just thought it might be a helpful input for her..

My 'grand old dames' comment was aimed at the males on the forum!

 

[TheMightyQuinn]

It won't work unless she's got no self esteem

She could spend all day getting ready for a night out and look stunning but she'll know that it does nothing for him and that he'd rather be with a guy. Factor in the fact that other men will pay her attention, as that's the way of the world, and it's only going to get messy.

I can understand a gay guy keeping it quiet or pretending he's straight but you don't need to go as far as marriage and children. Incredibly selfish that your mate was chosen years ago to be this guys beard.

End of the day though, she's a woman, she'll want to change him and that's quite a challenge. I predict a life long relationship where ignorance reigns and noises coming from the shed are brushed under the carpet.

On a serious note this is a very real possibility :<

Now back to the stapons...

Course it it...half the country are trapped in loveless relationships for the sake of the mortgage, children or pets.

 

[Ammy]

This is actually sad :( considering its not just them 2 but a whole family

I think if they both still love each other than they should try and make it work. See what happens and who knows the wife may learn something about herself too. Hell it may be that the husband doesn't really like guys either, it may just be him wanting to live out a fantasy he's had.

I think this is her plan. For the time at least

 

[Ding Dong]

What about the kids , depending how old they are , their lives will be hard.
Get shut NOW !