Close relatives you no longer speak to?

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Just wondering how common this is out there because among people I know in the real world it seems shockingly common or at least more common than it was decades ago.
Me and my parents haven't spoken to my brother for 4 years [long story but basically money is at the root of it] and it's quite likely they will depart this plane without seeing him again. They don't seem that bothered 'cos he has turned into quite a nasty piece of work.
 
Sometimes in life you are better off without certain people and this is still the case even if it is a parent or a sibling.
We do not choose our relatives as children however you can make that choice as an adult.
 
I cut most of my family off as they are all take take take and it is only-way with them.. fuck that shit don't need the hassle.

Me and my missus are happy.
 
No spoken to older sister and her husband for about 3 years and not spoken to her son and daughter for 10 years
 
At the end of the day you can't choose your family and why should you accept the crap just because they are blood related? there is many definitions of family (as The Fast and Furious franchise shows)
 
Belated brother's wife decided to avoid contact with my parents and has manipulated the kid's mind. My parents haven't seen their grand son since his funeral nearly 8 years a go. Lovely family!
 
Being related doesn't mean having to put up with cunts. If a person has a negative impact on your life then that person should be cut out of it related or not.
 
Not spoken to my mum for 15yrs,got tired of emotional blackmail,my brothers felt the same although one is helping her out now
We write now and again.She is 85 now so it's a shame,we are on opposite sides of the country and neither can travel anyway so i won't see her again,she never turned into the mum i always hoped she would
 
My brother has decided that me not wanting to take sides in a dispute between him and my dad shows a lack of loyalty or so it seems. He hasn't spoken to me for about 3 years.

I suspect there's more to it than that though and he hasn't got the courage to continue our relationship in case he upsets someone else.
 
Due to my wife and my sister in law not getting on, me and my brother hardly ever spoke for almost 25 years. We came together at family gatherings, and swapped cards, but that was about it.

My wife died in June 2010, and I was very surprised to see them at the Crem. It took that tragedy to get us talking again. We started phoning each other regularly, and occasionally visiting.

I came back from holiday last May, to be told by him that he had been diagnosed with terminal cancer, but had "chickened out" of telling me. I saw him several times after that, but he died in July, with me at his bedside.

It's got us talking again. My eldest nephew now speaks to his cousins - in fact, my youngest daughter starts work for one of his companies this week!

And my favourite song that reminds me of this is.............
 
If a 'friend' did something to hurt you, you'd fuck them off no problem - why should this not apply just because someone is blood? You don't get to choose your family, unfortunately.
 
I don't see a great deal of my siblings, unlike my wife who's sisters live closer. Not bothered either way but look at my two boys, 16 and 14 who get on as well as can be expected, and hope that they always have each other. I know life doesn't work out like that but can't help feeling how sad it would be watching them as children if they grew apart. But having said that I don't feel emotionally tied to mine even though we have a shared past.
 
My dad and his brother didn't speak for around ten years, which was weird for me as my uncle was the reason I started supporting City when I was six. Their falling out left me isolated within the family in a footballing sense, although I thrived on that if truth be told.

They reconciled well before my uncle died in 2012. I'm glad he got to see us win the league. If it wasn't for him, god knows how I'd have ended up.
 
I find it strange that people can fall out with close family and not speak again. I think that no matter what happened I would always let bygones be bygones when it comes to family. Lifes too short as some of the posts in this thread highlight.
 
True_Blue69 said:
I find it strange that people can fall out with close family and not speak again. I think that no matter what happened I would always let bygones be bygones when it comes to family. Lifes too short as some of the posts in this thread highlight.
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That's quite a naive post. Should Ryan Giggs' brother let bygones be bygones? Should kids who were abused by their parents let bygones be bygones? Sometimes people have perfectly good reasons for not wanting any contact with close family.
 
There's this fella, and he used to be a professional footballer. These days, he just sits on a red comfy chair, and doesn't move or talk to anyone. Anyway, I heard that he once held his brother's wife's hand at a party, and now the brothers don't talk anymore. Don't know how true it is. Probably just tittle-tattle.
 
karen7 said:
Not spoken to my mum for 15yrs,got tired of emotional blackmail,my brothers felt the same although one is helping her out now
We write now and again.She is 85 now so it's a shame,we are on opposite sides of the country and neither can travel anyway so i won't see her again,she never turned into the mum i always hoped she would
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Will you attend her funeral mate?

RandomJ said:
Being related doesn't mean having to put up with cunts. If a person has a negative impact on your life then that person should be cut out of it related or not.
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This. Feck playing happy families with cunts.
 
A member of our family died recently and everyone in the funeral from the family was crying, sobbing etc saying how great he was.. yet when he was alive they didn't bother with him (he must've been so lonely on his own with his down and out "friends"), lived in the same City.. I was told they also use to avoid him in town if they saw him.. yet when he dies they are all there with tears etc.. so transparent ! maybe if you bothered with him he would still be here.. he had a drug problem (unrelated death but doesn't help).

I basically told them to feck off and they was all crying, paying for the funeral etc out of guilt as they wasn't there for him when he was alive ! I got cut off but I believe I'm right so feck em !!
 
Malty said:
Will you attend her funeral mate?



This. Feck playing happy families with cunts.
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I can't travel for a 14hr round trip so the answer will be no and i will be very upset about that
She doesn't believe i am too ill and disabled to get home even though i would love to go home,i adore cornwall,she told me if you can't be bothered to come and see me when i'm alive don't bother when i'm dead,about sums her up that comment
 
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