Childhood Bullies

[inchy14]

Fuck them mate and just go, if you don't they're still getting the better of you in some way.

Whan i was at school a couple of lads would give me a hard time and one day one of the twats was sat behind me and started stabbing me with his compass, nothing to much but enough to hurt, made me not want to go in for days after that.
Anyway a couple of weeks later the **** is sat next to me in English(1983 and still remember this), the twat was leaning over his desk so he was hovering over his chair, i got my Bic pen and held in on the chair and waited for him to sit down, well when he did the pen must have gone into his arse cheek about an inch!
Felt fucking brilliant that did, never had much trouble after that tbh.

About 15 years later i'm at a kids party ,who's mother is friends with my wife, when he walks in, i look at the fat bald old looking bastard and just smiled and nodded at him. I'm with a gorgeous wife and he's with a fat old slag, the look on his face was priceless.

He who laughs last laughs longest don't they say?

 

[Why Always Ste]

Just remember - Most Abusers are victims of abuse themselves...

I mean, for all you knew he could of had the shit kicked out of him by his Dad just a few hours before he bullied you in school?

Best thing you can do is turn up, and confront your personal demon

I've met quite a few lads who bullied me as a kid and most of them have either apologised or shook my hand and acknowledged what they were like.
But as said the lads I remember who bullied me were heavily bullied themselves.... Some have ended up complete wrecks or are now dead due to drug/alcohol abuse.

Enjoy your night out with your Brother

 

[pirate]

very interesting thread.
I was bullied but managed to sort it out at school before I left. best weeks detention ever.
So havent really any good advice to give just wanted to wish the OP all the best whatever decision.

confrontation might not be the best thing considering the occassion but you might get a better reaction than you think. My mate was horribly bullied by a teacher. A couple of years after leaving he met me and a group of mates for a drink near our old school. The teacher in question was there with other teachers. My friend just walked up to him and said loudly " I got to university despite you, you little fucker", which was followed by the whole pub cheering and clapping.

 

[stonerblue]

Kick the shit out of him.

 

[masterwig]

Lure him to a petrol station and threaten him with a hot apple pie. Then get an assistant to chalk a cock onto his back.

 

[daveduke67]

It is my brothers stag party coming up and I have found out that a couple of guys that bullied me as a child are going.

Now when they were bullying me my brother was not friends with them and It is the best part of 13 years ago, but I cannot see past it.

I am worried I may cause a scene of some sort, I don't want to ruin my brothers stag party but I have always managed to avoid them and there will be no avoiding here and cannot say exactly how I will react when confronted with them.

I am actually getting pretty annoyed already thinking back at they way they were with me.

Anyone have any past experience of this sort of problem?

Have you spoken to your brother about this?

It might be that he is unaware of the history between you, maybe the two bullies have already told him what went on and said that they feel really bad and are looking forward to getting a chance to apologize.

It all depends how you get on with your brother and how you work together. If you think he'd get upset and this would spoil his night just go and ignore the two idiots and try to avoid them.

Give us an idea of how you get on with him and how he knows these two lads and why he'd ask them. If they're friends of friends he might be able to say they're not welcome and problem solved, if they're his future wifes brothers it might not be so easy. Is he a sensitive sort of person, are you his little brother and nobody upsets you or they'll have him to deal with - so many possibilities!

 

[Always Ali]

Wow, what an eye opening thread, it has amazed me how widespread this issue is!! I was bullied for two years at the age of 12/14 and have never felt so lonely in all my life. My hell started all because I sat in "their" seat on the school bus and was more psychological than physical bullying (the effects are just the same, possibly worse IMO). It would happen in class, between lessons, on the school bus & on the school minibus to away football matches and I had no escape from it and it only stopped when my parents noticed changes in my behaviour (missing school and very quiet when I got home).

The effects of it stayed with me until I was in my early 30s (45 now) and although I am a very confident person, certain things would give me "flashbacks" and it would piss me off & make me quite angry that these Wankers had pretty much ruined a couple of years of my life. I gave one of them a slap in the last year of school but never really got what I would consider closure.

As for the OP, I can empathise with you mate because I still see one of these bastards around (he is a right thick, gormless twat) but it still reminds me of that time of my life and while I do not get wound up any longer it still sits at the back of my mind. It will take a lot of balls on your part to go, but I think you should so and have a great time, just try and avoid being in isolation with them if you detect any snide comments/looks from them.

 

[BezzMCFC]

piss in their drinks

 

[Ancient Citizen]

An absolute truth is that bullies, without exception are always, always cowards. I remember a lad at school, a mate of mine who lived nearby, had his younger brother badly beaten up by a bullying twat 3 years older than him when he had just arrived at our school. This was a serious mistake as Dave, my mate was an angry bastard at the best of times, with a fierce reputation, unknown to the bully, and despite being younger (14 v 15 which is a big difference at that age), confronted him, lashed out, flattened him, then proceeded to kick the shit out of him on the floor, until getting dragged off by a teacher.
This lad forever afterwards was meek as a kitten, with half his teeth missing, and it was the most satisfying thing I have seen. Do it to them by whatever means and the problem disappears.

 

[ali benarbia's studs]

steel toe capped boots and a solid kick to the nuts followed by a few "swifties"....that will learn them.

just kidding mate-whats in the past is in the past..... if the slagging starts revert to the above! ;)