Cheating in a relationship

[kaz7]

Are my posts about my cheating ex not being seen for several years being deleted because they break some coc, or just because they are in bad taste?

Knowing you bad taste ! Seriously though i remember how much you suffered so you should be able to share it in here

 

[youngbob]

It's different strokes for different folks, init. Sometimes people do change when they get given a second chance, sometimes they don't. I don't really think there's a catch-all solution or answer to questions like this. I've known people throughout my life who have made it work after a cheating incident, I've known people who couldn't make it work, and I've known people who couldn't try again because that trust barrier had been broken forever.

I don't think I would carry on these days after trying to in the past. In my very first "long-term relationship" when I was about 15, I got cheated on and, in response, almost did some cheating myself - I felt hideous after getting cheated on and I felt nauseous and wracked with guilt that I'd seriously contemplated it. So far, more than a decade later, it's been enough to put me off the idea for life. From my own experiences, and from friends, it rarely ends totally happily.

For the rest of that relationship I carried two heavy stones around with me the entire time and it was fucking miserable. One for how bad it felt to get cheated on, the other for how bad it felt to know I was inches from becoming that kind of person. Feelings aren't a crime, thinking things isn't a crime, it's just how you act on those feelings and thoughts isn't it. With life and marriage and love, you go through a lot of stuff and I don't see how cheating is an answer to any of it.

 

[Auden night mail]

Do we have too much tradition in monogamy, I think we do, its a mindset. Perhaps we need to change how we view relationships. Don't shoot the messenger, just putting it out there.

 

[BlueHammer85]

I used to do a yearly work trip to Norway and had a girl out there for a bit of rompy pompy. all stopped now.

 

[MillisleBlue]

Might be an age or upbringing thing but once trust is gone, it’s gone.

 

[Blue Mist]

My missus cheated, only the once, so I forgave her.
OK it was with the First Battalion of the Grenadier Guards but she said it meant nothing so come on.

 

[kaz7]

Might be an age or upbringing thing but once trust is gone, it’s gone.

This is true , i bitterly regret wasting my time on the man that smashed my trust , never again

 

[mexico1970]

Do we have too much tradition in monogamy, I think we do, its a mindset. Perhaps we need to change how we view relationships. Don't shoot the messenger, just putting it out there.

The dating game looks like a right old sewer nowadays, glad I am well out of it never to return.

The upside for the young lads is that as long as you are honest you can get all the emotionless sex you want and for the ladies you get a big body count and a lonely middle aged life when the bad choices hit.

 

[snorky]

This is true , i bitterly regret wasting my time on the man that smashed my trust , never again

I have never heard it called a 'trust' before :)

 

[Gaylord du Bois]

I used to do a yearly work trip to Norway and had a girl out there for a bit of rompy pompy. all stopped now.

Portsmouth fan, was she?